It would be so nice to have a decent conversation with somebody who has read and understands my profile, y'know, the bit that says I am NOT looking for a new Dom or for online training?

Just had a conversation with a Dom, started chatting with me all friendly like - then began quizzing me on my likes and abilities - and when I said I don't like to do something he said "It's about seeing how well train you are! I need to know what you like and what you don't. Be a good girl and we don't get on to the dislike list!"

Sorry, but you don't "need" to know anything of the sort at this stage lovey... when I asked him whether he had read my whole profile, including the bit where I say I am not looking for a new Dom or for online training, he's not answered that and the airwaves have gone all quiet... I wonder why...

So how do I find the words to tell him that I need him - and that I want him to need me too - without coming across all "needy" ? And why do I only occasionally get to see the real man thru the armour that he hides behind? I'm not going to think any the less of him... not going to think that he is weak... I just want him to be true...

Oh FFS - another idiot emailer from Europe who can't be bothered reading my profile which clearly states I already have a Dominant, am not looking for another to replace him and will NOT meet with anyone new either... I guess  it's time to block anyone emailing me from another country...

Where have all the nice guys and girls that I can just talk to gone to?

My kink may not be the same as your kink...  if this applies to YOU and you don't like it then please jog on and find someone else to talk to - don't send me messages that belittle who I am and what I am doing.  

You do not know me or my Sir, you do not know or understand our relationship, and I am sure as hell not going to spell it out to you. It is none of your business. And it is certainly not your place to judge me when you do not know me.

My profile clearly states that I am looking to make new friends for corresponding only. I am NOT currently looking for a new Dom/Domme - apart from to chat with.

What part of this do you not understand???

I love to chat, I enjoy banter and a good bit of verbal sparring, but immediately issuing me with orders and to all intents and purposes threatening me if I don't comply doesn't sound like banter to me.