Jean Claude,

I am eager to see you tonight.  I don't know if that is a good or a bad thing, but we all get our kicks one way or another.  My kicks just happen to be a little more...

I can wait to see you tonight.  Hope the 4 Horsemen of the Apocolypse give us a little time for just the 2 of us tonight. 

Anita

My pet is coming to see me tomorrow night.  I have already started planning out a good play session.

Had a great Easter weekend.  My girl was very good as the Easter bunny! (As a side note Our little pet has a thing for group use, thus the desire to live in a poly house. So we set her up for a very nice little gift this weekend.) Her cotton tail was just too cute and the rabbit ears were fun for us as well. 

She is learning a few new skills and some that will likely take some time. (I don't want to give her too many things to learn at once because she's in college and needs time to do school work and focus on that.  I have hopes that after she finishes school she will join us in our home and become a very well trained servant for the house.  For now she is expected to continue school and make excellent grades) So she will need to take her time and learn the skills we are teaching, and enjoy the learning experience. 

I will be very glad to see my little pet's test grades this week and then we will talk about play time and what will happen.  Enjoy her journal if you have found her. :)

Nails and toes done, massage, and playtime coming to an end for the night.  I'm happy to be so relaxed and feel so good.  I can't wait for my girl's journal entry for the weekend.

Peace is a wonderful thing.  Curled up in my bed with my best snuggle buddy and enjoying every minute of it.  I am looking forward to play time tomorrow and Easter will be a hoot too. 

Diapers! I am looking for any Dominant or submissive person who is interested in diapers.  I have questions I would love to be able to ask openly and learn some more about this fetish.  Thanks in advance for the information.

Thank you ToxicPrincess for answering questions.  I hope to be able to return the favor if you ever would like to ask something.

Still looking for more perspectives on this topic.

Ok, so the word is slowly leaking out that I have taken on a pet.  (I am keeping her information quiet because she's not anyone's pet but mine.) Yes, she's still going to college, but I see her occasionally during the week and on weekends.  This has been going on for 3 weeks.  She keeps a journal.  She does not post pictures.  I will not share her.  You can't watch, and if you make her cry, you get blocked immediately.  I have had several people say they are impressed with her journal enteries, and she has impecable manners.  Knowing this, Thank you everyone, and I would like to say it's training, but I feel it might just be her personality as I'm still in the process of training her.  Feel free to look contact her and ask questions.  She has been instructed to not give out my name without permission, and only to give out information she has been instructed to, or I will take her internet privledges away for a month.

So say hi, be kind, and enjoy her journal.  You just never know when she is going to say.  She does make me laugh with her reactions.

I am still looking for long term female slaves.  Just ask and I will tell.  

Oooh... a friend of mine suggested I look into a very interesting programs series online.  I have found a practice guine pig who is eager to let me make her over and so the fun begins.  I am going to be working on other options.  If anyone who reads this would like to make suggestions about what things they would like to hear about when it comes to kinds of lifestyle acitivities... feel free to suggest things.  (I am tempted to post pictures of the processes to keep the masses amused, but haven't decided on this at this point.) I will of course keep things up to date on my journal and if you are interesting enough, I might give the ideas you suggest a go and see if my girl takes to them, if I take to them, and if this will or won't be a total flop.

Presently, I am working on dollification.  I am getting patterns to fit my girl perfectly and looking at different make up techniques and seeing which things are most pleasing and which things are just too time consuming or repugnant to me.  I have a sewing maching and she will be learning to make her "dolly" clothes.  I am hoping to make trips to the local stores with her all done up and see what kinds of reactions this gets as well.  I am an avid people watcher.  That's all for now.

I have a real, huge, peeve! I lived in a poly house my whole life growing up... and What is the difference between a threesome and a poly home?  A threesome is when 3 people want to live in a relationship together. poly means anything more than two.  Many loves.  All mutually working for the greater good of the home. Sex is not the main focus of a poly relationship and it's usually open to a lot more than 3 people.  So if you are limiting yourself to a man and 2 women, then you are just looking for a threesome.  If you are looking for a couple of women and a man having kinky sex long term, it's still just a 3 or 4 some.  So for goodness sake, you "So smart Dominant men" think you can pull out the poly card get a couple of girls in your house to do all the house work, bring in all the money, and you get to fuck them all and keep them happy.  (You numb nut!) think about how you plan to take care of all the women you bring in?  How will you deal with it if a couple of them get pregnant all at the same time? Or what about if one can't work and the other is sick and you have to care for both of them for a longer time?  What then.  You won't be whipping out the cock to play and you can't just throw them out on the street.  After all you chose to own the goods! 

So if you are looking for a poly home, be sure you know what the hell you are asking for.  And I HATE HATE HATE to see a couple, who say they are looking for A GIRL and they aren't open to more than one or two because the wife will be jealous... and then say something like we want a poly home.  Get real.  The poly lifestyle is not just about kinky sex it's about growing old together.  It's more than living together and going about your daily lives as a couple with an extra girl.  It's about life together all the time for a lifetime.  Not something you can just throw away.  You all take care of each other.  All your money goes into the good of the house.  All of you must act as one organism... not orgasm... organism all functioning together to make the house work. 

Had a good time learning about hypnosis from John.  Thanks for the lessons.  Hope I have cause to use it some time soon.  :)  I'll let you know when we have the pup. 

I can officially add hypnosis to the "skills" I have experience with, but I can't say I have more than a beginner's working knowledge and I have promised to keep John in the loop when the time comes and I decide to use what he has passed on. 
Hope all of you are doing well.  Have any questions, feel free to ask.

I am researching hypnosis and found some LOVELY information that will be most useful for a slave who is going to be serving me.

Going to visit and chat with over the next week a Master who uses hypnosis as his only tool for training.  I find this MOST impressive as he's been using hypnosis for 20 years AND he's trained more than 10 slaves in that time.  I am very eager to learn what he is willing to teach.

So while I'm am willing to talk to anyone, but I can't stand people who whine because they aren't getting enough of my attention.  I don't know you.  So we talked on line a couple of time.  I still don't know who the hell you are.  I have a life.  I live in a house.  With real living breathing people.  People who affect me everyday. 

So for someone to say, I'm mad at you, you need to spend more time talking to me. ??? EXCUSE the HELL out of me, but hide and delete.  I don't need your crap. 

Mistress, I am.  And little subs and slaves don't get to tell me that their time is more precious than the time I spend with my family, friends, and lovers.  Why am I not online when you want me to be.  Well dumb shit it's because I have a life. I have an Iphone and I try very hard to answer e mail quickly.  I also respond to my yahoo when I'm not driving or busy.  And lastly, when we get to the point of talking I'm not always gonna answer the phone.   I have a real life, and until you are a 24/7 slave in my home, you don't get more attention that what my life allows.  Want more of my time.  Try picking up the phone and calling me.  Try becoming my slave.  Then you will get all the attention you need.  Till then complain to someone who gives a rat's ass.

(I find it rude to answer the phone during a meal.  I cuss when I get phone calls when I have food in front of me.  Also won't take a call after 8 pm unless it's scheduled ahead of time or a real emergency.  (I don't like the phone to ring with im "occupied" with other more pleasing things. I become cross that someone has interrupted me.  So I make a point of just not answering the phone.  I also don't chat online and eat.  It's just mindless eating at that point and unhealthy.  I don't talk on the phone while I work out.  Again RUDE and makes my phone nasty.  I don't text and drive.  UNSAFE!!! and people's lives depend on my ability to drive safely.  I take that very seriously.)

So for all the slaves and subs reading this that aren't demanding my time and are being cordial.  I'm not ranting at you.  Keep behaving like a proper pet and I won't rant about you.  :)

Honestly, I think people push me to see if I can lose my temper.  (I can! I just choose to ignore you and block your mail. Naughty little children don't get my attention, they get ignored. Now, go rant to other people who hear you while you stand in the corner and don't exist in my world!  I don't need a slave who is going to add more stress... we are supposed to be working together to relieve each other's stresses.)

I want a to own a slave who is pleasing and in exchange I can enjoy her company and she will enjoy mine.

I have one for ya.  It doesn't irritate me, but I think this statement is the most over said and the most mindless statement in all of collarme.

Found in about 1/3 of the profiles I have read...

"I don't know what to put here.  Well, here it goes..."

OR

"I really don't like to talk about myself, but..."

If you don't know what to put then why fill in a profile with a million things and leave that statement? 

Or even better, I have found a profile or two that say I don't know blah blah blah... and then has... so just ask me.  That's inspiring. *eye roll*   If you don't know, how am I supposed to know if you are even worth my time to write an e mail longer than 2 sentences? Where do I begin to ask questions about you? or where to begin anything with you?  Will you be able to come to a decision about anything and if we are compatable or not?  If you don't know anything about yourself, then how could you possible make such a life altering decision about US? How can you begin to look for something more?  How can you learn anything about me? 

I know a lot of slaves are shy.  Or not open about themselves. These things are just part of being a slave.  you don't have to say... i'm shy, i don't like to talk about myself, or I don't know what to put here.

I know you need to fill these things out in your own words, and I'm sure you are all creative enough to do this but it's really rather simple to just say,

 I am happy to tell you about myself more as we get to know each other and I feel comfortable.  Anything you don't want to tell up front on your profile can be told in private over time.  Most people with a brain know that things are going to come up later.  (That's another journal entry)

So don't be afraid to just come out and say I want to get to know you and then tell you more about me. or Say exactly what you are looking for because you aren't going to shock anyone here!  We are all looking at a lot of the same things over and over again.

In fact if you shock me with something new on your profile, something that I haven't seen before, I'm going to be more intrigued by what I'm reading than someone who says... I just don't know what to say here.

Want a Domme to address a question you might have, but don't wish to ask someone you know? Well, ask away. I don't know any of you. I would be happy to answer any "serious" question. And if you don't like my answer, well you can always not take my advice and just ignore me:)

I wanted to repost this to let people know I am open to answering questions anyone might have.

You wanna know what eats my undershorts?  People contact me and say "I think you might be what I'm looking for."  I am happy to reply and take the time to think up useful and interesting questions.  *Something other than what are you here for? and How many holes do you want filled* And in exchange I get one and 2 word answers.  Or they don't ask any questions of me at all.  How the hell are you supposed to learn anything about me if you don't ask me questions.  I am so SICK of having to prompt people to ask a damn question.  I always say within the first 2 e mails, please feel free to ask any question.  I have never told a person I absolutely won't answer something.  And only a few times have I said, I want to with hold that information for the sake of making your training more effective.  Other than those couple of instances, I have never dodged a direct question.  So For God, Allah, the Sun, Godess's, or who ever you feel is a higher power :) sake PLEASE ask me a question so I can start to build something with you. 

*mumbles* Man sometimes I just wanna pull out the paddle and spank all you little children!

I wish people would be more creative.  I mean, how many ways can you tell me I'm overweight, before it starts to just get boring.  I know.  And I mention that in my profile.  Look at my weight.  I don't make bones about the fact.  If you have a problem with it, hide my profile, don't talk to me, or keep sending me BS and I'll keep pretending like you don't exist. What the hell is wrong with you immature people?

Updated pictures.  I took some today.  It was just so pretty outside.  And well, just take a look.

So I have gotten several e mails asking me how much porn I actually watch.  LOL  I find this most amusing.  I will say this.  I have enough porn in my bedroom to watch a new DVD every night for a year, and still not have watched everything in my collection.  And I also have porn in my play room down here as well as in the Master bedroom closet.  A whole shelf full.  I have been sorting it and putting it into 8 slot pages in a CD binder and have filled up a couple of binders all with anal, double anal, and more fun anal pleasures. That is not the only kind of porn I own, but I definately have an anal fixation! 

I will keep sorting it and then maybe post a picture to give everyone an idea of how much I own.  But I typically watch one or 2 DVD's a night.  So how much porn do I have? How much do I watch?  you judge

So I have a peeve... not really an issue, but just something that irritates me.  I have been on this site for a little while now, and I find more and more people put up some fake picture of a porn star... (BTW, when you watch as much porn as I do, you get to recognize them pretty quickly.  And for anyone who doesn't watch a lot of porn, just look at the picture... if it's not an everyday setting, in a normal background. And if it looks too posed, you can assume it's FAKE!!!  HUGEly fake!!!) Why??? Or you can post a picture of a castle or a dog, but not of yourself?  Hmmm why?  Are you ashamed of who you are?  What you look like?  (Yes, other's can be shallow, but the reason you are on here is to find something that you need.  If it's online play, well they are gonna wanna know your appearance so it can be detailed to you.  If it's a one night thing, don't you want to know who you are looking for before you actually go and meet them?  And if it's for something long term... knowing who you are building a relationship, what they look like and how shallow they might be works to your advantage so you won't be wasting time.)  

*High whinny nasal voice inserted* "But I can't put my picture up because I don't want people who I work with to know." and "What if I family found it by accident?" Or "When I post pictures of myself I get too much attention!"  BULL SHIT.  I'm calling CRAP CRAP CRAP! You just suck!  You just don't want to post a picture of yourself and be judged by the masses.  If anyone you know sees you on here... they are on here too.  What does that tell you about them???  Yep, they were on here too looking around.  SO they aren't hiding from you and you aren't hiding from them.  No blackmail, no worries, just you both are a couple of people interested in some kinky things.   And not having a picture up means you will get twice as many e mails asking for a picture of you, instead of getting down to the business of finding what you want from this site.  If you don't want attention don't put a profile up.  Or screw up your weight and height statistics so you are heavier and shorter than you are... (You would be amazed how often people have the weight on this set so low that unless you are puking each meal you don't fit their ideal relationship wants.)  Say your some 160 pound average chick.  And looking for... post a picture of yourself looking like the what you look like on an average day instead of some crazy hot porn star or in your underpants, or what ever the hell you idiots post! Just jeans and a tee shirt with a nice smile.  Don't be intentionally provocative.   

I just hate to find a profile that says it has a picture and then I find some cat sitting on a rug licking itself.  Sheesh!

And that is my rant of the day.

As a side note to this, I have seen a lot of clever pictures that are funny and those people don't irk me.  They usually say a lot about the person's sense of humor, and most of those people also post pics of themself if you scroll to the next shot or too.  I like a person who has a sense of humor more than a dick shot or a porn star fake!

Attention Lil slave girls who fit my desired description for a slave!

I have an opening immediately.  It will fill quickly I'm sure. If you are eager to be interviewed and relocated at my cost, I would like to chat with you.  I also am willing to help a slave who is in my service go to college and gain a complete degree. 

If you are interested in this offer let me know. 

 Offer expired 3/15/12  Will likely open again in a few months. 
thanks Miss Peyton

Our Interview process requires atleast a whole weekend. During that time the slave comes to the house to experience what our home is like.  On top of that we ask the slave a lot of questions about her daily life, we monitor her eating habits, and what she does. If she is suitable to our house.  How she interacts with us.  Each slave is different, and the interview process has slight variations for each one. But typically we make notes on everything the slave says and she is expected to act in a very submissive manner.  (We do not expect her to give her rights as a slave over to us during an interview.) So sitting or kneeling and sleeping on the floor would be expected. Being helpful around the house if something needs to be done would be expected. We also allow a slave to lay down rules before the visit and Interview that  we all agree upon and make her feel more safe and comfortable in a strange environment.  We would expect her to have a safe call set up with her family or friends and so that will be attended to as well. After the interview we expect her to arrive home and either call or write us thanking us for the Interview, and we expect some kind of decision to be made if we are going to be her trainers or not within a week.  Longer than that is stalling.  Now, the actual process of relocating might take longer.  But we don't see how waiting to make the decision would be to any advantage to either party.  Feel free to ask questions.

Jeanclaude, where are you when I need you most? Why aren't you here?   And why is it we only seem to spend any time together in the evenings? And you die on me before the sun comes up.  Ah well, I love you for all you are!

This is something that gets my goat.  A slave who claims to be straight or gay or lesbian.  Now wait a minute... by definition a slave is someone who gives control, all their power is given to an Owner.  (Yes, I know a lot of you will say... a slave is still a human.  And here I choose to disagree.  A slave is a slave.  Property to be owned.  When they choose to be a slave they choose to become a thing and give up their human qualities. They give up the power to someone who will care for them and they submit to the will of another.  They are slave to the Owner... property for the Owner's pleasure.  )  Having said that, how can a slave say, I will only do men, or I will only do women.  Doesn't that limitation on their Owner make them submissive but not truly a slave?  A slave's sexuality is chosen by the Owner they have choosen to become a slave to.

So when I see lesbian slave, I just want to pull my hair out.  I think this is just absurd!  Now a Mistress can choose to be lesbian, and a slave can pick a lesbian to serve as their Mistress.  But that is an Owner's perogative.  So if you aren't going to claim to be anything other that sexually open to both sexes and more, then don't claim to be a slave. 

Please take notice on my profile, while I'm happy to chat with males, I am no longer seeking one. 

So my journal entry for today.  How does a slave, who is submissive and slave like, supposed to make such a monumental decision like who their owner should be?  When a slave has a hard time choosing what she will wear daily, how can I possibly suggest she make a decision about who she knows to be right to own her.

My answer is simple.  Use logic and reason and allow that to make the decision for you. What I mean is start by making a list of things you want and need from an owner.  I don't mean doing the check list on collarme... that's a good start, but how about the emotional needs you want met, or ignored by your owner?  And list all the concrete and abstract things that you feel are important to you.  Edit the list often because as you grow in knowledge and ability, your needs and wants will change.  Ask potential owners open ended questions that will lead to them telling you if they fit into what you need and want from an owner. 

When you find the person/people who fit, plan a trip.  Be sure to use all the safety measures that should be followed.   And just meet them.  See if they are all they say they are.  you will know if it feels right or not.  you might need 2 short visits, or 1 long one. 

Visits, the idea of a visit is SCARY! so safety, safety, safety, but I feel particularly strong after this.  A visit to a potential owner is like jumping off a cliff with a heard of buffalo behind ya...and you can't see the bottom.  Scary!  you gotta jump or the buffalo (everyday life) is gonna squash ya!  But you can't see the bottom.  The cliff (your life presently) that you can't see down, might seem safe and sure you can dodge buffalo for a while, but eventually you are gonna get squashed.  So you look over the edge to the bottom (A potential owner).  It could be safe (A good owner and a happy life.) or is could kill ya at the bottom (An owner that you thought was great, but turns out to be a real crapper)  but if you don't jump the herd of buffalo is gonna keep stampeding.  So you have to jump, and when you do, you take a parachute (A call to a friend every few hours.) and a gust of wind (an understanding that you return home before you make a decision on anything).  Pick your safety measures... any measures. you can jump into the cactus, or the pillows, but you have to jump to be alive and happy. If you don't try things and take a chance, how do you get to the point of feeling fulfilled and happy and safe?

Why do some Dommes list Themselves as 'bisexual' but in the first sentence of Their profile state very clearly 'NO MEN'. i just have found that interesting and sometimes confusing.

I have a couple of answers for this questions and none of them will make you very happy I'm sure.  

The first one that comes to mind is that while the Domme is bisexual, she isn't looking for a male slave at this time.  Not forever.  Maybe the case is that only a female would be pleasing to her palate at the time.  

A lot of women write "NO MEN" because they are sooo overwhelmed by males who are too stupid to write more than one liners, and flood the inbox, that they can't get to the real serious e mails.  And that is Quite annoying. (In this case if you are really interested in her, don't write her an e mail, but look at her profile once or twice a week and make it apparent that you are monitoring her profile without intruding.  She might take the hint and write you to see what you are up to.)

I have to say this as a side note... I have talked with a couple of women on here both slave and Mistress, and most seem to think that a male submissive and even a master are a dime a dozen.  You can find one any time of day or night and they will hop in a car and come to you without any prompting.  It's really very sad and desperate. 

Lastly, if she is saying No Men, she may be saying it because she doesn't want men in her life, she might have a husband, or a lover that she is playing with already, but doesn't choose to "explain herself" in that matter to you.

Bisexual doesn't mean she is willing to fuck just anybody, so don't get impatient if you don't fit what she is looking for right now.  Just keep an eye on the profile.  you might try making friends with the Domme and see if you can build a true friendship... sometimes doing something as simple as being there, means you can catch a person at an opportune time and be available.  After all isn't that was a slave is for?  To be there to serve the person they wish to serve?

Don't be disheartened.  There are a million fish in the sea... If 3/4 of those fish are swimming the wrong way, you will find you enjoy the other 250 thousand just as much as the one's that aren't interested in you.  

Good luck in finding that one special Owner for you.

Just a post script:  The people... be they submissive, slave, or Domme, or Mistress... who says no men, once.  Be respectful... if it says No men, no men, no men, no men, over and over and over again.  *rolling eyes* (I feel like I lost IQ points just typing that!)I don't feel they need to be taken worth a grain of salt.  Ultimately, they do that to gain attention and are going to be a waste of time in the long run.  If you write it once, people see it, and they will listen or they won't.  If they write it over and over, they are just being childish and annoying... do you want to be under the control of someone childish and annoying, or own someone who is childish and annoying?  I typically hide or block these people. 

Want a Domme to address a question you might have, but don't wish to ask someone you know?  Well, ask away.  I don't know any of you. I would be happy to answer any "serious" question.  And if you don't like my answer, well you can always not take my advice and just ignore me:)

Little slave, little slave, won't you come in?:))

 Does the fact that a girl who is whored out at her owner's request make her less of a whore than a girl who does it on her own willingly?

I was asked this question today by someone who knows I can't stand to ignore a question that strikes my strings the right way.  And the strings have been played with this one! 

Whore vs Slut.  Whore has lots of sex with lots of people for money.  A slut has lots of sex with lots of people. 

This is a tough question.  A double edged sword.  Here is what I want to say as a knee jerk response.  No, anything a slave does for her Owner is on the Owner's head.  So it makes the Owner a whore.  (Awwwhhhh... such a sweet sentiment.) But with a little more thought, a whore is a whore no matter who she does the whoring for.  I mean if the vanilla girl on the street is whoring for a pimp, she's still a whore... and this really would be no different.  So Is a slave who whores at her owners request any less of a whore.  Nope, I think she still is a whore and there is not degree of whore really, you either are or you aren't.

Now, ask me if I think being a whore is a bad thing?

I have spent the day playing, playing, playing!  Who needs more than that?

She's been found, and she's ok.  Thank you all for putting out the word.  Please let anyone with the notice up that she's been found and family and friends are putting out the word she's been grounded for live!!!  LOL 

OK This is a notice that a fetish member has gone missing and we need to spread the word.  Her name is Sapphoria and she went out to do a "photo shoot" and never came home.  I'm passing on her family's plea to help.  Please if you are in the New York area pass this on and look closely!!! 

I’m sorry for this serious post but Sapphoria has gone missing. She boarded a bus to New York City this past Saturday night the 18th and has not heard from her since. She left her cell phone and was suppose to have come back this past Tuesday. She was planning on seeing a friend and taking part in a fetish photo shoot but we don’t know anything about this friend or photo shoot. If you know anything please message this account. Her Family and Friends are worried about her. –Buck a housemate of Sapphoria

Update:
She is 5’8” 140lb. 27 year old TG female. Brown hair just longer then her shoulders with brown eyes. She took the Apex bus from Richmond scheduled to arrive in NYC at 5:30AM the 19th 13 Allen St. To my understanding she was scheduled for some kind of a photo shoot on Monday the 20th. I don’t know exactly what kind of shoot it was but we believe it was very fetish based. There is no indication that anything foul has happened and it would not be beyond her to change her plans without informing anyone. Her father, friends and I are just interested in finding out if she is ok. It would not be that big of a deal except that she also left her cell phone here at home. Her father told me he was filing a missing persons report tonight. Any help that can be given would be greatly appreciated. I can be reached at st1drgn@gmail.com
Buck Helmke

ok, so tomorrow the 21st is my anniversary.  If any little girl is interested in give us a very happy anniversary gift, I would be happy to entertain the ideas!

Family guy "Who wants to play hide and go anal?"

St. Valentine's Day has been to commercialized.  Call me a stuffy old fart.  I don't mind a treat for sure on valentine's day, but I believe in telling the person I love, I love you everyday in everything I say and do for them.  Not just once a year. 

If you enjoy BBC America, you and I might have something in common, but what you watch is just as important as where you watch it. 

A slave is alot like a book, you have to know where to go to get to the best parts. LOL