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Hetero Male Dominant, 62,  Albuquerque, New Mexico
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Im wasting a bit more time on CS lately so it is time to clean up the profile. Lets get the triggers out of the way now time to exit the stupid and angry is strong here lets ignore that ok? If you are a ngry at the world, I'll take a pass, I don't owe you anything neither does the world

I have HSV2 ie genital herpes, I am poly, I am a sadist, I pun, I dont give a shit about grammar, punctuation or spelling as long as the meaning is relatively easy to infer. But, I do find a robust vocabulary comes in handy from time to time. i am fully vaxed. if thats a trigger gor youvthen quit wasting your time here. I'm not a big fan of exclusionary practices. I'd much rather answer questions than guess or shoot from the hip

I play on occasion but have no time for a relationship right now. Im not looking. Im here for entertainment, to learn perspective, develope my knowledge and skills plus talking with like minded people. To wit perverts. i wouldnt mind starting to my poly family

As the profile here suggests, i am actively seeking only interesting friends and masochists but am open to the unplanned unexpected. Yes, the pictures on my profile are of my handy work. I have deleted pictures of myself in the interests of safety. I will share those privately. If this is a problem, keep moving.

I love providing aftercare as much as i love extreme play. I take care of my toys. One of my play partners describes me as FunScary. I take my responsibilities seriously. I do want to hurt but i also want them coming back and (after a period of healing) healthy.

An important question i get asked is whether or not i smoke after sex. Not usually but i do keep a bucket of water nearby just in case.

Im a moderate to heavy sadist. I also have Daddy inclinations if the subs personality is right. I enjoy dominating strong submissives. I find it amusing that there is an assumption among many subs that a daddy cant be a real sadist. Silly girls. That having been said i do adjust to whom i am playing with. I have never found a play partner that could take all that i could give out. Im told i have a heavy hand but apparently it is applied well. While not required, aftercare can be as good as the beating for me.

Yes, I do have experience and enjoy a generally favorable reputation in the local lifestyle community.

I prefer being in your head. Haunting you. Nurturing you. I garden and have cats. My workshop is my refuge and nature heals my soul. The Buddhists have a saying, you cant step in the same river twice. So it is with me.

Humans are the only animal known to display friendship and pleasure by baring their teeth.

I am Not into little play, princesses, blood (but if it happens it happens) scat, twerking, sports or micro managing.

I am open to friendship with all people regardless of their kink if we can find common ground or interests. Want to get my attention in a positive way? Stimulate my intellect or curiosity. If you love things like astronomy, philosophy or cryptocurrencies lets talk! Likewise with woodworking, gardening and paleontology. You will see in my list of interests almost everything i have listed myself as a beginner. That is because i attempt to keep myself in beginner mind as much as possible. If you know what beginner mind is then we already have things to talk about.

I Might train. Might protect. Might mentor. If you are not sure of the difference, ask. I also love to learn. You can find out more about me here sfetlife.comusers2336047 Fair winds












 Dominant Male


 New Mexico

 6' 1"

 300 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Switch Women


A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Canes and Crops (Beginner)

 Being Massaged (Expert)

 Erotic touch (Beginner)

 Historical Shows


 Intellectual Discourse

 Liberal Politics

 New Age Music



 Amusement Parks

 Beachcombing (Beginner)


 Anal Play (Beginner)

 Bondage (Beginner)

 Breast Play (Beginner)

 You wearing my collar (Beginner)

 Hair Pulling (Beginner)

 Humiliation (Beginner)

 Sensation Play (Beginner)

 Public Play (Beginner)

 You wearing stockings

 Board Games

 Card Games

 Web Surfing (Expert)

 Alternative Medicine







 Alternative Music

 New Wave


 Rock Music

 Seventies Music



 Art Galleries

 Bird Watching (Beginner)

 Coffee Shops (Expert)

 Fine Dining



 Volunteerism (Beginner)



 Horseback Riding

 Begging (Beginner)

 Blindfolding you (Beginner)

 Corner Time (Beginner)

 Exhibitionism (Beginner)

 G-spot Stimulation (Beginner)

 Local BDSM Community (Beginner)

 Erotic Hypnosis (Beginner)

 Gags (Beginner)

 Placing you on a leash (Beginner)

 Masks on Partner (Beginner)

 Massage (Giving) (Beginner)

 Mental Bondage (Beginner)

 Munches (Beginner)

 Objectification (Beginner)

 Orgasm Control (Beginner)

 Spanking you (Beginner)

 Vibrators (Beginner)

 Whips (Beginner)



 Science Fiction


 Photography (Beginner)

 Pottery (Beginner)

 Sculpting (Beginner)

 Biology (Beginner)

 Chemistry (Beginner)


 Nutrition (Beginner)

 Political Activism (Beginner)


 Veganism (Beginner)

 Blue Grass


 Classical Music




 Antique Shows (Beginner)

 Flea Markets

 Going to the Opera (Beginner)

 Musical Theater (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires (Beginner)

 SCA (Beginner)





 Enemas (Beginner)

 Role Playing

 Online Chatrooms


 TV News


 Meditation (Beginner)




 Paranormal Phenomena



 Country Music

 Heavy Metal Music




 Auto Racing

 Curious About:



 Body Worship (Beginner)

 Corsetry (Beginner)

 Eye Contact Restrictions (Beginner)

 Medical fetish play

 Modern Primitivism (Beginner)

 Obedience Training (Beginner)

 Outdoor Bondage (Beginner)

 Vacuum Stimulation (Beginner)

 Watersports (Beginner)

 Wax Play (Beginner)

 Puzzle Games

 Aromatherapy (Beginner)


 Lifestyle BDSM



 Working Out

 Electronica / EDM

 Industrial Music






 Bar Hopping

 Clubbing (Beginner)

 Gambling (Beginner)




 Romance Novels

 True Crime

 Conservative Politics

 Libertarian Politics



 Female Sovereignty



 Eighties Music

 Opera Music


 Pop Music


 Show Tunes



 Latter-day Saints




 Body Building


 Hard Limits:


 TV Sports

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Journal Entries:
6/19/2022 12:21:50 PM

I'm surprised and dissapounted over the number of "subs"and "slaves" that seem to only have an account to fleece suitors of whatever they can. Approach with caution it seems scams in collarspace.  It's that really a surprise?  In our modern culture that seems to be a norm. Be safe

4/27/2022 10:06:28 AM

Once agion I am reminded that "Werner Heisenberg — ‘Not only is the Universe stranger than we thinkit is stranger than we can think. so there is hope

1/7/2018 6:28:55 PM
One of the greatest secrets to happiness is the willingness to be happy combined with acceptance.

1/6/2018 6:13:36 PM
I often wish there was a "like" button here of profiles and journals. I enjoy reading through profiles and learning about others and myself but usually i have no plan or wish to go further. Yet i wish there was a simple way to send my appreciation without writing a message that will likely be interpreted as a come on or might even not be welcome for other reasons. Ce la vie

11/29/2017 3:44:47 PM
Weilding power is easy. We all do it but coming to grips with it and not just the fun aspects is what makes the kind of Dom i strive to be. I am learning to navigate the china shop without breaking anything. Not always easy. But sublime when i succeed.

11/23/2017 7:25:28 AM
Just because you dont have the same vulnerabilities that they do dont mean you are "stronger". You simply have avoided your vulnerabilities, while they play or live with theirs.

11/4/2017 4:31:15 PM
I wouldnt mind torturing someone right now.

10/4/2014 9:37:22 AM
Sometimes it's not about forgiveness. Sometimes it's needing to know the people close to you aren't going to keep you off-balance at a time when stability is an absolute must for you.

10/20/2013 7:47:37 PM

So many scammers here!  At least they are easy to spot.


A good weekend.  Got some down time with friends and alone.  Sometimes that's as good as it gets.

10/19/2013 12:36:14 PM

I wouldn't mind finding a few more older subs here.  All the new users around here seem to be kids.

5/7/2013 9:24:53 PM

She got that mink the same way minks get minks...

4/28/2013 7:03:26 AM

It's  so interesting to me how much I have to learn and how easily it seems to be coming.  Of course right now it's mostly academic but I have no doubt about my long term development.   Going to pick up more supplies at my favorite place to shop, the hardware store! 

4/21/2013 10:30:04 PM

Dammit!  I just found out a good friend died a few days ago.  A good man.  Good friend.  I cant afford to loose people like that.  Not a good way to start a week.

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