Like some in this community, I’m married to a vanilla woman – I discovered the dominant in me long after we got married. While I’m ok with that, I decided not to give up on that side of me, just because of life’s vicissitudes. I did not neglect it and, consequently, I am now fairly experienced, although not as experienced as some of the other doms here appear to be.

In the process, I learned a few realities about myself: there are certain things I definitely like and eagerly look forward to doing again (and again); others – not so much. To provide some perspective – the height of ecstasy for me is to see my woman on all fours, me inside her, pulling her hair (or on her reins) with one hand, and hitting her with a crop held in the other. If that picture (or its variants) does not represent something that turns you on almost instantly, we’re not going to be on the same wavelength, unfortunately.

Beyond that, you can probably guess, correctly, that I’m also into spanking, caning, ponyplay and the like. What is important to note, strangely enough (for me, at least), is that all of the above is intended to be carried out in the context of SEX! I cannot for the life of me understand what passes through the mind of man who has on his knees the beautifully reddened ass of a struggling woman and who, after finishing the administration of punishment, calmly gets up, wishes her goodnight and leaves.

There are a few things which I haven’t done (for lack of either opportunity or interest) and some I’m not interested in doing. First, here’s the requisite disclaimer – this list is not intended to insult anyone’s taste or proclivity; I’m generally really liberal/indifferent to almost all practices – it’s just that some are not necessarily exciting to me. With that out of the way, let’s see – never done golden showers, though I don’t mind trying. Not particularly interested in wax although, if you insist, I would have no problem administering it. Not a big fan of leather (other than in whips, floggers, etc…), latex or costumes generally (although I must exclude French maid outfits from this categoryJ) and I’m strangely unmoved by elaborate rope works. I’ve never been part of the Scene although I’m interested. I’m sure you get the gist of it.

And where do you fit in? That should be simple – if you can see yourself as the submissive/slave/whatever in this description, you are my girl! In that case, you know what you have to do.