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Some people tell me that I seem too "mild" or passive to be a "true" Dom, so this is my response to those people: I will not act like a Dom unless a sub ASKS me to do so. Aside from that scenario, my intention is to be kind and respectful to the people who I come in contact with, because that is what I believe in (and because it's good Karma). If you can't relate to that, then you should talk to somebody else.
Having said that, I'm a Dom who is looking for a sub. I'm flexible regarding the type of activity that my sub is interested in: Inflicting severe pain doesn't especially turn me on, but if my sub likes pain, then I can inflict pain (mild, moderate, or somewhat severe). If my sub does NOT enjoy pain, but enjoys a little embarrassment (or even humiliation), then I can provide that in very creative ways. If my sub simply likes to feel vulnerable and/or helpless in bondage (without pain or significant embarrassment), then I'm okay with that too. One of the most important things for me is that I like to be in control during sex... it can be a relatively mild dominant-submissive relationship, or it can be a relatively realistic master and slave relationship... keeping in mind that even a "slave" has the right to use a safe word.
One analogy that I like to think of, regarding how I approach a potential Dom/sub relationship, is that you are almost like a Producer who plans to be an actor in your own movie, and you are considering the idea of asking me to be the "director" (who will ALSO be an actor in your movie)... and after I talk with you enough to gain an understanding of your "vision" for this hypothetical movie (including any specifics that are important to you), then I can use my own knowledge and creativity to "direct" this movie, within the limits and parameters that you have laid out for me. But in this analogy, it's important to point out that some producers allow their director to have a significant amount of "creative freedom" to incorporate their own ideas into the movie, while other producers prefer that the director stays closer to the specific that has been provided... so in this situation it would be your choice to determine how much creative freedom the director should have. It's important for me to point out that I am willing and capable of "directing" such "movies" with any amount of creative freedom... I am very comfortable and experienced at "directing" with significant creative freedom, and I am also happy to stay closer to the . I have found that most subs tend to give me more "creative" freedom as we get to know each other better, partially because I become more familiar with what they want and don't want, and partially because it doesn't take very long for most people to realize that I am VERY cautious about doing anything that could cause permanent harm (physically or emotionally).
The thing that turns me on the most (BY FAR) is when I can get my partner extremely turned on... I absolutely LOVE it when I can get my partner so turned on that she is "weak with lust/desire" and desperate for release. But if that isn't working, I still like to watch and listen to the noises and involuntary body movements that a woman makes as she becomes sexually excited (when her breathing changes, when her nipples get hard and/or puffy, when her "lady business" gets wet and puffy... the moans, the groans, the whimpers and whines, etc.), and I LOVE to watch and listen as a woman has an extreme orgasm (some will shiver and quake, some will curl their toes, some will thrash around in various ways, some will moan or whimper or scream, etc.). All of it is a huge turn-on for me... and it's fascinating to see the different ways that different women respond.
Another thing that I've enjoyed recently is rope play. I've been learning how to do hog-ties, frog-ties, strappado, crotch-ropes, and various forms of breast bondage. In the past I preferred to use padded cuffs and other forms of clip-on restraints, but I've recently gained an appreciation for the artistry of rope bondage... and I've met many subs in the past who have mentioned a specific appreciation for the feeling of being bound with rope. I usually use a soft rope that is easier on the skin, but I've met some subs who actually enjoy the feeling of a coarse and "scratchy" rope that feels rough on the skin... to each his (or her) own, I guess. Lol. BTW, I have many "toys" and "accessories" besides just rope (electronic and otherwise), so you would love my collection if you like sex toys. :)
I would be willing to have a casual sexual relationship with no strings attached (if that is what my partner prefers), but my preference would be to have a meaningful and monogamous relationship with a woman who I would treat as an equal at all times, except when she wants to be submissive in the bedroom. However, I'm also willing and able to take a more assertive role, and be more in control of my partner's life, if that's how my partner wants to live. I'd prefer to be involved with a woman who is discreet and respectable in public... but I don't mind too much if my partner is a tiny bit wild in public too. Also, I realize that this may sound strange for someone who likes to dominate and control my partner in the bedroom, but sometimes I really like to spoil and pamper my partner too (inside AND outside of the bedroom). Similarly, I'd be very open to the idea of a sub who enjoys having "vanilla" sex sometimes too. There's a "right" time for everything, and variety is important.
Aside from sex: I'd prefer to be with someone who has an active lifestyle, and enjoys being outdoors. But most of all, I REALLY enjoy a good conversation, so I'd prefer to be involved with a woman who is talkative, inquisitive, intelligent, intellectual, etc.
I'm a well-educated and financially stable professional, and I'm in good shape... I work out regularly, but I'm not especially muscle-bound (I would say medium-sized). I've met a significant number of women who say that I'm handsome, so I think that I'm a decent looking guy... but it's not like women constantly "throw" themselves at me, so I don't exactly think I'm super hot. If I get a good feeling about someone who contacts me (after exchanging a couple emails), then I'm willing to provide some pics. Message me if you'd like to know more. :)
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