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|  Hi Im a 31 year old BBW
standing 5'6 with long red hair and brown eyes living in NewBrunswick Canada. I'm a happy horny chubacutie. Men interested in thin - medium women need not apply.
I like LOTS of face time with my Dom, by internet/messengers, telephone and in person. If you are a real life only Dom, please do not waste our time by messaging me.
I like men in relatively good shape in their mid thirties to mid forties. I have many many many fetishes and would like to find a bdsm mate for everything including and not limited to friendship, companionship, sex and exploration. If I get to know and love my Dom well enough my submission turns slowly into total slave devotion.
I like to have LOTS of fun and laugh a lot. Overly sadistic men with no sense of humour are not welcome, Gorean men are not welcome, Old Gaurd men are not welcome. If you're wondering what's left you probably aren't the one.
I like a man comfortable in his own head, not intimidated by a submissive who is smarter, better educated or richer than he. I am not looking for a 24/7 or slave relationship. A man not smart enough to accept and encourage a submissives dominant qualities in the world is not for me. I am extremely dominant and competitive in the rest of my life and happy with the balance between my dominance and submission. My submission comes from a desire to serve The One, not just anyone, so do not email me with a lack of respect or you shall get none in return.
I have had 3 long term Doms. Each time a relationship ends my heart is so broken I say never again, but the void left in their absense is so great I quickly reverse positions. I miss how good it was to have a Daddy there for me always.
I am a sarcastic, silly, smart, playfull person. I love intellectual discourse even when the topic is not neccessarily intelligent. Assuming any males have read this far you may show your sincerity by refering to me as "kitten" in your email, now and always.
Thank You and Happy Hunting
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If you ask me "what are you wearing right now?" I will tell you I’m naked.
I was recently told I was "too vanilla" for a man because I don’t wear jewelry or tattoos and I am not focused on BDSM clothing nor do I like to be with men heavily into such things. In this world saying someone is "too vanilla" is like telling your younger sibling, by one year, that they are too young too play with you and the big kids. It is meant to be offensive in the nicest patronizing way possible.
Life as is abundant around us is focused on appearance. Latest trend in clothing, hair, makeup, cars, homes, furniture, and everything really, is the primary focus because whatever we looked like last week, year, or decade has become passe. So excuse me as a woman with 31 years experience in visual overload and over-importance to want a relationship based on what we are, what we feel and what we do and NOT what we look like and what we own. Sure dressing up in slutty clothes is fun BUT don’t ask about what slut clothes I own before asking about who I am. One man I spoke with was so interested in clothing I felt completely unimportant, nothing more than a very easily replaceable coat hanger (especially since I’m plus sized and fewer clothes are available for my kind.) |
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Wanna-be's ... it's a term I see a lot of and wonder if those who use it are like people who slander gays with names like faggot/dyke... like they are scared someone will think they themselves are, in this case, a wanna-be.
BDSM has become an umbrella term for people of all genders, sexual orientation and lifestyle commitments who all have one thing in common, interest in relationships with at least one Dominant and one submissive role player.
Personally I have never had a real life BDSM relationship. (well unless you count my adoring worshipping love slave of a hubby, who is otherwise less spicy than vanilla) Does this make me a "wanna-be"? Personally I say no. I have my own very specific interests in real life BDSM play/lifestyle and have as yet to find a man to fit that role and be available. Does that make me less submissive, committed or real? Not to Him when I find Him, I assure you.
What I think is this: like every other group of human beings we must divide the group so each of us can be on a side feeling better or more righteous than the other. Here in BDSM we have the people who think submissives not automatically submissive to the people saying they are Dominants are fakes, wanna-be's and flakes. We have people who think Dominants not willing to be equals until they have proven themselves worthy of their superiour role are fakes, wanna-bes and flakes. Then there is the commitment issue. Obviously 24/7 D/s relationships are completely pathological and attempted by only the most mentally ill of sexual deviants aaand of course part time sex only D/s relationships are just bedroom players and not worthy of any comment at all, other than: they are just vanillas in slutty clothes spanking each other to get off.
I think people need to simply accept they fact that everyone here has a specific need to be in BDSM and just because it’s not the same as your need, or even compatible with your need, that it deserves no less respect. |
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I NEED a Daddy.
Many men are not completely sure of what a Daddy Dom is,so I will tell just you all what a DD is to me :) A DD loves and cares for his adult submissive like a Daddy cares for his daughter. He teaches, guides, disciplines, protects, and cares for his sub with all of his heart. He is playful and indulgent and never truely angry at his sub. He is someone his sub can always turn to, can always tell him anything, can always cry on his shoulder, can always be his baby girl. It is because of this strong bond of love and trust that a baby girl sub can tell her Daddy all of her nasty and perverse desires and he never judge her or make her feel bad about them.He always wants to help her explore her desires and her true inner self. I have been aching for the paternal love only a Daddy can give my entire life. A little girl would want to sit in Daddys lap and snuggle and kiss him, I as an adult want to love my Daddy Dom just like that plus more. Like a daughter loves and needs her Daddy forever, so too do I.
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My need is not to be submissive and simply enjoy pleasing a Master. I have needs which are submissive in nature. Any relationship that does not pander to MY needs as well as my Dominant's needs is of no value to me and therefore of no value to him.... just a thought I had after a nice chat with a fellow today :) |
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I am no longer replying to messages from men who did not read my profile PRIOR to messaging me as Im tired of being polite to the hoards of fishermen dropping their line anywhere trying to catch a lil something, anything at all even...  |
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