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For a long time I made my list of requirements so impossible to find so that I would never get hurt again.
Ive finally gotten over that. Its taken two years, but Im ready again.
Im not looking for casual hookups anymore. I never was really.
I need someone that I can care for.
Im a provider. Thats just what I do.
The person that I am looking for isnt so rare.
Im looking for a submissive in my presence, a slave in the bedroom, and sometimes a little when you need that special care.
I like nerdy. Intelligence is often a part of that.
Shy is especially sexy.
I love cats. I have four of them.
While Golden Retrievers have a wonderful personality, and Pomeranians are just cute enough to get away with anything, other dogs, eh... not so much. I have a long, negative history with too many dogs because of my job and they have given me a bad perspective on them.
While I want to be a daddy figure, I dont want to be the father of your children.
I raised two kids into being positive and productive members of this world. My responsibilities are met.
I also like to travel. Sometimes for a week or two at a time.
I like to attend all kinds of various conventions and go to interesting places in other states.
That becomes very difficult with children and dogs.
I am now at an age where I can afford to play at my leisure. I wont become a burden on other people to do it though.
I need a partner that can keep up.
I also like smaller breasts.
I empathize with someone being uncomfortable or in non-consented to pain and feel a need to help it.
The back pain that typically accompanies a D cup or larger is something that I cannot help. While it is hurting you physically, not being able to help you tears me up inside.
I prefer women younger than myself as well.
I have a difficult time being a daddy to someone that is nearly my age.
I like the darker things in life.
I want to go to the museum of torture in Florida and the paranormal museums that abound. And so many more places. But I do not want to go alone.
I also want people in my life that has body dysmorphia, anxiety, feelings of betrayal or insecurities. While I cannot say that I will cure those things in you, and know that I will keep promises and prove to you that you are beautiful as you are.
While I dont subscribe to the whole zodiac process, I do see similarities in personality types.
I love the Aquarius intelligence and need to create.
And the Capricorn steadfast dependability is looked upon highly.
There are even aspects of Libra that I like.
But I cant stand Ares. They are just way too prone to want to fight.
And I can never predict the Cancers emotional state so I tend to minimize contact with them as well.
I love latex clothing and corsets, so its probably a good idea that you not have allergies to latex or serious positioning problems.
These are the things that I want in a partner. Of course, only one person out of ten thousand will be able to meet all of these requests, so not all of them are requirements.
I check back here about once a week so if you meet the mass majority of these, and are interested, send me a message.
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Okay--- Ladies, and sometimes, gentlemen. If you are going to contact me just to feed your fantasies, I get that. Just let me know by sending me this }<0> little fish to let me know that you are fishing for fantasy fodder. If I get that, I can and will play along with whatever fantasy you are seeking to fulfill, and I will probably do it eagerly.
But until I see that little fish, or until you are honest with me about what you are seeking, I am going to take the stance that I am not your dominant, that I have no power or authority in your life, and I am not going to assume anything. Until I put a collar on your neck, I just won't act like it. I'm not like 90% of the other guys on here. I don't presume anything before it is discussed and it becomes official.
If you're after online role playing, I just will not feed you what you are looking for if I don't know that you are looking for it...
Until then, I am just going to assume that you are genuinely interested in getting to know me as a potential dominant and as a real life partner.
Thank you for understanding.... |
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Wow.. okay.. where the hell are all of the pictures I uploaded so long ago???
This site is screwed up. |
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Something is very wrong with collarspace.
When someone sends me a message, and when I try to respond, I get logged out and the message never goes through.
SO--- if it will make it easier on you, because I know it will for me, find me on facebook.com/alighant .... just let me know in a message where you saw this so that I know if you are safe to add. Let me know here as well if you send me a message on that site as my privacy filters do not always immediately display when I get messages from people that are not on my friends list.
And you do not have to worry. I will treat you with decency, dignity, and respect. Keeping your anonymity is a sacred promise from me.. I'm looking for a serious, long term relationship, and I have no intentions of ending up on some collarspace beware-of-this-guy list. |
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I thought that I would go ahead and put down in print who and what I want.
The first and most important considerations are honesty and loyalty.
I want someone who will defend me when I am not around just as surely as I will defend you if someone should bad mouth you behind your back.
I also want you to voluntarily tell me when you have made a mistake.
I will be a great deal less disappointed if you tell me the truth before I find out through someone else.
I also want obedience. Granted, I understand that you will have moments where you need to express yourself. I understand that you need this. If we are not connecting as people first, the rest of it will always fall apart. But, I insist that you be respectful and approach the situation with a certain protocol when you do so.
I also want someone patient. Not emotionally patient as much as physically patient.
I like to do some very intricate rope bondage and I am somewhat of a perfectionist. Sometimes, it takes time to get things just right.
I also want someone who would like to explore the darker ects of your personality. I like doing Consensual Non-consent and rape play scenes. I also like de-humanization and extended duration mummification.
Also, you will be my little dress up doll. I love corsets and latex. I expect to spend a great deal of money on you and I will provide you with outfits and clothing that is just amazing. I expect you to want to wear it for me.
I don't expect you to work outside of the home. I do not need help keeping up with the routine maintenance of the household. If you want to do something outside to provide a little extra spending money for yourself, I will allow that, up to but not past the point where it becomes an interruption in your service to me.
You will also wear a collar for me. In public. All of the time.
The type and appearance will be mine to choose, but you will wear it. Most will be discreet, but not always. I can promise that I will not humiliate you in front of your family and friends unless you specifically request for me to do so.
You will also address me as I choose, yes, even in public.
You will spend time in a cage. Sometimes, that will be overnight. Sometimes it will be for motivational reasons, and other times it will be simply to remind you of your position and place.
You will spend a great deal of time kneeling and naked when it is just the two of us.
There will be times when you are restricted from using the furniture in the house.
I will make you feel cherished and important. Any person who wishes to offer so much to me will be rewarded greater than you can imagine. But also, I will never let you forget what you have promised me.
You will be my partner in adventure.
You will be by my side, and sometimes at my feet when I go to various conventions. You will be with me when I travel.
Mundane requirements---
I do not have room in my life for more children. I raised my kids. This is my time now.
I also require that you prioritize me correctly.
First is God, whoever you consider that to be...then Government. Obey the law so that you can remain a part of my life. Then is me. After that, family obligations will be considered, but not always guaranteed.
That's basically it in a nutshell. |
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New years morning.
I sit here in a quiet house, alone, by choice.
Well, not entirely alone. I have the sweetest little kitten sleeping peacefully next to me.
And I am happy with this choice. I could have spent the night our partying with friends, but I decided to spend the night in quiet reflection occupying my night being constructive.
I put some progress into a collar that I am making for a friend. Caught up on some of my DVR'ed programs that I never find the time to watch. Organized my leather working kit, and spent some time browsing facebook, fetlife, and here.
I'm beginning to get disgruntled with Collarspace though. My local area does not have a large selection of people who are outwardly interested in this lifestyle, so I have been reaching out farther and farther away from me.
I send out friendly messages, which sometimes get read, but I get no response. Not even a reply stating that the person isn't interested.
But that is the problem with dating sites like this one. There are so many men on here that are bombarding women with messages that mine just get lost in the masses.
I think I might give up on here.
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It sucks being officially single. Even though I have people around the house on a regular basis, I still feel this sense of loneliness.
I mean, I have an occasional playmate, but that is once every two to three months at best. There's no emotional bond. No connection. Playtime is nice, and I can release some of the pent up energy within me, but not faster than I accumulate it.
And the worst part: I have this bedroom full of some of the most incredible equipment sitting around just collecting dust. It's mocking me because I have nobody to use it on. The equipment isn't the important part, it's the not having someone in the cage or on the fucking machine day after day that eats me alive. It's not feeling connected and appreciated. I just feel used.
It seems like this is just a prelude of what is to come. It feels like the moment I turn 50, nobody is going to be interested in me again. It feels like the last 30 +/- years of learning and building are just wasted now. Everything is just sitting around taking up space.
I just don't get it. Is experience and wisdom worthless?
Granted, this could just be a dry spell. But it's the first time I have ever had one and it's scary and depressing as hell. |
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| Age: 26 |
| Schenectady,
New York |
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