It goes like this:

A White female is overweight, out of shape and lazy. She knows that in her current state, she will not be able to get an attractive white boyfriend or lover. She has 3 options:

1) Start working out/get on a diet and whip herself into shape so that she'll be able to attract a decent guy of her own race. This takes a lot of effort and lazy females will not do it.

2) Date a white male who is her own equivalent: an overweight slob. She does not want to do this. Not happy with a guy who is her equivalent, she wants someone better.

so

3) She gets with a black guy. Knowing full well that black guys will readily screw anything, whether it's male, female, or 350 lbs., she uses this to her advantage by getting an athletic black boyfriend or lover who is far above her own looks.

Naturally, no athletic or good looking white guy would want to go near her. Rather than admit the real reason for this, she starts dumping on all white men and talking nonsense about so-called "BBC superiority".

This is an accurate description of at least 75% of white female-black male couplings.

The more you know...

Girl writes in her profile: I'm looking for guys to fuck me well.

I write to her: Why would you be looking for that on here? Guys on this site don't know how to fuck. What they know is how to dress up in costumes and play with toys.

So true. So, so true.

It's amazing how many wimmin on this site either don't read or read but choose to ignore the profiles of men and message them when they have no business doing so. For example, I'm frequently messaged by female subs who've clearly ignored the repeated admonitions in my profile+journal against contacting me for anything besides REAL WORLD meetings. They all just want to be online chat buddies, though I've made it abundantly clear that this is not what I'm looking for. Very rude of them, wouldn't you say? I'm so sick of this BS. Listen, I'm not going to be your chat buddy because there's nothing I could possibly discuss with you that I haven't already discussed with 1,000 people before you. That shit gets very old after the first 999 conversations. Having said that, I'm still willing to talk to people for the purpose of planning a real-life meeting, but you absolutely MUST state your intentions clearly up front and let me know that that's why you're contacting me, instead of just sending some vague comment and hoping it will spark a long-winded discussion that ultimately goes nowhere. I simply don't have the time for that nonsense anymore; not to mention the stomach for it. Jaded? You bet I am. Still, it wouldn't be hard to impress me even now: Simply be real and show up. That's it. That so hard to do?

Note: if you live thousands of miles away, then for all practical purposes you are unable to "show up" and therefore you have no business messaging me unless you have something truly fascinating to say. And let's be honest, you probably don't.

I can virtually guarantee that there are no high quality men here because high quality men simply don't put up with the sort of BS and games that pass for normal behavior on this site. It's common sense: what guy would want to waste his time chatting with skittish flakes and fakes online if he had access to real world, flesh-and-blood females? Guys come on here because they have no other alternative. Girls come on here because they're bored and looking to kill some time (through chatting -- never through actually meeting in real life).

Is it any wonder why this site is such a gigantic failure?

And why do *I* stay on here in that case, I hear you asking. The reason is that this site never posted a disclaimer that it was 100% BS when I was signing up for it. Through false advertising, I was led to believe that it was a legitimate social site, not a fantasy porn site. Now that I'm here, it costs me nothing to keep my profile up. So why delete my profile and throw away the product of my labor?

More "Tales from the Trenches," this one courtesy of RooshV:

 I went on a date with a girl who ordered juice for her drink ("I don't drink on weekdays"). I knew I wasn't getting anything but I stuck around a bit. We got to talking about love, soul mates, and what not, and this is what she said about how men and women meet:

  "It really just happens. You're there and randomly your soul mate enters the picture and this person is right for you. There's nothing you have to do to make it happen."

  Me: "I have social anxiety and I refuse to leave the house. I play video games all day and order pizza. I gain 500 pounds in two years and can't even bathe myself. I will find love?"

  Her: "Well it will be natural. Maybe the pizza delivery person is a woman."

 Lord. When you're a wom[y]n, it's so easy to believe that things just happen when there are men making shit happen. I met her during the day and I'm sure she told her friends "I randomly met this guy" when I approached her with lessons learned from a billion previous approaches.

  I feel like w[im]men will never get it because they don't know what it takes for real connections to begin. They think the result of our strenuous labor is "natural."

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Making shit happen. A novel concept to some of you, eh?

A wim writes:

"I’m exploring BDSM with my partner and deepening my understanding of my sexuality, and before meeting him found that *most* potential male partners who identify in this manner are social misfits in a distinctly negative manner: they cannot communicate well despite the plethora of guides regarding BDSM, they cannot read social cues, they cannot fit their predilections into a life that is notable and intellectually rich *outside* of BDSM, and they cannot be bothered to exercise or otherwise work to be as physically attractive as they are allegedly adventurous.

I’m highly educated and very attractive by conventional measures. I acknowledge that where you go to school and what you see in the mirror first thing in the morning isn’t significant [Note: Wrong on the second count.]. However. I have been stunned that the age-appropriate men I’ve met are largely intellectually blunted to anything outside of whatever slapdash theories let them be ‘a dom,’ sci-fi and gaming, have no social interactions with men or women who can actually hold conversations with other kinds of people with other interests, and are sniffily above working out and exploring physical hobbies. [Note: So basically, they embody every single stereotype that so-called "vanilla" people have about BDSM dorks. Brilliant.]

After months, I’ve found someone complex, attractive, brilliant, accomplished and decent – from a much smaller pool than I ever found when dating without seeking dominant interactions.

Believing only very smart, special snowflakes engage in BDSM is like pretending that only sexy M.F.ers go to ren faires. It’s not true. It takes a long time to separate the wheat from the speciously ‘intellectual’ and blubbery chaff."

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Emphasis added above. Now that tells you what this BDSM garbage is all about and what sorts of losers partake in it. I am proud to have absolutely nothing to do with BDSM. I have never gone to a BDSM event in my life and never will. I have never called myself a "dom" or "master" or required anyone to call me "sir" because that shit is fucking corny and weak. I mean, come on. Grow up, losers. Can't grow up? Then why don't you drink some bleach. That ought to cure you.

4 Reasons why I don't like talking to people online:

 4) No way to know if they are who they claim to be.

 Self-explanatory. You should always get verification pics up front, but those can be faked by determined individuals.

3) No way to gauge how serious they are.

 They may say they're interested in finding someone to meet off-line, but are they really? You have no way of knowing. They may simply be looking for an online chat buddy and using the promise  of a real-world meeting to lure people into giving them attention (bored/lonely girls and unattractive older wimmin do this often).

2) They could pull a magic disappearing act at any time.

 You could be corresponding with someone online over a period of weeks or months. Then, one day, seemingly out of the blue, they simply disappear and are never seen or heard from again. All that time and effort you spent getting to "know" that person just went down the drain. This type of thing happens very often online.

 And the number one reason:

 1) You simply never know what a person is going to be like until you meet them in real life!

 No amount of chatting, pic swapping, camming, texting or phone conversations will ever substitute for sitting across a table from someone 4 feet away and looking them in the eye. If you're not going to be compatible with someone, wouldn't you prefer to know that sooner rather than later?

 So get real, cut the crap, get down to brass tacks and meet up in real life ASAP.

BDSM is how dorks and nerdlings do sex. If you are the female equivalent of a dork, do not contact me. I am not interested in you. This is not some role-playing game for me. I don't have a "dungeon," I have a house. I don't have a "title," I have a name. I don't have a "role," I have a personality. I am not a "Dom" because I have no idea what that is. I am simply a dominant man. Not within the context of BDSM. Within the context of real life. Understand? I am all about living in the REAL world, not playing some silly, make-believe game. I refuse to indulge the fantasies of mental infants trapped in adult bodies, which is the clinical description of what you nerds are.

If you live in the realm of fantasy, obsessing over things like erotic lit and erotic chat and erotic imagery and erotic this-or-that, then you are not for me and I am not for you. If, on the other hand, you look at hardcore pornography and search the local yellow pages to find out if there are any adult film production companies in your area, then step right this way. If you want to make a living out of using your body and having sex, then come on in. You are the one I've been looking for. The vast majority of you are not qualified to kneel before me or call me "Sir," so don't even try. Such gestures mean absolutely nothing to me if they not backed by real, solid, concrete examples of your willingness to meet off-line. You want to impress me? Tell me how many people you've met off this website in real life, and provide photo evidence to document your claims. The person with the highest number of real-world meet-ups will earn the chance to be my personal sub, with a $10,000 dollar minimum allowance for clothes, makeup and cosmetic surgery. But only if ya show up in person. You ain't gonna get a dime nor a minute of my time, online. Rhyming! See, I can write poems too.

Bottom line #1: Fantasy SUCKS. I am all about R-E-A-L-I-T-Y.

Bottom line #2: High intelligence is no excuse for social retardation.

Take your masturbation fantasy bullshit right out of here, dorks.

http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/02/was-bdsm-always-this-nerdy.html

A true story. Not mine.

One of my best friends is a high school basketball coach, and his wife is an elementary school teacher.  The other day my buddy and I went to play basketball at the school, and we stopped by her classroom on the way in just to say hi.  As we approached her room, we noticed she was outside in the hall talking to a little boy and a little girl.  Uh oh, somebody got in trouble!  Anyway, we stood there for a moment waiting for her as she finished talking to the kids.

I don’t know the whole story, but evidently the little girl took something from the little boy (stole his ball, or something like that).  What the teacher told each of them really opened my eyes and caused me to reflect on my entire childhood.  The bottom line was this:  The little boy needs to treat the little girl like a lady by sharing, and the lady needs to ask nicely if she wants something and she’ll get it.

Basically, if the girl wants something, she should ask for it – and the boy should give it. We live in a culture where as early as the 2nd grade, young men are conditioned to believe that they should never tell a woman “no”, and that if a woman asks for something, she should expect to receive it.

The more people I encounter, the more I realize just how rare is the ability to say what you mean and do what you say. The latter, in particular, disqualifies about 99.9% of people. Needless to say, this attribute, when it exists, is found far more often in men than in wimmin.

I possess it. That makes me special. But unless I can find someone else like me, this talent of mine will go largely wasted. At least, as far as this website is concerned.

From my message inbox:

"I have found 3 dommes out here who were looking for something other then money. The rest are fake prostitutes or young college girls looking for a quick buck."

Yep. That about describes it. Wonderful site, isn't it? If they implemented a simple verification system the way that better social sites use it would be fun to watch 99% of the attractive female profiles disappear overnight. Then the only people left on the site would be hordes of fags and morbidly obese, middle-aged hags. Oh, and normal straight guys looking for sex slaves, like me. Because those are the only people interested in this garbage. Do you know who ISN'T interested in BDSM? Young, attractive, non-overweight, emotionally-stable females. That's who.

Females cannot be dominant. In my entire time on this site, having viewed hundreds of profiles, I have yet to come across a single example of a female who truly showed any dominant characteristics. All the ones I've encountered were and are nothing more than bitchy, entitled, obnoxious cunts. Not to forget the gold digging prostitutes, of course. If you think there is a single genuinely dominant female on this site, please send me a link to her profile so that I can see it with my own eyes.

 The reason why females can't be dominant is due to their inherent weakness and helplessness. Being the weaker sex, they are forced to rely on others (namely men) to carry out their wishes. Sure, they can issue orders, but they have absolutely no ability to ENFORCE those orders, which is the very essence of dominance. Female dommes rely entirely on their subs' willful compliance. They lack the ability to impose their will on anyone or anything. Therefore, they can't dominate their way out of a wet paper bag. If a so-called "domme" issued a command and her so-called "sub" refused to obey her, what the hell could the "domme" possibly do about it? The answer is: Absolutely nothing. Not a single damn thing. What are they going to do, strong-arm their male subs? Even a pathetic weakling of a man, a typical computer nerd, could easily overpower 99% of the wimmin on the planet if he wanted to.

 That is why you see these so-called "dommes" attracting some of the most pathetic, cowardly, spineless males on the planet to serve as their "subs". These guys don't have the slightest hint of backbone because if they did, they would never be willing to submit to a female. The weakness of the sub partner is a direct reflection of the weakness of the dominant partner.

 Female "dommes" universally select the weakest, most pathetic, spineless, cowardly males in existence to "serve" under them. This is because they themselves are cowardly, weak and pathetic. It's simple to understand, isn't it?

 Let's get real and admit that there is no such thing as a "dominant female". It's an oxymoron, a contradiction in terms. If you disagree, have your "dominant female" meet me in a back alley at night and I'll be glad to discuss the matter with her in person.

There is a common pattern on this site of female subs & slaves writing things in their profiles such as, "I want to break away from the vanilla lifestyle" and "Tell me how extreme and depraved you can get".

 I'm happy to oblige this request. So here goes:

 You want to know how extreme, how hardcore, how depraved I can be?
  I can give you a date, time and place, say that I'm going to meet up with you and...wait for it...actually show up in that very place, at that exact time, on that specific day.

  That's how fuckin' extreme and hardcore I am. How about you? Are you that hardcore, or have you not reached that level yet? Mind you, I'm talking about some really extreme stuff. Like meeting at a public place, surrounded by dozens or hundreds of people, in broad daylight...to talk. I know, I'm really out there. I mean, what I just described is so extreme that literally 99% of the female subs on this site will never attempt it. LoL!

But I'll tell you what: I once met a girl on Match.com who was more hardcore than any female sub I've encountered on Collarme. Why? Because she actually showed up to have a chat with me at Starbucks. Girl must have been crazy, I know. Man, she's lucky she didn't end up beaten, robbed, raped and left behind a dumpster. In the middle of the day. With two dozen people around. And a cop car 30 feet away. You can never be too safe. That's why it's best to spend your entire life behind a computer screen, indulging fantasies that you'll never even dream of acting out with another actual, live, human being.

In other news, ladies: the day you stop bullshitting online and actually start getting serious about meeting someone from this site in real life is the day you'll become "hardcore". Not a second earlier. There is NOTHING hardcore about talking and fantasizing about slavery and submission from behind a computer screen. Talk is nothing. Online talk is less than nothing. Real world action is everything. Get with the program. Until then, quit pretending to be "hardcore" and "extreme". You're not.

From the profile of a 33 year old self-identified "lesbian" female "domme" on this site with dozens of attractive young female subs in her friends list. Her journal entry is pasted below, and my response to it follows:

 Why do girls make this so complicated? It's easy. You like me, I like you. We verify that you are for real, come here for vacation, you find out for sure we want to do this and then we make it happen. Dragging it out for weeks and weeks through meaningless "how are you?" messages is not only boring, but I have much more exciting things to do with my life. If you are serious about wanting to find a place where you will always be a part of something and always belong, then stop beating around the bush.

 You're right, "this" doesn't need to be complicated at all. It can be as simple as you stated: (1) online verification/initial contact, followed by (2) a temporary trial period in the real world, leading up to (3) either a parting of ways or a successful long-term, live-in arrangement.

 But that doesn't answer your main question:

 "Why do girls make this so complicated?"

 Answer: Because they're girls.

 Girls make going to the bathroom complicated (they can't do it alone, have to go in groups). Girls make getting dressed, eating, shopping, talking, putting on a pair of shoes, and countless other things complicated. And girls make online dating practically impossible with their endless games, constant flaking and playing "hard to get" bullshit. Because they're girls.

 As a general rule, females are a scatter-brained, unbelievably flaky, completely unreliable, totally immature, semi-retarded gender. In most respects they operate with the same degree of introspection and reliability as spoiled 7 year old brats. They have shit for brains rattling around in those empty cages they call heads. In a phrase, they are bird-brained.

 Females have always been like this. It takes (or rather, it took) massive effort on the part of society to raise their behavior up to accepted standards of human (that is, male) conduct and keep it there for any length of time. Here I'm talking about things like the ability to honor one's commitments without flaking out 9 times out of 10, or the ability to go 20 minutes without completely changing one's mind and doing a complete reversal of one's prior course of actions. Those are the kinds of basic standards I'm referring to. On their own, the vast majority of wimmin do not live up to them, whereas a solid majority of men do. This is precisely what makes females the inferior gender.

 So thank your nearest feminist dyke/wims' studies professor for the current state of affairs.

Under patriarchy, things got done. Know why? Because men were in charge, and females weren't given the luxury of playing endless games under the guise of "my body, my choice" or whatever other line of bullshit they use to excuse their pathetic and infantile behavior.

 I have been "informed" numerous times by spiteful dykes and cunts on this site that the reason for my lack of success here is some apparent "personality flaw," or other defect on my part. It can now be stated conclusively that this assertion is absolutely, categorically false. It's horseshit. When you have attractive, self-identified "lesbian dommes" with a friends list filled with dozens of white, thin, teenage female subs (exactly the same demographic that I'm interested in) voicing the EXACT same complaints as me and experiencing the EXACT same let-downs and frustrations, not to mention every male dom I've spoken to here, PLUS every legitimate couple I've asked about the same issue ("How to go about finding real people?"), who freely admitted to me that they did NOT meet each other off this pathetic joke of a site, but elsewhere, that's when you know that the problem is NOT with you, but is in fact, a simple consequence of using a fantasy porn/erotic lit site which pretends to be a social site, but isn't, and never has been.

 No one* meets anyone else off Collarme, period. And this is because the vast majority of men here are ready and willing to meet, but the vast majority of girls, many of whom claim to be in "desperate need of a master," are perfectly content to sit on their asses for weeks, months, and YEARS, receiving dozens to hundreds of messages a day but never ONCE taking the initiative to actually meet a single person from here in real life, thereby ensuring that all of their claimed fetishes and desires remain forever stuck in the realm of FANTASY, aka MAKE-BELIEVE.

 *Unless they're 1) obese, 2) ugly, 3) old or 4) All of the above. That, ladies and gentlemen, is the reality of BDSM as it is actually practiced in the real world, not the masturbation fantasies of desk jockeys. Yes, there are 300 lb. land whales and grotesque trolls who meet in real life to dress in leather and beat each other. Plenty of degenerate faggots do this stuff, too. But there is no one remotely sane, normal, young or attractive doing the kind of garbage that you read about in 85% of the profiles on here. Welcome to the reality of BDSM. They told you it was for perverts, sicko's and degenerates, and they weren't lyin'.