An epiphany, 

I have recently discovered that just as with the vanilla world there are chasms between men and women in D/s that are so difficult to bridge that it is just easier to forgo the whole thing. I would simply say, please be what you say you are, and to be willing to give that which you want to receive.  There seem to be many that ask for the world from their potential partner, but in return are not willing to give as much.  The fact that you are willing to do a lot of things is not reciprocity.  It is giving that which is as difficult for you to give as what you ask of another.  If you are open sexually that does not make you a great sub, it is when you are willing to let go of that which you most desperately want to hold onto that you are embracing your submission.  Most subs want the thing from a Dom that is the most difficult to give (their heart).  Discipline which comes easy is not a gift, but feeling for one in your charge is monumental...