I am new to Collar. I have been at other chat sites and find most to be same. I enjoy the chat with other people, but find few who seriously know anything about the bdsm lifestyle. But, hey, vanilla is all right too as long you as you don't pretend you are more than you say you are. That is just my thoughts on it.
I am direct and intimidating at times, but I have earned that right. I am respectful and polite..unless you give me reason not to be.
I am adorable and sweet..but can verbally bite you if are rude or trollish.
My experience is mine to know and offer, if I feel you deserve to know more.
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Private but not shy. Assertive and adventurous.Don't hit on me with little respect or consideration, you may be verbally bitten. It takes a lot to capture my attention...a sense of humor, lack of arrogance, intelligence, manners....a general concept of relationships and the dynamics surrounding them. I can be bitingly sarcastic or sweet as a kitten...that depends on you.
Someone described me as "99% mountain lion and 1%kitten. Sound description. Take it to heart. I scratch and I bite when humiliated and threatened by ignorance and irresponsibility. In a Dominant fashion, I would not lower myself to treat someone so lowly, and as a submissive, expect a higher level of honor and will defend myself with biting indignation since a collar is only worth anything and meaningful if the Dominant can attain and maintain the highest of standards.
It doesnt take long to find out who is who and what they are about. I observe, I watch, I listen. I notice who has no respect for other people or their feelings: who can be cruel and heartless with no regard for what they are doing to another person. I have been there and felt the pain of someone's dishonor and heartless cruetly. IF you dare to approach me, do so with dignity and sincerity, or do nothing at all. I have no use for such people who claim to be responsible Masters(the term used loosely) and cannot follow through on their word or present themselves with honor. Do not try to play the victim with me if you have acted without any fore-thought or have lied. You are responsible for your actions and will be treated accordingly.
What I know about the lifestyle, I will offer when I see that you show the prospect and attitude that any human being deserves. If I perceive any dishonesty on your part, you are history. If I see that you are a player or collector, you are history. I am an all or nothing kind of person, when I give it 100%. I expect the same in the people I choose to know and possibly consider being with.
Tell me how wonderful and special I am, and that you want me in your life. Then that better be true. If I catch someone sneaking around playing games, that person is....history. Commit the sin of omission...which is no less than a lie in itself...that person is....history. Hide little subs in the cyber background....that person...is history.
Try collaring me and withhold need to know information....that person is...history.
This lifestyle is supposed to be honorable and honest...but I don't see much of that particular line of thought going around except has drooling verbage on a screen posted to make someone sound like they are worth being with. If a person can't live it with the people he/she "supposedly" cares about...then he/she is nothing but a player....and history.
If I choose to submit, it won't be to someone who makes me stand in a long line. That person will be proud of me and display that fact to all around. Nothing hidden..nothing sneaky..it will be apparant who I belong to. I won't be hidden away while someone plays and collects a herd of submissives to play with to suit an oversized ego that ends up spelling "irresponsible in thought and action".
My family is a key element in my life. Work is a key element. Do not think you can dictate rules to me concerning those things.
