Life is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to be lived.

That's the nature of it and has been since the beginning when God set the dangerous stage for this high stakes drama and called the whole wild enterprise good. He rigged the world in such a way that it only works when we embrace risk as the theme of our lives, which is to say, only when we live by faith. A man just won't be happy until he's got adventure in his work, in his love and in his spiritual life.

Now ask yourself the right question.

Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive!

Are you living a script written for you by someone else? Have you been asking the world to tell you what to do with yourself? I don't mean seeking counsel or advice that is different; what you have been wanting is freedom from responsibility and especially freedom from risk. Have you wanted someone else to tell you who to be? Thank God it doesn't work that way. The scripts you have been handed in the past are usually short lived because they never fit correctly. Can a world of posers tell you to do anything but pose yourself? As Buechner says, we are in constant danger of being not actors in the drama of our lives but reactors, "to where the world takes us, to drift with whatever current happens to be running the strongest."

Now ask yourself the right question and go find a life worth living!

Excerpts from the book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldridge

My Favorite book of all time.

To all Our friends and acquaintances;

My girl and I have decided after much deliberation that we are going to part ways and go our seperate paths due largely in part to our family obligations and requirements. Our contract with each other has just recently expired and so we are not going to renew it. 
We have great love and respect for each other but it doesn't work out in our timing right now in terms of what we both need to do. We are both very sad but happy to have known each other and the great times we had together for these past 12 months. 
We are both moving forward; she will remain in Kennesaw and I will return to Chattanooga full time. 

She is a great gal and will make some lucky guy a great submissive/slave, thanks largely in part to me and my training, LOL I couldn't resist had to toot my own horn!  The truth of it is we have both learned a great deal from each other and I wish her all the best.

I have to say that I am at a loss; I made a feeble attempt yesterday to start blogging again on a regular basis using this site instead of others I have used in the past. It used to be so easy I had so much to say and yesterday as well as today nothing seems to be flowing like it used to. I believe it may be a result of some recent dissapointments I have had, but, that has NEVER held me back before.

I wanted to relate an experience we have had recently at a House Party we attended with mostly Vanilla people present; there is a clear dichotomy that exists within our relationship; on one side we appear as a normal couple to the "Vanilla" world but as we get better acquainted with these people they perceive our relationship very differently than we do as we reveal bits and pieces of ourselves and expose our D/s side, you can see the lack of understanding in their eyes. I do not believe that the majority of the "Vanilla" crowd can undertsand what D/s is all about. You would think that more people would at least be open minded to other peoples choices especially this particular crowd we were with, however; that doesn't seem to be the case. Our relationship was questioned and in not so many words we were told (actually my sub) was told she should not subject herself to such demands. That in and of itself is, in my opinion, downright disrespectful to the both of us. I would never dream of telling someone I just met how they should live their life, would you? I do believe they are entitled to their opinion; but they should keep it to theirself unless asked. You can ask questions to seek answers would be the correct way to go about it, not try and tell someone what they should be doing with thier life choices. I will probably continue to associate with these people because I believe that you have to lead by example. This is especially true for the True Dominants of this "World" and we come in many forms; we are not all lifestyle D/s, however we all bear the same responsibility, to be the bigger person to accept and care for our fellow man to help everyone in some way even though it might be the smallest thing, because it can still make a difference in someones life. (I do have to add the fact that the Dominant aggressive side of me wants nothing more to do with these people, my anger did rise, because my nature is such that NO ONE is going to tell me or my submissive anything!!) I am human after all with all the imperfections we all possess (wait did I just admit I'm not perfect? LOL) If I were to keep this anger and show it, what would this accomplish? absolutely nothing is what it would do for the benefit of their education or acceptance and ultimately to create a better friendship instead of an enemy. Anger is the easy way out, a cop out in my opinion, but to contain oneself and see past the obvious things so that you can create a better understanding for all is always the tougher road to take but, OH SO WORTH IT!
Always remember; a brain is like a parachute it works better when it's open.

LDB (aka Lover Dom B)

Do you ever ponder why you are the way you are? What occurred in your life over the years to mold you to the person you are today?
I have always pondered; I can remember from a very early age things that happened either to me or in my life that started me on this journey to BDSM. First and foremost women have always been the core attraction for me; how wonderfully feminine and dainty they can be, and sooo damn sexy and sultry, slutty and bitchy LOL. I have always wanted to be the one to rescue the beauty; the hero with his heroine wisking her away from danger only to ravage her with my lust and make her conform to my desires until we are both completely spent. Where does this desire come from, why do I have all of these wonderfully sexy kinky things in my head? 
I think it starts with who we are as MEN and when I say MEN I mean a true Man of integrity, A dominant force to be reckoned with. A MAN knows who he is and what he stands for; he is not some sniveling, weak, political, passive aggressive, who doesn't know how to lead, type. A true MAN is Dominant by nature; just because a guy has a penis and can father a child doesn't make him a MAN. MEN are wild by nature; but society has tried to tame that in us and make us this sanitized safe wimpy pussy whipped guy you see on televison all the time from commercials to sitcoms. Why do women like the Wild stupid guys that are out there? Becasue they are the only evidence of any manliness still left in the world. We were meant to be WILD to fight for the beauty to hunt for our food to protect our families. I believe in God & Creation (science is proving it all the time) and if you read Genesis; you will see MAN (Adam) was made outside of the Garden of Eden, Eve his helpmate was made in the Garden after God blessed Eden and gave it to Adam to tend. 
I believe in a greater power and the hiearchy that has long been established; We MEN must lead, we must show integrity, diligence, honor. Care for our children and not abandon them as so many dead beat dads do! I could go on and on but I won't, what I will say is a TRUE Dom knows how to tend to his responsibilites and care for those that trust him, that depend on him, who look to him for guidance. Yes this lifestyle can be a wonderful fantasy and it's very fun to pretend and play, but what happens when you have to get back to reality?  Why do women long for their hero, their Dom, so much? It is because they lack their soulmate, their leader, the man of integrity who will lead them and love them and even punish them for the right reasons in the correct manner.  more on this later....