Wow, has it really been a year and a half since I’ve visited here?  Well, I got disillusioned.  The liars; married men who pose as something they are not, and the guys who do not really ‘get’ BDSM and really only want some sort of interactive porn finally got to me.

 I do not see this place as a sex-site.  I see it as a dating-site with a special bent…if you will.  I have met some really neat people here (men and women and Doms and subs and all sorts of mixes of the same), and learned a lot…but I am also interested in meeting a guy with like interests; someone with whom to explore the possibilities of a partnership, should we find we are especially compatible. 

 I would think that persons looking for the same would not find a couple hours of travel time a big deal if we had found, over a couple of weeks of conversation, that we’d like to meet.  Of course, I’m happy to meet half way for that first lunch meeting, too.

 Southern Colorado is beautiful (at least where I live, here in the mountains), and some consider it a lovely destination.  It boggles my mind that someone two hours away would find this distance insurmountable.  Hell, in my mind (considering stalkers, etc.), it could be considered a ‘comfort zone’!     LOL

   Someone last night mentioned “Public Play”…and then this morning there is a thread on the same topic.  This has me thinking…what is ‘public play’?

   To me, public play is involvement with the BDSM community; occasionally attending munches, offering help to newbies, going to demos and discussions to learn more about the psychology or technique of a particular interest.  To me, public play is The Lifestyle.

   I realize some believe playing in public is wearing a collar and leash at Home Depot, or sitting in a restaurant trying to eat a meal, while someone plays with your genitals.  This kind of behavior is not for me.  I hold “Safe, Sane and Consensual” (SSC) close to my heart.  In my world, consensual means agreeing to witness a behavior not found to be objectionable.  In my world, I’m well aware the general public feels much of what we do more than a little objectionable.  No collars, leashes or fetish wear in public for me. 

   In my world, public play does not generally include sex.  Yes, play at a local dungeon among friends is more sexually charged and open than anything found on the streets…but I have never seen really overt sexual behavior.  Once, in a secluded corner away from most of the rest of the folks, I noticed someone engaged in oral sex; fully clothed, I might add.  Still, in a local dungeon, the general public is not in attendance and the place is full of consenting adults.  When I go to such a place I am among people of like minds with regard to BDSM and all the energy and play that go with this lifestyle. 

   To me, public play is a place to learn, to grow, to mature within the lifestyle.  It’s a place to meet people and join friends for an evening; it’s supportive, it’s educational, it’s reaffirming.  Heck, when I go to a dungeon, it's always fun...even if I don't 'scene'. 

It absolutely cracks me up when a guy sends what is obviously a ‘form letter’ and then gets huffy when I call him on it.  It is clear when someone has not read my profile and sends some completely unrelated note to me telling me to contact him on YIM.  Not until I respond does his nic appear in the ‘Who’s Viewing Me’ list; and oddly, the date stamp is AFTER he's sent another note and blocked me!  Too funny!!!