A Difference of Opinion
Recently when I signed into Collarspace the first profile that popped up seemed to have been written by a young lady. There was a picture and a short one line message. The picture showed a cute young lady, her face contorted in pain with tears brimming in her eyes. The one line simply stated: “She's learning that it's not meant to feel good.” What struck me was there was nothing in that picture or in the statement (obviously written by the person responsible) that connoted any joy or pleasure in whatever was happening, just misery and pain.
There is nothing objectionable in the application of pain as a tool in training or to satisfy a pain slut’s desires quite the opposite. There is a physiological reason (above and beyond the psychological) why the right application of pain heightens pleasure or in and of itself is pleasurable. Pain produces endorphins and the release of adrenaline, the former gives euphoria (think opiates) the later heightens senses. In that profile picture we are not talking about the sudden catch of a breath or low moan or even the slight wince and yelp type pain, it was agony.
I have turned women on to the joy of pain and it is a slow incremental process. Yes you push the limits but you respect them too. Which begs the question, what exactly was she learning?
I have been accuse of being pejorative in assessing what “doms” (yes they don’t even deserve a capital D) say or do on this site but having been around the block too many times with women of different ages who were ruined by some clod I felt constrained to speak. A good sadist can be a good Dom but being a sadist doesn’t make you a Dom and especially one suitable for a novice. A sadist gets pleasure from causing pain; we are all looking for fulfilments so no harm no foul there. Pain and a content, satisfied sub are not mutually exclusive as stated above.
But in the end it shouldn’t be: “She's learning that it's not meant to feel good,” rather it should be “She is learning that she likes it/ enjoys it/ wants it/ to hurt!” |