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In the interest of your time, allow me to first say I am not interested in any form of polyamory. That's all fine and well if you are, I'm just a monogamy man myself.
Still with me? Wonderful.
About Me:
I'm told I am funny, charming and intelligent among other things and have a pleasant voice. I am particularly inclined towards communication in it's many and varied forms, some more so than others. Aesthetically I imagine I fall somewhere between 6-9 depending upon who you ask and the individuals personal tastes as far as men go. 6ft, 190lbs, dark hair, dark eyes, tan complexion and an INTJ for those interested in the basics.
About you / What I'm looking for:
I prefer female dommes. I will also admit that while I don't discriminate where age is concerned, I do have a special spot in my heart for those with a few years on me (ideally 5 to 15 years older).
I appreciate a woman with a dynamic sense of balance and versatility. That is to say I prefer a woman who is just as comfortable in heels as she is in boots or a beat up pair of sneakers. Please be mentally and emotionally somewhat stable. I won't lie, I have a bit of a penchant for "the crazy", but I like to think crazy is to life what spice is to food. Too little or too much makes it intolerable on either count. On a 1-10 scale for crazy, with 1 being something like an IRS auditor who's idea of "crazy" is ordering pizza when it's actually burger night, and 10 being like the female version of Gary Busey on a mountain of cocaine... perfect for me is somewhere between a 7 and 8.
Monogamy is one of my few 'musts'. I've been cheated on once and can't say I was particularly fond of the experience, and I also experienced a relationship in which my SO displayed some behavior which was questionable at best by what others have told me. I will be as fiercely loyal as anyone could ever ask for, but I have to have the same in return. So Polyamory is out for me personally...though kudos to you if you can make that work for you.
What is D/s to me?:
To me, D/s is less about sex, less about the physical and far more about the mental, emotional and spiritual bond between two people.
On the 's' side, there resides within, a place where I can feel safe, secure, confidant, strong, useful, wanted, needed, loved, appreciated, trusted, desired, cared for and more. It envelopes and cocoons....and it can be absolute bliss. I should like to move there permanently if at all possible. I have been able to experience this here and there in a D/s dynamic, and would like to delve deeper into such a thing.
D/s is also about being provided some level of structure and discipline in a way. We all tend to agree that children need and crave these things, but we tend to forget that as adults, many of us tend to continue to crave these things. Not because we want to be disciplined in some fashion, but because what it says when someone does that is that they know you, want the best for you, and are willing to put the energy into you through disciplining you to motivate you towards recognizing your higher potential as a human being. It is in a sense a very real expression of love and appreciation that is received through such forms of structure and discipline.
On the D side of the coin, I understand the beauty there as well. There is something exquisitely beautiful in testing someone by putting something they can hardly resist right before them and within their reach, and asking that they abstain from it because it would make you happy....and then...seeing them fight those impulses and urges...because they value your happiness over their own. Nothing can make a person feel so strongly loved, adored, wanted, needed, and appreciated so greatly as such a sight.
A random sampling of my tastes:
Musically I tend to gravitate towards the obscure or unknown, typically preferring instrumental works (ranging anywhere from classical to electronic to funk to surfer rock and so on) over those laden with lyrics (which I find interesting considering how big on communication I tend to be... my only theory is that I prefer music which communicates without words since such communication is seemingly so absent elsewhere, aside perhaps from body language). As far as food goes: I'm pretty open to almost anything, though I do tend to appreciate health conscious meals (organic, local, non-gmo etc) to those that are less emphasized on the same. Breakfast tacos, BBQ, Sandwiches & anything Italian are some personal favorites.
Results of kink test:
Experimental
79%
Submissive
75%
Bondage
71%
Degradation
68%
Masochist
61%
Switch
46%
Sadist
43%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
43%
Vanilla
29%
Dominant
25%
You should say hi if:
If you understand that what I'm after is less about sex and more about love.
If you think I sound like someone you might venture to get to know a bit more
If you sound like someone I would want to get to know better.
If you love being served, adored, worshiped etc...then by all means feel free to drop me a line. I would love to hear from you.
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