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Im in it for the lulz and the groans! Poly, fluffy, strong.
I should point out that while I most certainly lean towards Top, Im by no means a cocksure bull or Alpha when beginning to meet someone. Nothing against these types, I just personally need to get to know a person before I can be comfortable letting that part of me off its leash. That said, when I am comfortable with someone, its all hair-pulling, king, slapping, etc. I have no problem turning that switch on once trust is established. But I generally carry myself as quite vanilla when not in scene.
What Im looking for a good question, and worth an explanation. I am in a poly relationship and love my partner. I am not a cheater. As a pair of switches, we do not have conventions for controlling each others other relationships, and I would not want it that way. I love the person Im with as hard as I can when Im with them, but you may not be the only person in my life. If you cant be okay with that, then lets be friends or simply play partners and leave it at that. I dont buy into hierarchical poly structures personally - I believe that marginalizing a new relationship as secondary is harmful to the healthy development of that relationship. I like to know my metamours when its appropriate, since theres no upper-limit on support and care one can receive.
Ive recently started exploring an interest in play parties. The one thing I think Im pretty sure about, at least for now, is that if someone wants to play with me, theyre going to have to approach me about it. Part of this is that I am very aware of being the new guy and not wanting to come off as an untoward creeper, and part is simply not being sure how to break that ice. I am in -no- rush to jump into anything, and am perfectly content making friends and socializing until the right connection, comfort, and trust are forged. I am meeting some amazing people, and thats far more important than play for me.
Lastly, I am a long-game thinker. Dont expect me to be anywhere near as eloquent in person as I am in my writing.
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