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Amani4LTR

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I am taking a break from speaking to others on CollarMe...your mail may not be received or answered for an indefinite period of time.

Hello and welcome to Amani4LTR’s profile...

The LTR in my profile means "life time romance or "long term relationship."


Please read the following prior to contact:

m I am only seeking contact with Doms in the San Francisco Bay Area.

m I am only seeking contact with Doms who are open to building a LTR with another person (which for me does not include polyamory). However, such a relationship would develop naturally out of being friends and play partners first, so don't be shy about contacting me if you would be open to play dates. Chemistry is the determining factor in creating a LTR.

m I am not looking to be a slave, but to be a submissive in private and an "equal" in public. In the context of public life, "equal" for me means being seen externally as a girlfriend among the vanilla masses, while at the same time we know that I am submitting internally to him. It is this dual dynamic of the seen and unseen that works best for me. (Vision is the art of seeing things invisible – Jonathan Swift.)

m Initially, I do not engage in any form of chats, sex-ting, sex-e-mail, camera, phone, or otherwise. I prefer to engage in contact in the following order if all goes well with the previous step. I e-mail first, chat next, talk on phone, meet in person, and finally engage in some form of D/s later. I may go into further detail regarding my likes and dislikes in our initial e-mails, but generally I stick to this order.

m The following are simply bullet points and cannot truly encompass all that I am. I am ever changing and growing. Thus, if you generally fit the criteria above and below in the “Who You Are” section, please feel free to send me an e-mail.

m I am especially interested in longer and well-written e-mails that demonstrate your intelligence, wit, and class. I find myself very much drawn to Doms that have an excellent mastery of language, composition, and description. If you display those qualities in your e-mail, then you are a cut above the rest and I will reply in a more timely, devoted, and extensive manner.


Who I am as a person:

t Even though my profile and initial e-mails present a more protective, dominant, or perhaps even stand-offish personality; once I feel comfortable with a Dom via e-mails and have met him in person, I definitely have a more submissive personality. One of my friends once commented that, when I trust someone, I am the most submissive woman that he has ever known.

t I am caring and communicative and need the same in return. I enjoy both intellectual, emotionally aware, and D/s discourse.

t My dearest hope is to be both adored and ravished and to find someone with whom I can share the greatest of intimacies and the least inhibited of fantasies.

t I have a professional degree but am currently moving in a new career direction thanks to our country’s current economic situation (happiness sometimes means a pay cut).

t I can present a polished professional look in the day and then be a dressed-to-kill girly girl in the evening (perfect for a night out on the town…or at home in the bedroom).

t In terms of my personality, I am more optimistic than not. I tend to find humor in the most trying of situations, which often includes laughing at myself. My sense of humor tends to be dry/British on the one hand and rather childish on the other hand.

t I am a mix between an extrovert and an introvert, depending on the situation. I'm more of a reserved homebody, but you wouldn't know that when I'm hanging out with others.

t When I say I'm shy internally, people rarely believe me. Perhaps that is because my external actions indicate a more extroverted personality. I have a high public contact job. I tend to make jokes and begin conversations easily. However, I can only do those things because I drawn upon my relaxing-at-home reserve.

t When I have free time, I enjoy cuddling up to or being dominated/sexually taken by my Dom, watching a little TV/seeing a movie, cooking a gourmet meal, or playing around online. Although I don't have any in my house, a board game or two would not be out of the question.

t In addition, as a hopeless romantic, I crave emotionally intimate connections with others but am psychologically aware enough to not want these connections to be smothering or codependent.

t I am deferential to my Dom in both a public and a private context. Yet, I am also spirited and desire to have my voice heard in matters that impact the vanilla aspects of a D/s relationship (making a home, finances, choosing fun cultural or social activities to do, etc.). In my view, without such volition, I will end up feeling like a doormat, without a voice, and unheard; and not being heard in such a context would not meet a core need of mine

t I want a D/s relationship that meets both of our core needs and is respectful of hard limits. For me those needs/hard limits include:

~ Sexual submission without chastity/orgasm control lasting beyond a day or two.

~ Being taken aggressively without permanent physical harm.

~ Having a partner who appreciates the curviness of a woman's body without requiring that large breasts accompany it.

~ Having a partner willing to discuss all aspects of the relationship without resorting to defensive language.

t I probably have a greater sex drive than most women you've met. I enjoy it frequently (if not daily) but am very, very, very faithful to my partner and never go outside the relationship for sex unless told to do so by him. I would expect the same in return.

t Plain vanilla sex without any sort of D/s dynamic bores me to death! My D/s interests vary far and wide and I don’t have any particular fetish per se, as I’ll try almost anything once. However, if I had to describe just one scenario (out of the many I have) that makes me incredibly excited it would be the following… I am woken up out of a sound sleep in the middle of the night with my hair being pulled or my mouth being covered to keep me quiet. Then, I am told that I am a (choose one) filthy/dirty/nasty/depraved (choose one) slut/whore/cunt/Daddy's bitch while I am "raped" roughly and without mercy in both my cunt and ass. Then--when the rough sex has subsided--I am held, kissed, and provided with any aftercare that I may need.

t Essentially, hugs and kisses are not optional for me in a relationship. A wink, a quick or deep kiss, holding hands while walking down the street are ways of maintaining intimacy on a daily basis. (I know most people believe this should go unsaid, but just making a clarification based on personal experience.)

t In the past, I have had long term relationships with both men and women (my shortest relationship in the last 15 years was just under two years long). However, I prefer the D/s relationships that I've had with men, as I find the male Dom/female sub dynamic just suits my desires better. If I was ordered to be with a woman for the pleasure of my Dom, however, this would not be out of the question.


Who you are as a person...

t I find my greatest happiness in D/s comes from having developed a sense of trust that allows me to surrender completely.

t Consequently, it is very important you be:

~ honest with me;

~ that you do not drink to excess or have a history of alcoholism, DUIs, or drug abuse, etc. (I've only been a light, social drinker and don’t do any drugs so this is crutial to me);;

~ and that you are willing to discuss any difficulties that might arise within our relationship by focusing on what is best for the partnership and not just on who "wins" the discussion.

t You are an intelligent man who--while sometimes stern with me in order to "teach me a lesson"--knows when to not take himself too seriously (a sharp sense of dry humor would be a true bonus).

t Age, height, weight, etc. is not important; what concerns me more is the gray matter between your ears.

t You have the ability to move me into subspace by words alone...as well as by physical actions.

t You enjoy the finer elements of life without believing that a wallet must be opened to enjoy them all.

t You are a dominant man in both the dungeon and daily life without being dismissive of other people's feelings.

t You are seeking a woman who is willing to explore most worlds in a D/s universe, but you're too creative to apply a generic protocol to keep her in your orbit.

And....most importantly....

t You are not living the D/s relationship as a fantasy that does not take your submissive's needs into consideration. Instead, you are aware enough to know that a D/s relationship exists in the real world (with all the day-to-day vanilla issues inherent in it) and you are seeking a submissive who will also take your needs into consideration.

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fall4you
 
 Age: 23
 California city, California