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Spanking/S&M: top/switch. Vanilla: mostly bottom.
Youngish gay man, 63, gymrat 4 x week, living alone in the country in South Central Minnesota, near the little town of Amboy (thus my name), which is SSW of Mankato. I visit the Twin Cities, and I intend to move back up there, as soon as I can fix up my house and sell it - which might take a while in this market.
I am homoflexible, meaning I will do BDSM play with women, but not sex, as I am a 5.9 on the Kinsey Scale. I am still learning what a woman's body can take, and where, so I could definitely use some training in that.
Lifelong SPANKO, who will give, get or trade. I am into everything from playfully erotic to severe discipline, plus male bonding rituals, such as birthdays, initiations, games with consequences (such as spank poker), wagers on sporting events or whatever, spanking contests, trading spanks just for the fun (or the hell) of it, etc. I like the idea of Mutual Accountability Spankings, man-to-man, better than the usual Dad/son roleplay, but I will give the Dad part my best effort. I find it works best if I underplay the part when roleplaying. What are your spanking fantasies?
(Ask me about the mixed spanking group in the Twin Cities, known as HankySpankyMN, and the Male/Male Spanking Archive website, with over 15,000 stories, if you do not know about them.)
I have been branching out into other things, mostly other impact play, but I need instruction and practice on swinging floggers and whips. I have felt both, and liked it. I am open to many other things. I enjoy using my spanktoys on other body parts: CBT anyone? I am getting more interested in bondage, and need to pick up some skills and ideas for that.
I am not looking for an M/s relationship, and I have little need for D/s dynamics. However, I LOVE being in charge, if it means I get to let my sadistic beast out on a longer leash than usual. I do like some kinds of pain, so there is a masochistic side of me as well. I therefore call myself a sadomasochist. Although I see myself more as a top, I cheerfully bottom for many things. "Rarely submissive but often willing!" I am not a sub by nature, and I don't get off on being humiliated or degraded. I only do that to someone else, when they really need/want that.
In many ways I am still a novice, but definitely not a newbie, as I have been paying attention to the gay leather/S&M scene for years, albeit from a distance. For the past year, I have enjoyed discovering the pansexual kink community in Minnesota, whom I now sometimes call "my new people".
I have a good understancding of BDSM dynamics and relationships, and I know at least about most of the activities on the menu. I am not looking so much for a mentor, as I am for a trainer. I am willing to bottom to an experienced Master (um, Mistress???) for that. I appreciate anyone, regardless of gender, orientation, or role, who is willing to teach me things I do not know.
I also enjoy mentoring and teaching. I know enough to help somebody new get started in the lifestyle. I know what I do not know and will refer to someone more experienced, when that becomes necessary. I am currently "protecting" a young man with gender and other issues, who is brand new to the scene.
I have a much longer profile, lots of friends, too many groups, and a way too long fetish list on , which I am now addicted to. I am also on Recon, SpankThis, and elsewhere, same ID.
Take care (and my usual WHAP!)
David
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