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Bondage Submissive Looking to be Kidnapped and Trained. I am educated, some college in Web Development. I am Phi Theta Kappa Honor Society alumni (Chapter President for 2 years, Regional President for 1 year), and I enjoy evenings out as well as evenings in. I was in a vanilla relationship for 13 years until my partner passed away suddenly in 2009. Ultimately, I would like to find another LTR someday. I like movies, TV, music, concerts, theater, and festivals. Not a sports fan. Also like to socialize at the bar once in a while. I am very down to Earth and friendly with almost everyone, and I make friends pretty easily. I am a novice bondage sub/boy. I like long-term and short-term tight, restrictive bondage in whatever does the trick for making my body accessible for use. The less I can move, the better I like it. I like to struggle and fight against my bonds, and occasionally resist my DOM/DADDY when he wants a reluctant sub/boy. I love to be blindfolded during the entire session, and gagged unless I am being “forced” to service DOM/DADDY and/or another sub. I am looking for tops that will explore, expand, and respect my limits. I AM INTO: sexual bondage, ass play (no fisting), mild spanking and flogging, light to medium tit torture, mild cock and ball torture, edging, sucking, and being “forced” to suck. I play with a single man, couples, or a small group of males with at least one DOM/DADDY present and in control of the scene. I AM INTERESTED IN EXPLORING: electro, long-term bondage (longer than 3 or 4 hours), sleep sacks, sensory deprivation, long-term mummification, overnight/weekend sessions, wax, and suspension bondage. I am also interested in exploring cages, cells, racks, stocks, and other interesting bondage furniture restraints. HARD LIMITS: Breath Control, any internal body fluid exchange, scat, harsh pain, sounding, cutting, fisting, branding, piercing, drugs of any kind used on me, unsafe sex or bare backing, or vanilla sex. I prefer older men, but that is negotiable. I am not hung-up on looks, but like a guys that takes care of themselves, are clean, DRUG and DISEASE free (as I am, tested 9-29-2012), and trimmed or well-groomed facial hair is a plus. I am a smoker, but I am working on quitting. I use an ecig most of the time to avoid smoking real cigs. Please drop me a message if you are interested in getting together to meet or for play. All pics in this profile are of me. The one with the burgundy shirt and khakis is of me before the weight loss. The one in the black shorts is from Sept 2012.

3/11/2010 11:41:15 AM I am beginning to wonder if I can ever find men who are what I am looking for who are close to the Northeaster part of Maryland. It seems that the ones who find a guy like me interesting enough to consider are either half way across the country or in a different country all together. As a college student, finances, class schedules, and coursework limit my travel ability to travel anywhere that is more than a "day-trip" from my area. This kkeps me within a 2 hour drive time from my area. Also, I noticed that there are not many guys who seem to be even remotely interested in subs who have any hard limits, are around the age of 40, and/or have a little meat on their bones (not that I have not been working hard to change that over the past 4 months). This to me does not say much for my safety or trust in a DOM/TOP. If I cannot trust a DOM/TOP, I cannot feel comfortable turning control over to them.   Since I have just spent the past 13 years with a partner who did not do more than a few minor bondage moves during rare sexual play, I am not experienced in may of the "advanced" things that some DOM/TOPS like to do. I do not handle pain well, never have, and I do not wish to be disfugured in anyway just to make another happy. It is my strong feeling that unless all involved are actually enjoying the scene, it is not a good scene. I cannot allow myself to be involved in scenes that I am not enjoying, even if the DOM/TOP is enjoying them. I would not want a DOM/TOP to participate in a scene where I am the only one who enjoys it. Is it bad manners to as the DOM/TOP to extend the same consideration to me? Does that make me a sorry excuse for a submissive? Or do I have the right to want to have some equality in pleasure in the scene? I do not want to regret allowing the DOM/TOP have control over me. If I leave the scene regretting it, I will not be able to return to that DOM/TOP and allow him control again. And WHY do many DOM/TOPS think that ALL submissives are 100% slaves? I am not interested in 100% service to a DOM/TOP outside of the scene. I like to have an equal public relationship (LTR, friendship, whatever) and only relinquish control in private. I do not want the world to see what I enjoy in my sexual life. My family would have a real issue with it if I came home for the holidays with a guy that I was serving as the slaves did before Lincoln freed them. They are very redneck and would pull out the shotguns to shoot both of us. I am too independant in my ways, and too old to change them, to be someone elses 100% property and be their total slave. I like to do things to please the person I am with, but I also like to spend time doing things that I enjoy as well. If my DOM/TOP does not like my heavy metal concerts, I want to be able to attend them with my brother and give my DOM/TOP some tiome to do something that he may enjoy that I do not. I also want the freedom to pursure my dreams and find a career in the field I have spent the last 5 years studying for, Web Design/Development. It is my dream to one day own my won business and client base. I want to help ensure that the person I am with and myself are free from financial worries when it comes time for us to retire. I do not want him doing it all on his own, and I do not want to be the only one doing it either. I want us to work as partners to make our future together secure. Is it wrong for me to want to work to help my DOM/TOP partner to secure our future together? Is it wrong for me not to want to make sure I am covered should anything happen to my partner and they were either unable to work, or were no longer here to work? I am going through it right now. I am trying to get myself to the point that I can manage my finances and my schoolwork since my partner died. He had nothing but a car that he could leave me, and his mother has to give me that since he did not have a will either. I did not get any insurance money, since he did not have any insurance. All I was left with besides the car were bills that I had to pick up in my name and try to get work to pay for them while I am still trying to finish the last 9 classes I have to complete to earn my degree. I cannot let myself get into another situation like this one again after I get myself out of it. Does this make me a poor example of a good submissive?