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Hetero Male Dominant, 43,  Fredericksburg, Virginia
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Females or transwomen ONLY. That's just who I am personally. Also, I am not here to entertain your fantasies all day with the what would you do to me scenario. You should be willing to offer up something as well, I took the time to write this and share my pics. The least you can do is the same.
Thus, I seek conversation, friends and partner willing to help me learn the interaction aspects.
Mostly I am looking for a partner in life. The Domination and control will come through a relationship developed with mutual respect properly. The partner I seek: Domme: I am not your slave, I have no desire to be such. However, any slave you or I accept must pass muster by both of our consent. Switch: Best to go with the flow I guess but I have even less experience with a switch partner. Sub: The better I understand you before going into a relationship and the better we will both be as to whether we will have a mutually benifitial relationship.
I try to always be a good man you can depend upon and respect.
Looking to meet a female partner in to high heels as well, other fetishes we will explore together.
Fetishes discussed in further conversation but poop, blood, and heavy pain are not among my interests. Orientation Bi/Straight, Domme/sub/switch not important but our relationship will be. Photo is required, I no longer have time to waste with people who can't honestly represent themselves as they are now.
Very interested in hearing what Domme females have to say about controlling females subs from their point of view as well.
The last couple pics are some of my interests and no I have not put any action shots of myself up here. I do like spanking you, keep your fingers out of my ass unless directed which wont happen, I have tasted the waters of a bottom for Transsexuals a couple times, didn't make my toes curl, didn't get excited, and it felt exactly like having a large object shoved up my ass. So, I found out through trial and error that I'm not gay and I enjoy bottoming with a transexual much more on video, good to know. However, if I offer this to you then you better take it as one helluva a gesture as I know you want it and I am willing to satisfy your need because I think highly of you as a person. I love women that enjoy squirting or want to try to squirt, yes I enjoy women doing golden showers a lot, I want to learn more about Shibari (doing you), mental domination (doing you), vacuum stimulation (doing you), teaching her to dome other women (switch is ok), definitely her dominating sissies and transsexuals, possibly keeping one personally for ourselves that's worthy to serve and love us for a LTR. Yes I seem greedy, I know.
PS - My Journal is so far out of date.











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Journal Entries:
1/22/2014 8:09:48 PM

And that woman I met that I mentioned earlier is cool but that's starting to look like it'll be a very vanilla relationship as more and more time goes by. Still need to tell her the truth about my heart though so, we'll see.


I still think she'll be a good friend though.

1/22/2014 8:07:59 PM

What am I looking for? My profile pretty much sum's that up but it does seem to be evolving a little bit at a time as I discover more and more about myself.?


I want a WOMAN first and?foremost, I want to find a woman to be my special woman for life if you will. I would love her to be into a lot of the things I'm in to for commonality of interests but also my best friend, my lover, my Wife (eventually), and my partner in life (for goals and direction). I know that's actually asking a lot of one individual but I learned the hard way about settling from my last marriage. Now don't get me wrong, I can feel the possibility of a LTR from just meeting. I am?spontaneous?but I want her to be willing to actually be just as willing as I am to put in the effort to making it work with me and my faults. I'm stubborn, hard?headed, a dreamer, driven, and sometimes I even get depressed (but that doesn't happen often).?


But the biggest draw back is that I know in my heart that I'm no longer?solely?vanilla if you will also. I have kinks and fetish's that I can not deny and I refuse to deny because I know they will?eventually?damage any relationship I get involved in where they are not?acknowledged?and accepted?completely. Hence why I'm here on CM. I have a flickr profile and a profile on as well but here is where I feel most comfortable.


As for what those kinks and interests are, well here goes; I love women and?transsexuals, I love women more for a LTR but I'm not against it with a?transsexual?either but I do want an woman first and?foremost?as I see that relationship as being the best for me in the long run right now for family. I want to grow?myself?but I want a woman that's looking to grow as well, not one that thinks she is good to go. And I mean that from the heart, she has to know that as a part of her core?personality?of who she is inside. I have a big thing sexually and non sexually with women in high heels, I don't want to wear them but Damn! I love seeing her in them all the time. I am reasonable in understanding that this is not always possible because many women find them uncomfortable for extended wear. I am a dominant type male, I want to hear what you think because as my woman your opinion is very important to me but at the end of the day you have to understand that I WILL make the?decision, but sometimes I want to see you make the decision on your own too. Because I have to know that you not only have a brain but I can trust you to step up when necessary. That's a big thing for me because I have goals and dreams that I haven't realized yet and I fully plan to before I retire. I must be able to depend on her to filling the gaps. I also want her to be educated, if not then want to get educated because (an yes I believe this totally) a mind is a terrible thing to waste, and I see to many doing that in the world today. Size to a point is not a problem, when it's a health risk then something needs to be done. Don't complain, I am more than willing to help physically, mentally, and emotionally. No I am not in the best of physical shape but I'm working on that to get back to my Navy shap. Also not a side dig at you personally just how I feel about the subject, I actually do love BBW women too. I just want you to be healthy to survive as long as possible with me at my side at the end of the day. I want her to be comfortable in her body now and in the future no matter what she looks like. I don't have time for self defeating drama.?


I don't believe in excuses, I try hard everyday not to have any. Because it's to easy in life to make them and then easier to live within and by them to hold yourself back. I don't do Poop, Kiddy porn, women under 28 are not my style, blood, needles, knives (they are weapons not toys), fire (that's a tool or a weapon), extreme pain (don't understand people that need to be?subjugated?to that), public humiliation (minor?humiliation?for play privately I will do), NO I am not going to come kidnap you to make you mine when I don't know who you really are because your fantasy is to have a man find you and track you down and




you to make you his permanently [WTF!]), while I can play well with others you are my woman and I don't share well?indiscriminately?so that won't happen often, while I like sissies to Transsexuals I don't do hairy men in panties and heels, I don't have time for men that want to partially or wholly dress up as a woman and not actually try to be a woman either (but a small few have?managed?to look hot enough to get my kock stirring), Diapers - Hell No (see poop comment above again), beating you for no reason other than I like it is not my thing either even with Total Property Exchange (after all, your supposed to be precious to me above all other things then why would I damage you, even if your my property, that's just damn stupid. I'd be no better than an animal), No Animals! (I've watched a bit of that porn but doesn't mean I want to do any of that stuff), *this is getting long huh?*?

6/12/2013 10:36:00 PM
Finally met a woman on here with sweet long legs and a sense of humor. See where this leads.

6/9/2013 2:07:18 PM

These are some words I shared with a good sub looking for her Master in life, she was feeling down a bit at the time about her search. I thought I'd share them here to help other sub's keep their heads up and stay the course in their search as well. 


Don't let the scrubs and wannabe's get you down. Their are many pretenders not only here but in the world today. Many times I think we're becoming soft as a people, that may be why I don't have 6000 friends. Any man who has to resort to degrading you because he's upset you wont play his game is definitely not worth your time as a Master and could have never satisfied or taken care of you as a Master should.  That's one of those times when your better off without. There are good men out there and there are good Masters out there as well.

5/26/2013 10:38:15 PM

Beyond the one night stand thing now, I've heard enough to make a decision that I'm not interested in such beyond any sub willing to assist me in improving my general physical skills with bring about orgasm. 

Outside of that all conversation should be about the lifestyle, saftey concerns when roping or taping an individual up. Still looking in to other interests within the lifestyle as well, I've also discovered that I can do the spanking and caine but I do not desire to inflict great damage to your body. I view my sub as precious and just can't see that as good personally. Have to see more where this really goes.

5/13/2013 7:29:16 PM

The more I find out the more a one night stand scenario is out of the question. This involves commitment to be real as well as towards longevity of a relationship. Maybe I can find some more videos for training.


Thanks for the insight SweetiePieSub.

5/13/2013 12:26:03 AM

I've watched several video's an still find myself aroused watching women sensually spanked, teased, tied up, even the nipple play appeals to me. I can see the pain is tolerable for them but the pleasure they derive is intense. I want to make my woman have screaming orgasms too. But, at the same time I don't really want to stop at the bedroom either.

But, I can't fathom how these actions and beliefs can be taken lightly. I clearly see the level of trust and respect involved. Is it possible to do this life with one night stands, I have serious doubts about that. So how do I hone my skills to become a good Master? 

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