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I am under construction, always evolving, learning, fine tuning
I have experienced many things during my journey of discovering myself - from the physical to the mental and everything in between. For me it is not just about sex and BDSM but also about the mental and psychological aspects. It is a combination of all these things that work between those in the relationship. Master and bind my mind, my heart, body and soul will follow.
If you have questions, please ask.
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I realize that there are many different types of relationships and there is not a one size fits all. Some people think that online M/s relationships are the only way to go, some are into swinging or polyamory, play sessions without any kind of bond, those that "train" others, some really live it 24/7, some are just kinksters or weekend warriors. Many of the "relationships" aren't my cup of tea and I try my best not to be judgmental. I am honest with all I communicate with as to what works for me and what doesn't. If I tell you that what works for me is real time and monogamy, I hope and would like to have an expectation that what works for me would be respected. It still amazes me and is still difficult for me to wrap my head around the fact that some people will go out of their way to disrespect my honesty and try to play me. If what works for me is not what works for you, why bother me? Why not just go on your way and find someone who is more suited to you and what you want?
Just saying.
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As I read profiles and journal entries I am still reminded that the internet contributes to a lack of common courtesy. The internet is a wonderful thing, we use it to expand our knowledge, to research, to play games, for entertainment purposes, to communicate and reach out to our loved ones, and it is used to create an image of ourselves. We can be anonymous and be anyone and anything we want to be or discover who we really want to be.
All the advances afforded by the internet, really, how difficult is it to just say: thanks but no thanks? If you contact someone and they show you the respect to respond to you, show them the same respect when you no longer wish to communicate any further.
Good luck to you on your journey to find what completes you. Thanks, but it's not doing anything for me. This website even has it's own selection of automated responses! Simple!
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First, I would like to say Happy Thanksgiving, be safe and enjoy.
Let me preface the following with: These are my personal thoughts for ME, not a judgment against ANYONE. I do my best to respect others choices and hope that others will respect mine.
You will not see any list of BDSM likes, loves, tolerates etc. I chose to remove that list from my profile because I experienced that it tends to attract the kinksters and players. I have nothing against those that view M/s, D/s and BDSM as a kink or fetish as that is what works for them (what I will share is that I am somewhat of a masochist). For me, I am not interested in those that are just kinksters, players, swingers or weekend warriors, I don't consider myself or my life as a "fetish" or a "kink", for me I am what I was born to be and it is just me and my journey through life. Yes, people in a successful relationship should be on the same page with their mutual interests and for me that is something that is discussed and discovered during the "courtship"/getting to know one another stage (I am kind of old fashioned in this respect). This is a very "extreme" life for me and not one that can be lived with just anyone and it takes time to build the trust that is needed to give up one's control to another and for me is not taken lightly. I have also discovered for me, no "list" is really stagnant, it stretches, it grows, it is forever evolving and fine tuning.
I don't have pictures posted as I am not one that wears my life on my sleeve for the entire world to see, I don't have a need to broadcast who I am and lets face it, the world is full of judgmental people and what happens in my private life, stays in my private life. Whether I am a slave or not, privacy is a precious thing that we are losing more of everyday with the internet and government poking their noses into and trying to take complete control over our freedoms. I am not judging those that are exhibitionists and those that don't care how public their choices are and enjoy spreading that information, that works for them, it just does not work for me. |
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Interesting. I thought journals were a place for one to jot thoughts, blow off steam, make a comment about something etc. I figured that eventually by having a public journal, someone would take offense at something posted. It apparently has. I have very often thought about leaving this site due to the rude people, the fakes, the wannabes, but, I think maybe I am intrigued by those. I do get a laugh sometimes from some of the emails I get, some of the profiles I read and even some of the journals that are posted. I also get a laugh out of those that take a journal comment, don't ask what is meant by it, but attack it and tells me that I should not judge people and I need to learn things, isn't that judging me? You've just got to laugh. |
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Why is it that a man who likes sex and/or likes to cheat on his wife thinks that makes him a Dominant? |
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Another experience with a Dom that had expectations that during the beginnings of conversing that I would comply with his demands. I was a little surprised as in the beginnings of the conversations he appeared to be mature and understanding that this type of lifestyle takes time to grow trust. Of course after not complying with demands, no more contact. I guess again I expected too much in regard to common courtesy. It is such a shame that it is so lacking in today's society, even among those my age. I am beginning to wonder if ther are any true Dominants on this site. Men and women that are "man" or "woman" enough to just say if they think there isn't or is a possibility of a relationship instead of hiding behind a monitor and just "disappearing" when someone they don't own declines to comply to a demand. CHILDISH |
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I fully expected to come across all sorts of people on this site and I have not been disappointed thus far. There are the wannabes, the fakes and the frauds. I read profiles and journals with interest as they can give one an additional insight into the people writing them. Everyone is individual and there is no one right way to do WIITWD but common courtesy is universal. I admit that I have not responded back to every email I have received, but those that I have responded to have been courteous and respectful on both sides. I don't understand those that you have chatted/emailed with or even met that are not man/woman enough to let the other person know that they are not interested in them. It is ok to not be someone else's cup of tea, I accepted that a long time ago, but common courtesy goes so very far.
Perhaps I am fooling myself into believing that there are still those out there that also believe in courtesy. Just because I am a submissive/slave does not mean that I have to or will submit to just anyone, however I will be respectful and courteous until such time as it is no longer warranted. I know some Dominants out there think that it is not submissive or slave like to make demands or have expectations and that is ok for the individual they are in a relationship with. I as a human being do expect courtesy and respect from others whether they are a Dominant or not until such time as I enter a relationship with him/them. I don't believe my expectations of being treated courteously by others to be a reflection of my submissivness.
I am wondering if others agree or disagree with me on this point. I am open to responses from Dominants/Masters and submissives/slaves both. I am always still growing and learning. |
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