How NOT to start a conversation:
- how r u sexy
- u got awesome titts
- hey sexy, wanna chat (sexy can be interchanged with beautiful as this seems to be a popular one)
Using text speak and no punctuation show lack of respect, intelligence, and is just plain unattractive. When I mentioned it to one prospect last night he actually told me that I wasn’t worthy of a complete “you”. Suffice it to say I ended the conversation.
In response to the "wanna chat"s I often reply "I would love to chat if you can send me a sincere introduction." Most times I never hear from them again, but I believe if no one lets them know that this is not acceptable (and this applies to women too), that they will continue with their bad behavior.
You should message me if:
You think you can pique my curiosity and message me using proper grammar. Also "Hey Beautiful" or "Hi sexy" are not appropriate introductions or conversation starters. If that is all you have to say, please find someone else to say it to.
It seems like most don’t make it to the last paragraph or don’t think I am serious. Let’s just say I have little tolerance for laziness when it comes to trying to get me to talk to you with the hopes of a date. When your first impression is the written word make sure it represents who you are or how you want to be represented. THEN if you chose to speak/write like an idiot, don’t be offended when I tell you I am not interested. I also wonder how many have to look up pique ;)
It is like thousands of years of evolution is being washed away in a matter of years. When our communication resembles the language of cave men/women, we really have to figure out if we are making progress or regressing, at least when it comes to attracting and keeping a mate.
What next? Clobbering a prospective partner over the head with your smart phone and dragging them back to your "man cave" in the basement of your parent's house to play video games?