What I'm looking for is hard to explain...  I have a very developed outgoing dominant leaning personality.  I say developed, because that isn't entirely who I am, it's adapted.  In general, I tend to be a rather quiet and submissive type, but I'm very used to taking charge of my own life.  I need a personality that both understands mine and corresponds with it.  I can't have someone I can walk all over, because I wouldn't respect them.  For friendships, submissive types are great and I do respect them, as most of my wives are sub or switch.

  
I cause change, sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it isn't.  People develop faster around me and become themselves.  I bring that out in other people.  It's part of the nature of my personality.  I REQUIRE someone that isn't going to go through major life change with me, gradual, yes.  I am blissfully happy for someone to change and grow through life with me.  Someone I help develop is not someone I can date.  That being said, major life changes like change in career or something of that like are fine, just not major personality developments.  I want you to know yourself, not have me find you.  I can, but I won't date you if that's the case.  (I think that was mostly clear.)

In the long term.  I want someone to come home to.  It isn't a requirement for me to go out every weekend- I don't normally.  However, I do go out probably once a month or so.  Ideally, who I'm looking for would enjoy a general balance of socialization as well.  As my friend Joni would say, "must love birds."  I have them and I won't give them up, unless there is a true need such as hospitalization for extended periods of time.  (I'm truly hoping that's unlikely)

Smaller preferred quirks...  a bit spontaneous, romantically inclined, someone that enjoys cleaning more than I do (that shouldn't be hard, and god save me I won't stop someone from cleaning my house), a bit adventurous.  
That mostly sums it up, I think...
What are you looking for?

Yes, I have a harem.  My Wives recruit on their own.

My Wives started years ago when a friend of mine got a divorce. She was really upset about it and she kept saying no one would marry her. I'd been making the joke that I wanted a wife because they do everything- cooking, cleaning, etc. 

When she said that no one would marry her I told her she was wrong; I would marry her. She's a lovely girl, a bit crazy, but all my wives are. She'd make a good wife to someone who could appreciate her. So, I gained for myself my first wife. 

Down the road a bit, I had another friend who was struggling to find a long term relationship. They'd last a few months and it never panned out. It's hard with girls, because they're raised to go out and find a husband. It doesn't occur to most of them that career is an equally good focus. I asked her if she'd like to be my wife.

This kept happening with close friends and they were ladies that would make good wives. Sure, they had some learning and growing to do, but overall, good wives. It was fun when they'd meet each other, because most of them instantly clicked, like old friends. These are a special type of person and they're dedicated, caring, and riotously funny. How could these women all not want to be wives with each other? They're happy as clams they're wives.

Eventually, I got it into my head that they all needed to get to know each other. About the time I had a dozen wives I started a FaceBook group for them to get to know each other, even if they lived half the world away. I have since taken in 3 male wives. The girls thought it was funny and Jamie, being the first got all kinds of picked on for a bit. Then they realized why I made him a wife. We have a pile of running jokes about what would happen to Jamie if he ever makes it to a wife dinner.

Wife Dinner- That idea came about because I have a not so amazing family. I don't get invited to family events on my dad's side and my mom's sisters are not what I would want anyone to consider family. I wanted to have holidays again. (Working in a hotel and being able to work holidays is great, my co-workers love me.) So, I made my own holidays. The first friday of each month is Wife Dinner. It's pot-luck and occasionally we have themes. Sometimes we'll go to the club afterwards.

Holy Cow,

Hello everyone on CM.  I'm really pleased that people are reading my profile.  I didn't expect to have messages so quickly, as I'm currently creating my profile.  Feel free to shoot questions my way.  I'm far to honest, so you've been fairly warned. 

Also, I recommend reading the last paragraph of my profile.  If you can't deal with my lack of orgasms, I'm not for you.  I'm not looking for a savior to give them to me either, because I can't miss what I don't have.