Update on 13.10 17

OK Folks, I'm a BDSM author and a guest writer at quite a few places. Professionally I'm a content specialist and a lifestyle coach. This leads to a few people thinking wrongly that I am available to be approached as partner. Yes, I am, but please understand I have preferences too.

• If you've connected with me to  as your potential submissive, I request you, please read my profile to the last world. If you do not, I will know.
• If you have connected with me to talk about my work, please stick to that. Don't use that as an excuse for ulterior motives.
• In either case, I do not entertain sexting, fantasy discussions, rude, intrusive or pushy messages. I use the block button freely and can be fairly rude as well, should I decide to be. However, I do not suffer fools, pseudos, MCPs and jerks very well.
• I enjoy the lifestyle, my writings, appreciation, constructive criticism and the likes.
• If you want to use my professional services or skills, whether in the lifestyle sense (ask me to know eaxctly what does it mean) or the vanilla sense, please expect to pay for my productive time. If you think that makes me a fake, please stay off my inbox.
• I do NOT offer BDSM services, sessions, pro-sub, pro-Domme services. Do not inquire for the same.
  
• Any nagging, pushy, intrusive, rude or ill-mannered behaviour will not be appreciated and be blocked. You can create 20 IDs and keep harassing, the block button is really easy that way, just so you know.
  

Peace.

I am in the phase of a transition. Hence, treading with caution. Anyone with a genuine, non-manipulative interest in a journey together for evolution is welcome to connect. For ease's sake, I am going to list the ects of my life I'm changing in and how I foresee an evolutionary journey with someone.

Health

I've started focusing on it finally. So, I've quit drinking alcohol for more than 2 years  now. I drink ONLY and ONLY when approved by a certain someone or I do not (doesn't happen more than once a quarter). The person may change, but this arrangement isn't.

I've also taken up physical exercise and will continue to do so till I start feeling VERY healthy inside. Not that I am unwell or sick, but I'll appreciate high fitness and flexibility levels.

Self - Education and Career

I've never been a great fan of structured, institutional education. Yet, I have a Masters' degree in Literature.Have restarted self - educating through MOOCs and will continue to spend time on them.

I am also in a career transition and currently function as a communications consultant for bread and butter. Parallely I am working on an ambitious writing project that I hope shall be over by Mid June, 2018.

Life-Style and Personality Type

I'm quite a bit alpha and in some ways extremely secure within me. My need for approval is high around my significant others and almost non-existent around the rest of the world.

I am finally coming to terms with my desires of exploring my Dominant side after 10 years of being a tried and tested submissive. Does that mean, I have an identity crisis? No. It means that with the right alpha I am still the most natural sub and playful brat I know.

Last few years have helped me grow from an extremely judgemental to an opinionated person and I am happy to continue on this path of growth.

I am at this moment playing with a wonderfully positive person and am happy to play with more people finally. Ultimately I am looking for a long term primary relationship and my current partner is very happy for me to seek the same.

Location

I am currently shuttling between Another state and Delhi and will be settled at some place in India not before at least 2 months.

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Asmi -  is the part of the Godhead that exists in every human being. The part that flows back to the Godhead when it finally ceases its cycles of birth and death. Asmi is the soul, pure free and immortal. Linguistically,  the word Asmi means - "I am" (Sanskrit). I chose this name only to signify that with or without a Dominant, a submissive, a partner or anyone, I continue to exist. I continue to shine as that speck of eternal energy.

I am :

• Asmi.
• An extremely confident, articulate, thoughtful, empathetic woman. I'm easy to connect with and reach out to but I am equally choosy of who I exchange my deepest thoughts and emotions with.
• Honest to a fault. I am ruthless with liars and do NOT keep them close to me, no matter who they are. I strongly believe in upfront communication and am a flagbearer of Safe, Sane and Consensual to the point of being called paranoid.
• More focused on emotional, intellectual and social compatibility before financial and physical.
• A Masochist of a low to mild degree. I find pain and the way my body reacts to it in different situations, with different people and in different state-of-mind, very interesting.
• A blooming writer, working on an ambitious project that I hope to finish by Mid June 2018. I sometimes write a bit here.
• A strong person with well-defined choices. I have no inclination to explain, justify, elaborate, or discuss my choices with you. For that discussion to happen, you have to be really close to me as a person, a friend.
• Not Lesbian, not bi really either. My interaction with women in the Ds space is all about sensation, submission and limited to the realm of a forced by / forced poly interaction. THIS will work ONLY AFTER I find my primary partner.
• Polyamorous - Monogamous in more complex ways than a lot of people understand. I'm not looking forward to being the part of a poly household etc. or to fully submit to a couple etc. I'm into territorial but non-possessive, hierarchical poly, where in play I may be gamma, delta whatever, but outside the playroom, I'm the primary submissive.
• Wary of manipulative and narcissistic people. I am not God's greatest gift to the human kind. You are not either. I do not manipulate, convince, condition, brainwash or anything else. Nor do I tolerate such behaviour.
• More submissive than I knew. However, I am not a slave material. I am not interested in the 24/7 and the live-in slavery.
• Grateful - for the support systems, the mentorship, love, affection, care I have received and for whatever I have been able to give back or pass on.
• A survivor - of accidents, financial crises, family emergencies, heartbreaks, unemployment, a phase of clinical depression. I have never depended on anything / anyone for my survival because none of my real support systems wanted me to have crutches.
• An ambitious career woman, fiercely independent and very vocal of my choices and judgements. I am not the doormat for you to wipe your feet at.
• Not a Dominant woman. I may have an assertive side and I may have been a good mentor to a person or two in past, but that does not make me a Domme. I maybe happy to explore that side of mine, but I will approach the people I find compatible. I absolutely detest being nagged / begged for it.
• Not very keen on or used to justifying my choices or desires to anyone before I reach a certain point in an interaction with them. I usually try and be polite. If and when it doesn't work, I use th

Doms and Their Real Lives

Not all Doms are rich. BDSM is not a lifestyle only for the elite. It’s not about how costly toys you can buy or how rich / highly placed a Dom is. A Dom claiming to be a bank president, a company CEO, a self made millionaire etc. will really not have much time to indulge in online chats and endless messages.

Also, the lifestyle where rich, powerful people look for cute, little, playthings, has a different name. It’s called as the Sugar Lifestyle. While some Dominants may certainly be capable of being sugar daddies, what’s the probability of a high profile, high – stakes person frequenting a BDSM forum among strangers who may end up being business collaborators, in a country like India?

Also, in a majority of cases, BDSM practitioners are common people like you and me. People who work, make their living through jobs, stay with their parents and understand the real life. Don’t let fan fiction bias you people!

As a Dominant you don’t have to be a super – handsome, Greek God, Richie Rich and a control – freak. You can very well be the nice, old – school, friendly neighbor who knows how to replace bulbs rather than buying companies for his submissives, and still be a great Dominant!

You could very well be the short, petite, communications manager who smiles warmly and sings bollywood numbers and yet be a wicked Domme in the closet!

As a submissive I believe anyone will be far happier with someone sorted. Someone who can relate to how difficult it was growing up with limited privacy, why education is important, how to take care of ageing parents is actually an asset as a Dominant. Someone who would evolve with you, someone you can love in your submission is a blessing! Mr. Grey is great, maybe, but a next door handsome Dom who smiles more is better any day! After all, the smiles are what we submissives aspire for :)

© Asmi Uniqus

Excerpt from "Domination : A Practical Guide"

https://www.amazon.in/Domination-Practical-Guide-BDSM-India-ebook/dp/B01M0KF7OM?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0