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More often than not, the question posed is "what are you looking for". Since what I am looking for is by far more in-depth than what I am not looking for, I thought I would list that which I do not seek in order to save not only you but me some very precious time. However, I will tell you one of the most important things I am not looking for. Please keep in mind this is a general list. If you have any questions, contact me, I am not beyond negotiating things. After all is that not in part what this "lifestyle" is about?
- I do not wish to beat anyone whether occasionally or daily. I am not a sadist, therefore if pain is your thing, move on. However, I am not against disciplining and can be quite creative about it.
- I do not wish someone who feels that they have to be naked when preforming tasks in order to enhance their submission.
- I do not wish someone who makes a point of talking more about their fetishes than anything else. We all have fetishes.
- I do not wish someone who insists on cbt and chastity as being "terms" of their submission. Though you may be sub/slave, you are also human and have needs just like I do.
- If you can not stand the sight of blood please move on. See my "lives for list" and figure it out.
- I am not into knife play or needles.
- I am not into having an object or into humiliation. It just is not my thing.
- I am not into torture of any kind (cbt or otherwise), if this is your thing, please move on.
- I am not into training green-horns. I have nothing against those new to the "lifestyle". I am at a stage in my life where I wish to settle down with someone special.
- I do not need someone to do all of my housework, repairs, etc. However, if you are the right one, household tasks will be discussed.
- If you have a thing against tattoo's, move on.
- My opinions on the lifestyle and how it is now can be by far very different than the majority. If you can not handle something so very much more than the slap and tickle, move on.
- I do not play the superficial game and vanity has no place in my home.
This list is a bit longer but I will stop here because I feel that most of these things should be discussed one on one.
A little about me...
I grew up in what would resemble a 50's style household (female led). I have been in and out of the lifestyle for many years. The last ten being my most active.
This last year, I took some time to do some exploring of myself, my likes, and dislikes. I sit here astonished at some of the things I learned. And the following examples are things which I am looking for... For example, almost all of my life I have taken care of my personal needs myself. I learned that I enjoy being bathed, having my hair washed and brushed, having my nails done, etc. I had always been against having my feet messed with. I learned that I enjoy foot massages if done properly with no tickling. And as I suffer RLS, having my legs rubbed down before bed. I also found out that I do enjoy putting someone across my lap and giving a nice hand spanking occasionally.
Though I have a "dominant" personality, one must remember I am a woman first and foremost. I have emotions, cares, likes, dislikes, fears, hobbies, etc. These needs also need to be met. I am not looking for a play partner or part time situation. I am looking for someone to share my life with as a partner and submissive/slave.
If you want to know more, by all means contact.
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