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| Things I Need from You as my submissive
I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control.
I need your trust. I don't expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow.
I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I'm not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before.
I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on.
I need you to tell me about your weaknesses or brokenness. If you have triggers or fears, I need to know about them, to avoid them, or help you dispose of them.
I need your honesty. As our relationship grows, I need to know where your mind is going.
I need you to expect consistency. You are going to get the same reactions, expectations, and boundaries today that you got yesterday, or a year before.
I need you to accept gentleness. Sometimes I'm a sadist, and I do that quite well, but at the end of the day it is often more important to me to cover you in tender kisses, or run my hands gently across your soft skin.
I need you to relinquish control. I need you to give it up willingly, and to allow me to coax it away from you when you can't. Giving up control is a voluntary choice: Ultimately, you will either make that choice, or you won't.
I need you to accept praise. In order to accept praise, you must first accept that you are worthy of receiving it. It is my job to provide praise when you deserve it. It is your job to to believe it.
I need you to accept complements. If your self-image causes you to argue and evade when I tell you that you are beautiful, then you are simply negating the statements of someone who likes you enough to find you so, so that you can wallow in the fact that no one is found beautiful by everyone.
I need you to let go of your inhibitions. They are holding you back from understanding your true self, and holding you back from your submission. It's time to embrace sex as the dirty, sweaty, sticky thing that it is. I can lead you to freedom and experiences you've never imagined ...but I can't carry you there kicking and screaming.
I need you to need to learn and grow. Education, learning, and the ability to think clearly are very important to me. Learning never stops. If you don't believe this, we're not going to get along for long.
I need you to to accept being challenged. I do not expect to have a relationship with a passive person, I expect to have a relationship with a strong assertive person. I need you to stand toe to toe with me, because I expect you to be stronger after you interact with me, than before you met me.
I need you to surrender. Though I will lead you, I will never force you. I need you to come along willingly... or not go at all.
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To live, why... The only purpose to live, is to live with the understanding of knowing. Knowing what is your place, what is it that you want to do in this world. Do what you want to do, be with the people you want to be with, love the people you want to love, and be true to yourself. LIVE... with the understand and knowledge of yourself!!!
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Wisconsin Dom.. ..Looking for a Submissive ... ...I have been in the Lifestyle for the last 15 years..... .... I build toys and I am a Dom. I train in Victorian, Olde Guard and a little Gorean. I am 5'9" muscular built, fair but firm, I love to get into someone's head, I have been called a sensual sadist. I am big on protocol and very intrigued by true masochistic people.
I love to do scenes in private as well as public. I'm always fascinated by other people's servitude and how well they do. I have been a mentor for some years now. I am supportive and do believe in submissives voices.
I hope to help someone achieve the full awareness of who they are and what they can become. I love to make friends in the lifestyle so I welcome all true Doms and Dommes as well as all slaves and subs into my family. I am tring building a community.
I do have a vanilla side also that loves to explore and travel . I'm also a published writer and poet. I am still lookin for new places to play and wonderful lifestyle people to play with.
If anyone has any questions please feel free to ask i'm also on YAHOO ... ......
Safe,Sane ,and Consensual Always
Sir Diesel....
The Master's Philospohy
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel that it is
degrading to a woman, this Philosophy should clear that up. True D/s involves much love, respect and trust!
What should a Master be?
I offer these thoughts in trust and sincerity, as it is often important and even
necessary for human beings to have certainty and clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another. I am a Dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part, nor because I feel I am necessarily more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet, to you, I am Master. I am your Master only after earning your trust, and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell
me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept that responsibility with honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to
trust and fulfill our needs. You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return, you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned
your trust, and because I have opened my heart and soul to you. I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. Because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life: you have given me dominance over you! What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificient gift and sacred responsibity. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. When I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other women, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely, cannot in reality be bought!
“My Collar Is”
My collar Is the love in ones kiss that awakens you to the day…
My collar Is the kind of love that you share that is forever and always…
My collar Is the trust that you have for no one else on this earth…
My collar Is the ties that bind and shows the world your worth…
Mu collar Is the friendship that only best friends should share…
My collar Is showing how much you love by showing how much you care…
My collar Is the passion you feel when your Sir comes into view…
My collar Is a love for life and the feeling of “I Love You”…
Love Always
Your Sir
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So you want to be submissive huh? You've decided it's time to make all your fantasies come true and you're super excited about the thought of being on your knees! Weeeehooooo here we go! This piece is for all the newbie submissives out there....
Newsflash Being submissive is about more than just being on your knees whenever you please. Oh yes, surprising as it may be there is a lot more that you will have to work on. What's that you say, "work on?" Yes bitches, WORK. Something that doesn't seem to register with newbies is the amount of time, energy, dedication, work and money I have already put into being a Dominant/Top/Sadist whatever you want to call it. To start, I have spent years of my own being submissive to learn and experience what it is to be a submissive person, to serve, to submit on a daily basis. Then I have spent hours and hours of my time learning safety precautions and techniques so that I may play with you properly without damaging you. Not to mention the money I have spent in the process getting to/from classes, or the hundreds of dollars worth of toys and instruments I've bought to work my craft. Aside from all this there is the hours of time I have spent reading and thinking about the mental aspect of BDSM to be able to try to be aware of all aspects that I may affect my submissive. And then there is the time that I have spent getting to know you, what you are interested in, scared of, turned off by. The hours of my time it takes driving to see you, explaining the lifestyle to you, preparing you, teaching you, and coming up with a plan of where I'm going to take you and what I'm going to do with you.
And you expect to come and kneel before me and think that you are good to go?
Let me be clear once again about your part in this, as I have been quite clear in what it takes to make my Dominance happen....
1 This is not just about you- This is not just about you and all the fantasies you want to make come true. I am a real person who has invested my life in this lifestyle, and I am not here to serve you when you feel like it and be pushed aside when you don't. I AM NOT A NOVELTY.
2 Don't waste my time- I understand that you are on a journey of expanding your sexuality and realizing what you like and don't like but that does not give you the right to waste my time. You had plenty of time to think about what you were doing before you contacted me.
3 Learn to communicate- That's right, YOU also need to learn something. Surprise Surprise we are not mind readers, nor psychic. Sensitive yes. So yes I do sense there is something amiss with you but no I do not have any idea of what it may be unless you tell me.
4 Be accountable- If you schedule a playdate with me and I call to check in with you the day before, THAT is the day to tell me your not feeling well and want to reschedule, not the day of play a few hours beforehand when I've already spent over an hour of my time preparing for the session. Respect MY time as I respect yours.
5 Educate yourself- So that you have a better of idea of what you want to create. So that you keep yourself safe. So that you know that I know what I'm doing. So you have something to offer besides being on your knees. Get out into the community and take some classes that relate to being submissive, find groups for submissives, books to read. Take a cooking class or small massage course, find ways to constantly better yourself.
6 Be prepared to do something that you don't want to do- Because I will find it. And I will make you do it to prove a point. Because you can do things that you want to do all day long while we play, but until you have done something for me that you don't want to do you have not fully submitted, you have only served yourself in the long run.
CLARIFICATION FOR #6- I should have know I should have clarified on this as I had a feeling it would be taken the wrong way. I am in NO way talking about pushing or breaking any kind of limit the sub has. What I am referring to is this- A sub usually prefers to do things within their talents and comfort zones, for example, cleaning, cooking and taking pain were one of my sub's comfort zones.......they were very easy tasks for him to do which he enjoyed. That is not to say that I didn't appreciate or enjoy these tasks that he did for me, but they came easily for him and without any internal struggle, or in turn, growth for him as a submissive. At a party I had brought him to I decided I wanted him to dress as a female to amuse my friend whose birthday it was, as she enjoys this particular thing. Now, let me tell you, he did not want to dress in this cute pink dress that I picked out for him, but he did, and putting that dress on triggered all kinds of things for him, he felt insecure, I'm sure a part of him felt a bit angry, he felt a tad humiliated maybe, but I reassured him that it made me happy, and I watched him work through all these feelings, and then release them, and as he gave up his preconceived notions about what he thought of this he surrendered to me, he did it for me because it made him happy to see me happy that he did this for me. By the end of the night he was standing proudly in his little pink outfit, a huge change from his hunched over demeanor when he first put the dress on. I was so proud of him, for I saw him let go and surrender to me, I saw him push through and work through his feelings and expand as a submissive, and this meant more to me than him cooking or cleaning ever will. This is what I mean by "doing something you don't want to do". What you need to remember, is that I HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS AT HAND, I do not want to damage/scar/hurt you, I want to help you grow in your submission.... I want to help you let go so that you can be free..even if for just a short while. I hope that this can help resolve some of the negative feelings that were triggered by #6.....
7 Work through the feelings that BDSM triggers- As I warned you, BDSM can and will bring up emotional/mental triggers that may make you feel sad, angry, hurt, rejected, confused, guilty, ashamed, whatever......it is your job to let yourself actually feel these feelings, give yourself the space and acceptance you need to have them, try to work through them, and communicate properly to the proper audience when vocalizing them.....there is plenty of support in the right places, and you are not the only submissive who has felt this way.
8 Enjoy yourself- This is an organic process in which two people create a moment that exists for only a short amount of time, and will never be duplicated again...each scene is unique unto itself, and precious. Recognize exactly how much time and energy your Dominant has put into making your scene happen and respect that. Realize that your fantasies will not always happen as you expect them to.
9 Take care of yourself- It is your job to take care of yourself. This means mentally, emotionally and physically. It is your responsibility to show up as a healthy, whole person, which means you must care for yourself. It is my job to care for you when you are with me, it is your job to care for yourself when I am not. If you do not, then you fall apart as a person, and then what good is that to either you or me? Nurture and love yourself actively on a daily basis.
10 Be Honest- With yourself and all others. Otherwise you're just wasting everyone's time. If something doesn't work for you, refer to number 3 and COMMUNICATE. You will NOT be judged for your feelings, you will, however, be doing us both a disservice if you do not communicate. And sometimes you will have to instigate conversation and communication yourself. This is real life, get your big girl panties on.
11 Show your appreciation- It can and will go a long way. You are not the only one who needs a little reassurance or encouragement sometimes. We like to know when we are moving in the right direction. We like to know when our time and energy is being put into the right place. We like to know that you like what we are doing....and D/s is a game that requires two players, not one, cause playing with yourself is only so fun for so long ;) |
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LANGUAGE BARRIER
YOU SEE THE WORLD IN BLACK AND WHITE
I SEE IN THE WORLD SHADES OF GREY
YOU SEE ONE WAY OF LIFE AND ONLY ONE
I SEE MANY PATHS MANY DESTINIES TO BE HAD
YOU SEE GOOD OR EVIL, NO MIDDLE GROUND
I SEE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT RESULT FROM DECISIONS MADE WHETHER GOOD OR BAD
YOU SEE WHATS ON THE OUTSIDE
I SEE THE INNER BEAUTY IN ALL
YOU WANT WHAT YOU WANT NO COMPROMISE
I SEE THE WORLD BEING WHAT IT IS THROUGH COMPROMISE, AGREEMENTS MADE
LIFE TO YOU IS BLACK AND WHITE, ONE WAY TO GO NO OTHER WAY
LIFE TO ME IS ENDLESS WE SHAPE OUR OWN DESTINIES, CREATE OUR OWN PATH
YOU KNOW YOUR PLACE IN THE WORLD, ON THIS EARTH
I DO NOT I'M STILL SEARCHING, LOOKING FOR MY REASON FOR BEING
YOU HAVE POEPLE TO LEAN ON, TO HELP YOU THROUGH
I HAVE NOONE ALWAYS BEEN A LONER DON'T KNOW IF THAT CAN CHANGE
YOU HAVE A VISION OF YOUR WORLD IN YOUR MIND
I HAVE NO VISION I'M WALKING THIS EARTH BLIND. STUMBLING ALONG
YOU WALK IN THE LIGHT OF THE DAY, SUN ON YOUR FACE
I ROAM THROUGH THE NIGHT TRYING TO FIND MY WAY
TO YOU EVERYTHING IS CLEAR CUT,ONE WAY OR THE OTHER NO IN BETWEEN
TO ME THERE'S ALWAYS CIRCUMSTANCES THAT DICTATE WHAT HAPPENS
YOU SEE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL, KNOWING YOU ARE RIGHT
BUT ARE YOU? WHO'S TO SAY YOU KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT THIS THING CALLED LIFE
I DON'T PRETEND TO HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS, I DON'T SEE YOUR LIGHT
YOU FEEL OUT OF PLACE IN THE DARKNESS, YOU'VE ALWAYS LIVED IN THE LIGHT
I FEEL AT HOME IN THE DARKNESS, THE THINGS THAT GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT MY FRIENDS
THIS MY FRIEND IS WHY WE CAN'T SEE EYE TO EYE, NEVER BE ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH
FRIENDS WE ARE BUT WE HAVE ONE MAJOR PROBLEM,..... A LANGUAGE BARRIER
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Leather Pride
White is for the canvas that’s been brought before us in chains…
Blue is for the marks that only a deep flogging obtains…
Black is for the mental bruises that will forever and always remain…
And red is for the blood that is shed for the pleasure of pain…
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There are alot of things in this world that we might not understand or don't know the reasons why things happen. Some people try to know more by looking into the past to see what they can learn that they haven't already. Others learn and study other people to gain knowledge about the understanding of the world. But what ever it might be you have to think how much think how much can the human race know about the world, the universe, or time itself. the human mind is so complicated that we have endless possibilities of what we can accomplish. This is why I live the way I do.
To live, why... The only purpose to live, is to live with the understanding of knowing. Knowing what is your place, what is it that you want to do in this world. Do what you want to do, be with the people you want to be with, love the people you want to love, and be true to yourself. LIVE... with the understand and knowledge of yourself.. |
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To you miss Summer may you find peace in your rest..
Love Always your Sir Diesel..
“ My Pet ”
I feel your love you feel My pain…
I get in your head to make you sane…
My Pet your service will always honor me…
As you kneel at My feet I am all you see…
I have made you My own you have given Me your soul…
I have made you safe as your mind and body I mold….
With every hit of My flogger, with every carve of My knife…
With every swing of My paddle, It enriches your life…
You give your Sir your heart and I squeeze it with such care …
I hold your life in My hands, you say I’m strict but fair…
You always call me your Sir, your Daddy your Master….
And you will Always be My Pet from now till the here After…
Always Your Sir… |
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Borrowed From A Friend
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Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he¢s truly hers, he doesn¢t need controlling.
Girls yell at you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn¢t.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it, using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits in.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man¢s time (i.e., don¢t want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil¢ bit of space makes the ¢together time¢ even more special-and goes out with her own friends
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and ¢tell¢ their man so.
Grown women ¢show¢ him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his ¢manhood¢.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all ¢signs¢.
Grown women know that sometimes the one¢s you love aren¢t capable of giving you what you need//deserve and move on, without bitterness.
Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends. |
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SO WHY IS IT THAT PEOPLE IN THE MID WEST (WISCONSIN) HAVE A BIGGER ISSUE WITH RACE THAN PEOPLE DOWN SOUTH..... |
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It's amazing to me about how much people scream about not being disrespected from others onthis site... they are the first ones to disrespect others even if you send them a message with the ultimate resepect they still to not even take a moment to even say thank you for the message...simple human kindness |
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Do you know what the BDSM flag is that we are all under? .... Do you know what the colors mean?.... Do you know what the pledge is?... |
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I think the hardist part about being a sub is not being able to trust yourself ...for you if you don't you can never trust anyone else....
If you consider yourself a Dom/me and you have never felt what it's like to be a sub and tasted the sting of your own toys then how could you possiblly know what it feels like to them.... |
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if you are any Dom/me that is affaid of letting your sub talk to or become friends with others in the lifestyle then you sould consider what control DO you have over them... |
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Why is it that people with such close minds always open their mouths in judgement of others..... |
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MARQUIS DESADE:....NO KIND OF SENSATION IS KEENER AND MORE ACTIVE THAN PAIN ,..IT'S IMPRESSION'S ARE UNMISTAKABLE........ |
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WOW SO WHAT HAPPEN TO REAL TIME ANYWAY???? |
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| Ass Play |
Anal penetration with toys or body parts |
| BDSM |
BDSM has been defined as B-D-S-M with the "B-D" being bondage/discipline, the "D-S" meaning dominance/submissio n and the "S-M" for sadism/masochism. |
| Bondage |
Restriction of a person's bodily movement for erotic reasons using fastenings of various kinds, i.e., ropes, chains, handcuffs, etc. |
| Breast Play |
Sensory play which centers around the breasts. |
| Breath Play |
Play involving control or restriction of air and/or the supply of oxygen to the brain. |
| Chastity |
Banning or physically preventing the submissive from achieving orgasm or even any form of genital stimulation in the long term, usually as a means of asserting domination. |
| Discipline |
The imposition of the rules of behavior on the submissive in domination situations and the "punishments" used to enforce them. |
| Dominant |
Also referred to as "Dom". One that desires to exert control over a consenting partner for the purpose of mutual gratification. |
| Electrical Play |
BDSM play which involves the safe use of electricity. Using electricity in SM games seems a scary notion to many people, but it can easily be made safe provided two simple rules are followed: 1) Only use devices powered by low-powered batteries. 2) Avoid placing any contacts above the waist (including on hands or arms) because even small currents in the heart or brain can disrupt those organs' own delicate electrical activity with serious consequences. Popular devices include Relaxicisors and TENS machines designed for muscle and back-pain therapy, and violet wands which use radio frequency discharge and can be used above the waist provided the face is avoided. |
| Fisting |
Also commonly referred to as handballing. Placing or attempting to place the whole hand (or even both hands) into the rectum or vagina. Moving the fist repeatedly in and out of the orifice is known as punch fucking. |
| Humiliation |
The action of lowering the submissive's pride or dignity for the purpose of control and dominance. Humiliation, if properly applied, can be extremely erotic for some subs. |
| Knife Play |
Play including using knives as symbols of erotic power. |
| Masochism |
A condition in which sexual satisfaction is largely derived from abuse or physical pain. |
| Objectification |
The action of treating a submissive as if they were a material object. |
| Sadism |
The association of sexual satisfaction with the infliction of pain on others. |
| Submissive |
Also known as "sub". A person who surrenders control of herself to her dominant. The submissive, while putty in the hands of a dominant whom she trusts and respects, is likely to be independent and assertive in any other arena. | |
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wow it's been about a year now ..and still hard to find anyone that is real...that knows about lifestyle |
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the crowd watched as she picked up a stick, beat her husband, and walked away without a scratch..... |
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those who are different change the world, those who are the same keep it that way.... |
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Hello to my two cents.
There is no such thing as BDSM anything online in the lifestyle. This is a tool to set up meetings, munches, and to inform lifestyle people on events and news. Other than that, this shouldn't be a part of your lifestyle.
There was no mention of internet BDSM in the Story of O, Different Loving, or Screw the Roses. No self respecting Dom/me would ever accept a letter of intent for servitude from an e-mail.
Maybe I have been in the lifestyle too long. I still mess up protocol but I do remember what it is to have it. I remember there was a time we wanted to get together to learn from one another. Now it's like, well, I want to learn from others but they have to be just the right height or size or color or age or this or that or this or that. Experience doesn't come to you in a pretty wrapped box you open on Christmas. So for you young whippersnappers out there, you are never too old to learn new tricks. Learn from whom you can. You will know who they are when they open their mouths. Just my two cents....
Sir Diesel... |
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wow been in Wisconsin now for 3 months |
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There are two types of people in this world: Those who leave a mark and those who leave a stain.... |
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