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Hetero Female Mistress, 41,  Virginia
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Oh what a life!.. I wouldnt trade it for anything. Its WIITWD that makes it so great. Im looking for a long term sub partner. I said "long term" not long distance. he must be trustworthy, over 40, fit, intelligent, and oh so obedient. If you are in VA or NC lets talk.
** must have cam for proof of identity""

“Associate with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone than in bad company.”











 Dominant Female


 5' 7"

 300 lbs



 African Descent



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Male

 Lives For:

 Coffee Shops  (Expert)

 Fine Dining (Expert)

 Anal Play (Expert)

 Begging (Expert)

 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Body Worship (Expert)

 Massage (Getting) (Expert)

 Obedience Training (Expert)

 Orgasm Denial (Expert)

 Queening (Expert)

 Role Playing (Expert)

 Strap-Ons (Expert)

 Cooking (Expert)

 Herbalism (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Philosophy (Expert)

 Psychology (Expert)

 Writing (Expert)

 Female Supremacy (Expert)

 Lifestyle BDSM (Expert)



 Collars (Expert)

 Spanking (Expert)

 Web Surfing (Expert)


 Local BDSM Community (Expert)


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Journal Entries:
11/27/2010 6:57:40 PM

If someone is happily married they would not be on collarme advertising... Stop lying to yourself!

8/8/2010 3:21:27 PM
.....Runs finger nails down  black chalk board........

4/12/2010 4:08:47 PM
“Associate with men of good  
quality if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be  
than in bad company.”

3/29/2010 7:31:32 PM
Each road you take maybe precise but  the route itself has its own price.

I thought I had it all figured out!..I really did.

3/21/2010 11:53:01 AM
I just cant do the vanilla scene anymore...Ive tired...  I know where My heart is and where a man is suppose to be  in My life... and thats at my feet

3/7/2010 10:48:23 AM
I get a chuckle out of some of the profiles by "submissive" males here on cm.. They write how they want to be "used " and bound and gagged and turned into sluts by beautiful dominant women.
Well hell what man wouldnt want that?
But... we beautiful dominant women are looking for males to submit to all our "wants" too.. like changing the oil in our car and giving us full pedicures  while waiting for our nails to dry....smiles

2/4/2010 2:58:29 AM
Do not mistake My kindness for My weakness. So many have and where has it gotten them?
Do you really know what BDSM stands for? Make sure you do because its a waste of time on both parties when one doesnt understand the lifestyle. Its sooo much more than whips and chains and roles played out.

11/9/2009 6:30:36 PM
What is a slub?
My definition is one whose half way between being a slave and a submissive. And they do exist. Sometimes circumstances beyond a submissive's life inhibits them to be a total slave but they have slave tendencies. They are  submissive the majority of the time but under certain circumstances takes on slave characteristics.
So are you a slave, submissive, or slub?

11/8/2009 5:36:00 PM
The life  
force is responsive to thoughts and feelings. It becomes disrupted  
when we accept, either consciously or unconsciously, negative  
thoughts or feelings about ourselves. These negative thoughts  
and feelings attach themselves to the energy field and cause a  
disruption in the flow of life force. This diminishes the vital  
function of the organs and cells of the physical body.

If you are into Reiki.. lets talk

10/27/2009 5:38:38 PM

10/16/2009 5:02:43 AM
I just realized that some people are disliked because they are fake... And some people(like Myself) who are real are disliked as well..interesting.

10/11/2009 6:22:45 PM

A Woman was taking a walking one snowy winter's night when She almost stepped on what She thought was a  tree branch in the middle of the road.  But upon taking a closer look She discovered it was a frozen snake.

The Woman picked the frozen snake up and took him home and warmed the snake by Her fire.  The snake started to wiggle and come back to life.  Excitedly, the Woman went into the kitchen and brought back a bowl of milk for the snake. As She sat the bowl of milk down the snake hissed and then bit the Woman!
The Woman jumped back in total shock and said,"I brought you in from the cold and warmed you by my fire and brought you milk to drink  why did you bit me??"
The snake raised his head up and hissed sticking out his tongue and told the Woman, "you knew I was a snake when you  took me in!

10/4/2009 6:52:52 AM
Yesterday, I was reading the message board and viewing a few profiles as I normally do when a *submissive* sent Me this......
Dear BlackVADomme,

Thank you for writing, but, since I am a swimmer, I am looking for an athletically toned partner.

        With regard,


I never wrote this person and told him so and it was clear that he wanted to attack Me and my weight. he sent this email to  Me 4 times after I logged off!:

 You probably will never realize how much I want to respond, in ignorant kind, to your distended remarks...but hold myself back, not to place within your mind, and put out into the world, more of the animal nature that your cerebral-less mind lets drool out of your, obvious, gluttonous mouth and instintive responses. You, of all people should refrain from commenting about other's weight...especially when you are asking people to bestow favors on a body that is, both, unttractive to most normal people, and has been abused to the incredible tune of 300 lbs., as yours has.

I wrote out an instinctive response, in line with the ignorance of yours to me, but deleted it, not to throw myself into the wallowing mud of life out of which you seem to draw your daily sustenance.  

And he calls me ignorant. These are the type of people that gives CollarMe a bad name. Verbally attacking a person for viewing their profile. It seems to ME that  if he was all that he wouldn't be advertising on a personals site. A man of such great caliber as he  should have women falling at his feet!. What an idiot!
My feelings were not hurt at all. I laugh at so called intelligent submissives like that!

9/19/2009 1:12:56 PM
*...what could I possibly get out of online domination?  DO NOT ASK Me to humiliate, train, or use you online.

8/10/2009 6:34:27 AM
Sometimes a little outside advice can help a marriage get better.
From a married submissive male to Me yesterday
With permission from the author :

Robert (8/9/2009 11:25:05 AM): I really need to thank you. you are probally the best thing that has happened to my marriage. Before you i was reallly ready to go out and cheat.....

8/4/2009 6:32:52 AM

* note: If you are a submissive/slave please think about what  you say and how you approach a Domme/Dom before you speak your first word or type your first sentence. A first impression is a lasting one! But that falls under protocol

6/13/2009 1:43:40 AM
There's just something so erotic, wicked, enticing, alluring, succulent,magnetic, appealing,  delicious, arousing, and stimulating...... about feminizing a straight man.

6/11/2009 5:44:28 AM
Well, Thank you to those for the nice welcome back! Im seeing some new faces and some familiar ones.
Theses days I have been mentoring and teaching the lifestyle to those serious minded folks. But Im NOT back on CM looking for new "students". Just looking for like mined people to discuss the the ups and downs and the highs and woes of being in non vanilla relationships.

I would like to also thank those near and far who have offered their "services" to Me in just the 2 days that I have been back on But realistically, No one can serve someone continuously thousands of miles away. SO, lets save My time and some of yours. If you are thousands of miles away LTR/RL service is out of the question.
Im located in Virginia and Im NOT relocating for anyone.
Ok Girls and boys have a great and safe summer of play!

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