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Hetero Male Master, 56,  Salem, Oregon
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Life is an adventure!

It should be lived as such.

I am the Captain of the ship of my life! Whether I chart a course to a specific destination, or let the winds and tides carry me wherever they will, the choice is mine. Or, in this case, the choice to run with this metaphor... )

As Captain of this ship, I am the dominant figure aboard. This does not mean I rule with an iron fist. I am generally considerate of others, though I do not submit to others. I have, however, occasionally met those whom I respect and trust enough to follow their lead for a mission or two. I have self-identified as a switch on occasion, but have realized that I tend toward dominant without the sadistic connotations. I am not a cruel man, though I do not spare the lash or strap when needed. For those who enjoy any sensual pursuit, I can dish it out and serve it up to them. Pain or pleasure, hard steel or soft leather, bindings of rope and leather might be softened with silk or fur, all this and more is available aboard.

The ship of my life includes a First Mate My Wife. We are both open and honest in all our communications, and in all our relationships.She gives me good council in all things, knows she is my submissive in our intimate times (at the least), and is happy knowing that I take charge when needed. Yet, she happily takes charge when she is working in her comfort zone.We are laid back and drama free by nature, and choose to avoid those who have excessive drama in their lives.

On the good ship HMS Dramafree, there is much fun to be had. There is room for at least one more crew member, somebody to help us keep everything ship shaped and Bristol fashion as we head out for our next adventure. My crew is my family, and my family is my crew, and all are my friends as well.

My wife and I are polyamorously inclined, with connections to a few other couples, and select singles, whom we cherish. Thus we share an open minded consideration of all possibilities in our relationships. While our spicy friends are not (yet?) permanent crew, they are often guests aboard our ship. Yet we are neither indiscriminate nor indiscreet. We strive to becomes friends first and foremost, and then let the relationships develop naturally.

Seeking Potential Cabin Girl for Ship of Life

What brings me here is a search for a special addition a cabin girl to join our crew. Not just any cabin girl will do. Whether this would be full time or part time is an open question, depending on the needs and desires of the prospective cabin girl as well as myself and the existing crew. It may include anything from occasional time spent together, to a full time live in care giver for an ill family member living aboard. As with most things, there are many possibilities and many options.

My wife supports the goal of me finding a cabin girl, knowing that I always have the question, is this good for us? as my top priority. She also knows that such a question expands as more people come aboard our ship. When our friends cum aboard, they are family. Should we find a prospective cabin girl, she would be considered family, regardless of the role within the family. Thus, is this good for her? will be implicit within the top priority.

Whether or not the cabin girl will wear a collar or not is also an open question. The nature of each Ms and Ds relationship is unique. I am certain that an accord can be reached as we discover our mutual commonalities.

If any of this sounds good to you, if you think this is something you might be interested in, send me a message. If you have questions, ask them. If you feel a desire to comment, do it.










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 Dominant Male



 5' 11"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Switch Women

Sub/Sub Couples

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 History (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Polyamory (Expert)

 Atheism (Expert)



 Fine Dining

 Renaissance Faires





 Martial Arts

 Rafting (Beginner)






 Breast Play (Expert)

 Massage (Getting) (Expert)

 Board Games


 Historical Shows (Expert)

 Role Playing Games (Expert)

 Science Fiction (Expert)

 Web Surfing (Expert)




 Astronomy (Expert)

 Libertarian Politics  (Expert)

 Philosophy (Expert)


 Classical Music

 Eighties Music

 Rock Music




 Amusement Parks

 Art Galleries (Beginner)

 Flea Markets

 Movies (Expert)


 Musical Theater




 Horseback Riding (Beginner)

 Pilates (Beginner)

 Snorkeling (Beginner)


 Canes and Crops (Beginner)

 Local BDSM Community (Beginner)

 Hair Pulling (Beginner)

 Massage (Giving)

 Munches (Beginner)

 Role Playing

 Sensory Deprivation

 Shibari  (Beginner)



 Arcade Games

 Card Games


 Online RPGs

 Puzzle Games

 Simulation Games

 Alternative Medicine

 Art Collecting

 Beading (Beginner)


 Gardening (Beginner)




 Sculpting (Beginner)





 Poetry (Beginner)



 Lifestyle BDSM (Beginner)

 Low Carb (Beginner)


 Alternative Music

 Blue Grass


 Heavy Metal Music


 New Age Music

 New Wave

 Nineties Music

 Punk Rock Music



 Seventies Music

 Show Tunes

 Buddhism (Beginner)



 Neo-Paganism (Beginner)

 Wicca  (Beginner)



 Fishing (Beginner)


 Hunting (Beginner)



 Horror Movies

 Online Chatrooms

 Conservative Politics


 Liberal Politics

 Country Music

 Folk Music

 Hip Hop Music

 Industrial Music




 Curious About:

 Bird Watching


 Scuba Diving

 Wind Surfing

 Body Worship



 Electrical Play (Beginner)

 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Fire Play



 Knife Play

 Masks (On Partner)

 Masks (Wearing)

 Medical Play

 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Denial

 Outdoor Bondage

 Public Play





 Chemistry (Beginner)





 Political Activism

 Female Supremacy

 Gorean Lifestyle

 Feng Shui



 Going to the Opera




 TV News

 TV Sports


 Opera Music





 Hard Limits:


 Genital Punishment


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