Single male sub, mild experience in flogging, and in online RP of BDSM, I'll need some more experience before being comfortable in the 'lifestyle'.

What I'm looking for (currently):
Someone to introduce me to the local scene, take me to any clubs they may know, where I can learn more about BDSM.
A Lady that understands Generalized Anxiety, and ADD (I was diagnosed at 28, so it's not a case of a child being a child and medicated for the disease of being young)

Limits:
Hiatal hernia
Double vision (mildly frequent)
GA and ADD
Choking and gagging problems (no gags, no tight collars.)
I'm on Social Security. Other than the physical limits offered earlier, I'm in good health. Just be mindful of my mental difficulties. I know enough about myself to let someone know I'm having a problem moment.

•Important• I've never once cum in the presence of a partner. I don't know why. Maybe if I make the right attachment to a Lady it may happen. Thus sex is not a big motivator to me, I don't care about getting off (as long as I'm allowed to do so privately when needed) as much as about the intimacy of the act.

Brief profile:
I'm all about body worship, especially of the breasts. I've never worshiped a Lady's vulva because I've never been with a Lady who had one that didn't smell too strongly for me to get near (Not bad so much as strong)
I understand a Lady to be an incarnation of the Goddess, and Sex to be the ultimate intimacy. I don't want to just get in the sheets first, second or even third thing.
While at the club, I was naked, from the moment I was taken to the room I was flogged in, until three minutes before we had to leave. I liked this, But the female body is sacred and while I may ask, or beg, to worship your breasts after a good play session, It's your call how much more I see. When I say I'm not looking for intercourse, I'm serious.
I'm also not looking for an S.O.
I'm not going to relocate.
I make very little free income, Most of it is needed to pay living expenses.

So I guess, maybe, I'm looking for friends that can bring me into the local scene, or guide me into understanding BDSM beyond the online Roleplay and expand on the one session of play I had, without getting into a serious relationship until I'm comfortable.

I'd like to eventually, if I meet the right person, to have someone who I can visit, or who can come to me, We can play, or sit and chat, frankly and openly, and have no expectations other than knowing ourselves better.

I do not drive, of course.