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I will write something more here when the inspiration strikes me. I have been here before and no matter how articulate, honest and sincere my profile post was I was not able to make the right connection. Thinking of blithely echoing some platitudes and buzz words this time around just to see whether the effort of a thoughtful post is worth it. How's that for a profile post. lol Facts: Yes I am a mature man: trust me hitting 50 was as distasteful to me as it might be to you. I can't help it if I crave younger, it is the whole genetic imperative thing. I can best describe me as tall 6'4" and i'm considered handsome by most accounts. I am a professional, cultured to an extent but not pretentious. I am easy going and good natured with a sardonic wit. I have been in this life style for more years then most of you have been alive. Translate that into not always nice and easy going, you get the picture. Now here comes the the real rub. If my verbiage is hard to understand or you are not willing to at least look up the words you might not be familiar with, I can tell you now we are not compatible. I need brains (sounds zombie like) Bodies are fun to play with but a mind is infinitely more interesting, fun, sexy, and stimulating. "Stimulate the mind and the body follows" Don't know whether that is an original quote but in any event I'm taking credit for it! Feel free to ask any questions or e-mail just to chat. I will never ask for submission unless there is a real connection but i do ask for a respectful tone in correspondence. (never understood how a Dom could want a women to submit without knowing her but C'est la vie) Wow imagine how pedantic my profile was when I actually talked about my insights and philosophy of D/s. Photo upon connection. I am actually semi, almost, slightly, a public figure due to my profession.

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9/28/2015 11:51:42 AM

A Difference of Opinion

 

Recently when I signed into Collarspace the first profile that popped up seemed to have been written by a young lady.  There was a picture and a short one line message.  The picture showed a cute young lady, her face contorted in pain with tears brimming in her eyes.  The one line simply stated: “She's learning that it's not meant to feel good.” What struck me was there was nothing in that picture or in the statement (obviously written by the person responsible) that connoted any joy or pleasure in whatever was happening, just misery and pain.  

There is nothing objectionable in the application of pain as a tool in training or to satisfy a pain slut’s desires quite the opposite.  There is a physiological reason (above and beyond the psychological) why the right application of pain heightens pleasure or in and of itself is pleasurable.  Pain produces endorphins and the release of adrenaline, the former gives euphoria (think opiates) the later heightens senses.  In that profile picture we are not talking about the sudden catch of a breath or low moan or even the slight wince and yelp type pain, it was agony.

I have turned women on to the joy of pain and it is a slow incremental process.  Yes you push the limits but you respect them too. Which begs the question, what exactly was she learning? 

I have been accuse of being pejorative in assessing what “doms” (yes they don’t even deserve a capital D) say or do on this site but having been around the block too many times with women of different ages who were ruined by some clod I felt constrained to speak.  A good sadist can be a good Dom but being a sadist doesn’t make you a Dom and especially one suitable for a novice.  A sadist gets pleasure from causing pain; we are all looking for fulfilments so no harm no foul there.  Pain and a content, satisfied sub are not mutually exclusive as stated above. 

But in the end it shouldn’t be: “She's learning that it's not meant to feel good,” rather it should be “She is learning that she likes it/ enjoys it/ wants it/ to hurt!”


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UnrestrictedOne
 
 Age: 31
  New York