The Dominant loves and cares for his submissive, in the knowledge that submission is the gift freely given and Domination is the loving return of that gift. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may exercise control over others. Within him he holds the power of emotion and can cause real tears to flow ... tears of joy and of sadness. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of his role as a Dominant.

When trouble arises, at the first hint of a safe word or gesture he is quick to leave the roles behind and embrace his lover, to be a supportive and caring partner, understanding the difference between fantasy and the reality of this the most loving and intense relation between two beings.

For a dominant to win his submissive's Heart, he must first win trust, through his honour, truthfulness, kindness. He must know his sub's mind and body and strive to know her soul. He must show that his Guidance and tutelage is worth following, that his knowledge is deserving of her attention, that this is a person from which the submissive can learn and grow.

His main concerns are the pleasure he gives to his submissive and foremost her safety, knowing how to extend to Bounds of pleasure. and bring the submissive farther as she progresses on her own path, ever the careful guide, never knowingly pushing but probing to find her limits and then helping her surpass them.