This is my vanilla update - so you can get to know me - but I will get a quick couple of lines out on my kink so that you can "locate me" in this varied lifestyle. ? My Kink: ? Primarily Mental Dominance. Freedom through bondage. Developing you (and us) personally - through stretch tasks, training & control. Proud and rewarding when you try and firm when you don't. Being Needed. Caring aftercare. ? My Vanilla Life: ? Firstly, I am big, 6'2". Not toned - but not all floppy either. A bit nfl/rugby. ? About Me: ? I am British, was living in NYC, back in London (2014). Pretty successful and well educated - able to engage in a good intellectual connection through chat. ? I am a gentleman and a rogue - seriously, not just a cliche - I like to help people. I am the guy who stands up while you sit, I am the guy holding the door or carrying your bag. And yet still - a dark horse behind closed doors or whispering naughtily in your ear. I assure you it's possible to be both - I am sweet and salty. ? Like: ? Soccer ( English Premier League - none of your MLS stuff ;) ). ? The outdoors & the water (fishing and boating). Swimming/snorkeling - a pisces that is comfortable in the water. ? Art - high end (opera, ballet, moma, met); Low end (street artists with a spirit in Brooklyn/London/Sao Paulo; small theater for the love of the stage). ? Food - mmmm - world class chefs cooking to my order. A sub working hard to for His dinner with friends. Get it right though honey. ? A good chat on an eclectic mix of interests. ? Dislike: ? In your face people - I am quietly strong, sophisticated and confident. I don't have to make up for any insecurity by roaring! ? Intolerance - in all it's horrible s (except maybe intolerance of the intolerant :)). Live and let live. ? Hard Drugs ? Needless to say - scammers. ? So what's next: ? Let's write that next chapter together - this is a slow book, it might be short or long, no-one knows, but I am sure it will be a great read - let's get acquainted. ? I can do casual and enjoy and learn from having experiences as much as the next person. But, I also think more and more fulfillment comes as you get to know, focus on and trust your partner - so dating with the hope for a long term relationship - is very desirable. I don't think you start "knowing" - you start with "feeling", "hope", "want" and you progress with intent - and then in time comes the knowing, the certainty and the fulfillment. But you must start. ? I am also very interested in this amazing world and all it's subjects - so just chitty chatty friends on kink or any vanilla subject really is good too. ? Take care all - Thank you for reading