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| Let me begin by saying that just because I am not into the same fetish as you are, doesn't mean that we can not talk.
I am very open to new friendships and getting to know people with in the life style and the world at large.
Generally, if I visit your profile it is because 1) You viewed me and I was curious, 2) you said something that drew attention on the forums and I was curious 3) I stumbled across you and I was -say it with me...curious. ;)
That said, I identify as a swicth.
This does not mean that just because you are dominant I will submit.
This does not mean that just because you are sub will I dominate.
I am not so much dominant as I am sadistic, I am not so much masochistic
as I am submissive. If that makes sense to you, awesome.
If it doesn't. I am not sorry.
I am not here because I am looking for something,
that would imply that I some how lack something. I do not.
I am not here to be found, that would imply that I am lost.
I am not.
I am many different things to many different people, before you
judge me, I would ask that you take a moment to get to know me.
My intrests are listed, but are not limited to those things
I am open to questions and comments, and even intellectual debate.
I am a multifaceted person, with a broad range of interests. I would like to find some one that I am compatible with for conversation, debate, and if things go well, general, and casual play.
I tend to spend the majority of my time here on the boards. I don't do a great deal of profile surfing any more, it is really just a waste of time.
But, if you have something interesting to say, please, feel free to email and if I feel it is equally interesting, I will reply.
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So, check it out.
It's not just my responsibility to stay on top of emailing you. I have a life. I work, two jobs, I raise two kids, I carry a 4.0 GPA, and I have more going on in one day than you could probably ever imagine one human doing.
If you don't hear from me for a day or two, then you can open the little box and send me a hello. If you don't, and I don't hear from you, I don't have the time to come seek you out-Honestly, no one on this site has been interesting enough for me to email an introduction email, so why in the hell would I track you down?
I am not here to entertain you, or make you happy, or beg for your attention. You got me fucked up, boss. Im not a slave. I am a free thinking, badly behaved, intelligent, strong, INDEPENDENT woman, and I do not need validation from anyone, so I will not seek it out.
However, if you are sooooo desperate for attention that you feel the need to email me and ask me why I haven't emailed you? Expect that you are about to get your ass read. Expect that I am going to be offended. I am pretty old school; the man should show interest in the woman-men should woo a woman, not the other way around. (Fucking womens lib screwed shit all up for all of us, doesn't mean there arent a few that wish they could have opted out or something)
So...that's my rant for today.
Have a good one kids. I am off to write about the OJ Simpson trials. |
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I saw The most amazing concert EVER last night!
Social Distortion, The Toadies, and Lindi Ortega! Man...you just have not lived until you stand 25 feet from Mike Ness. |
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I think it is worth mentioning that I am a writer. I write for a few different websites, and papers. I also think it is worth mentioning that at anytime, I could be taking notes and writing about you-that is those of you that message me or interact with me. I also think it is worth mentioning-yet again- that I am not really "looking" for anything in terms of a relationship. I know that can be difficult to understand, and I know that you may think you can somehow talk me into hooking up with you, or interacting with you on a personal level...but to be honest...I'm happy.
What I am looking for are people who are of above average intelligence to participate in candid conversation about the BDSM aspect of their lives.
I am not ignorant enough to think any one actually reads these things...but...I had to say it as a kind of disclaimer.
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Okay Kids If you want to talk to me, you have to leave a message. I am not ignoring anyone, I am just seriously swamped. Two jobs, school, the kids, homeschooling one of them, getting the yard together and trying to get sleep and food in there some kind of way...Ugh.
If you are reading this and you know me...Im sorry Im not around, If you shoot me a message with your cell and real name in it, I will text you when I can.
If you can't do that, then I assume it can wait.
Love and floggers
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Music For Your Savage Soul...If you had one.
Frank Turner- The Quiet One.
http://youtu.be/WZn-C1SIB3s
Nirvana- Where did you sleep last night
http://youtu.be/8mVYbQHVJsY
Evanescence-Heart Shaped Box
http://youtu.be/yAVcVRdSRt4
The Arcade Fire-Wake Up
http://youtu.be/9zdNdjF-htY
Mayer Hawthorne-Just Ain't Gonna Work Out
http://youtu.be/pBKx8PyE5qQ
Coconut Records- Any Fun
http://youtu.be/NzyzP5upKMY
AWOLNation- Sail
http://youtu.be/JaAWdljhD5o
The Kooks-Gap
http://youtu.be/zNfYpZtjwHs
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Music Blog Night....
Miguel-Sure Thing
http://youtu.be/q4GJVOMjCC4
Kelly Rowland-Motivation
http://youtu.be/q4GJVOMjCC4
Otis Redding-I've Been loving you too long
http://youtu.be/qZ6OrrkeVFo
Jamie Foxx-Fall for your type
http://youtu.be/m9fUYcxP1UA
Drake-Can I hit it in the morning
http://youtu.be/gVeXbOWSF7E
Lykke Li- Get Some
http://youtu.be/-TTPGAy5H_E
Puscifer-Momma Sed
http://youtu.be/dR3ccmWmLhk
Mozella-Light Years Away
http://youtu.be/4cpwFpO-hjE
Jamelia-Stop
http://youtu.be/nC4fJkmIv0E
The Flys- Got you where I want you
http://youtu.be/BM_OWaItNJM
Frank Turner-To Take you home
http://youtu.be/CCaxGavSvmw
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So, I got to see Flogging Molly this weekend. It was the most awesome thing EVER!
We drove like 8 hours, on like 4 hours of sleep...it was epic..
Then I got into a fight in the mosh pit...I know who thinks Mosh pit at Flogging Molly?
But man...OMG..It was bad ass. I beat the fuck out of some random kid, I tried to bury his adams apple in his throat, and tossed him about 6 feet into the crowd.
Lil bastard shouldnt have punched me in the side.
Frank Turner, is...amazing. I so totally heart him. He is epic.
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I was having a conversation with a friend and they said..."look at that happy horse shit"...I had to pause and consider that one.
happy horse shit???? As opposed to......sad or mad or even REALLY excited horse shit....what would that look like...? A GAINT pile of road apples with a shit eating grin (does that count as canibalism????).....or maybe even a grr face....would it be red if it was mad and blue if it was sad and green for envious??? (thought that happened when you ate apples???) Would its hairs stand up on end when its REALLY excited????
Or would it have big googley eye balls?
Is there such a thing a pious horse shit??? like with a little pope hat???? (kiss the ring bitches)
I admit, I am easily amused, and often find the shit that people say to be insane, and just surprisingly funny. They don't realize it's funny, but it is. They just say it because some one else has said it, and they think it must be cool. How much cooler would it be if they thought for themselves and said something they had made up all on their own?
Just something to think about.....
This message brought to you by the letter Z...which is useless....but we like it anyway!!!
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I had to do some thinking on this one. Well, not really...but what ever.
So, I dont professionally profile lurk, like, I dont want people to know Im looking at them, so I log out and do it that way, scanning pics and the oh so whimsical things that people have to say...
And here is what I have come up with...
Mind you...Im just as guilty of it as the next person, but I dont bitch about it. Kinda like voting. Dont vote? Dont bitch.
Anyway, Domme's that put half naked pics on their profile, but then want to get offended if the sub male contacts them and says...can I see your tits?
How can you get offended if the only part of a breast you arent showing is the nipple? And how can you get pissed when the lil bastards dont want to commit to you, if youve given them the visual pleasure before you ever meet them?
Remember that cow and the free milk?
Just so yanno? You should be saying moooo about now.
A true submissive would be happy to have to work for the reward of seeing their Dominant naked, or half naked, or in some way open to them. A Dominant that just throws it out there...Im sorry, but why work for something when you already know what the prize in the cracker jacks is?
Just a random thought....try putting clothes on. Big bulky clothes that make you look fat as hell. That way, you know they only want you for your mind....
Oh...
Wait...
youd actually have to have one for that to work.
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It is a new year, and I have a whole new out look on some things.
So here is the deal.
If I tell you to do something, and you just dont do it? Dont expect to hear from me. I dont want your excuses, I dont need your bull shit.
If I tell you I dont want to play with you, understand it is for one main reason...I am NOT active in the life style at this time. At least not with rejects that want to play at BDSM.
I am not BDSM, I am D/s. I do not do vanilla kink, I am not here to service you. If you approach me, then I take it as you are here to try -TRY- and service me.
That does not mean I want to meet you, see you on cam, or what have you and let you top me from the bottom.
Obviously, I am about out of patience, and am on a rant. Some of you need to take that as a wake up call and realize that you are two steps from getting the boot.
MOST of you need to contemplate the definitions that are most commonly accepted of the roles with in this life style and the way that you fit into those roles.
Sub does not mean that you make the rules. Dom does not mean that you are a god in my universe.
Apparently you all seem to think that Switch means I cant make up my mind and you can test me. Try again.
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Slut:
A derogatory term. Refers to a sexually promiscuous person, usually female. One who engages in sexual activity with a large number of persons
Hm...usually a woman. What the fuck is up with that? Men can walk around bragging about how they have slept with assloads of women, and oddly enuff, have no skill to prove said assload could even pick them out of a crowd, but women, get a whole word, complete with a plethora of definitions and contexts....hm.
Let me break this down for you kids, a few years back, we had a revolution. Noone died, and nothing was really won, but it started a while back, and is being fought around you all the time. It's called the Sexual Revolution. OMG..you didnt know...okay so heres how it is. Back in the day, and that day is not so long ago, trust me, women were taught that sex was nothing to be proud of, to have intrest in, or to show desire for. Only a whore would do that, only a whore would throw herself out there. We were made to feel shame in our bodies and what they wanted.
How fucked up is that. You are supposed to lay there and take it, bear kids, and not ever feel a thing besides pain? But we shouldnt have any kind of complex about that? You are kidding right? First you want to call me a whore, then you want to tell me to just lay still and take it, and when I do, its not enuff, because you have trained me over centuries to be a dispassionate fuck, you want to go throw down with the whore you accuse me of being?
LOL.
But women dont know what they want. Thats fucking funny as hell.
Well, boys and girls, Im here to share with you a few things.
First of all, ladies, masterbation is elemental in life. If you dont do it, you will kill some one. I know this because I didnt masterbate until I was in my mid 20's and I came very near to ending more than one persons life. There is NOTHING wrong with knowing your body and being able to give it what it needs. Even if you do it 88 times a day. (If you can, I envy you. I can get away with about 10 times and Im done. Im ready for a fucking nap.)
Second, there is nothing at all wrong with getting turned on by a guy. I dont know why men think we shouldnt, but for some reason they seem to think we dont. My theory on this is that evidence of their arousal is undeniable, while we, with our secret gardens, can hide it well. I happen to think its cool to sit and talk to a guy that makes me hot, knowing he makes me hot, but he has no idea. Its like my own lil world. But its okay, they all know me there.
Third, you are NOT a slut if you have slept with more than one guy. So...guys...fuck you and your small minded bull shit. You want us to come to the table untouched, while you play the field? If all women were virgins, what the hell would you do then? Fuck a sheep? Lol. A sheep isnt going to tell you if you are doing it right. Which, now that I think of it would explain those guys that only know how to hump, and not work that shit, but thats another story for another day. C'mon. You have to be able to move your ass just as much as we do.
Its not wrong to feel sexy, its not wrong to want to fuck, its not wrong to have desire, and fantasies, and to want to see them thru. Its not wrong to watch porn! I watch porn. I even listen to it. I dont care about the story. I want to see some one thrown down and fucked. I want to see that raw unadultered lust. Its good to see a woman that free with herself and know that she has the confidence to let herself live in that moment.
Wait...hold on...what did I say? CONFIDENCE...omg...OMG! Confidence? What the hell is that? Do I need to contact mr webster again? No, Ill spare all of us that waste of time.
what Im getting at with all of this is that sex is awesome. There is nothing wrong with it, and if liking it makes me a slut, hey guess what...Im a-o fucking- kay with it. Do you know why? Because I know what I want in bed, and I am not affraid to get it. Or to tell some one what I want, or to show them. Do you know why? Because as cool as masterbation is, its soooo much better when some one does it for you.
So ladies, wake up, being a slut is not a bad thing. It just means you have more confidence than men know what to do with, and it scares them. So they retaliate, like the children that they are, with names that have no real meaning, because being sexually promiscuious just means that you used them to get what you wanted, and they cant deal because they cant "have" you.
Guys? Lol. Grow up. Sheep fuckers.
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Big word for today...you;ll like it.
Intellectual Intercourse:
the act of ingaging in deep, interesting conversation. Topics ranging anywhere from philosophy to sex.
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I?ll seek you out,
Flay you alive
One more word and you won?t survive
And I?m not scared of your stolen power
I see right through you any hour
I won?t soothe your pain
I won?t ease your strain
You?ll be waiting in vain
I got nothing for you to gain
I?m taking it slow
Feeding my flame
Shuffling the cards of your game
And just in time
In the right place
Suddenly I will play my ace
I won?t soothe your pain
I won?t ease your strain
You?ll be waiting in vain
I got nothing for you to gain
Eyes on fire
Your spine is ablaze
Felling any foe with my gaze
And just in time
In the right place
Steadily emerging with grace
Felling any foe with my gaze
Steadily emerging with grace
Felling any foe with my gaze
Steadily emerging with grace
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Men...what is it with men any more?
Do they not realize what the concept of being a man is?
You want to take a woman out...okay...so what you ask her out, then expect her to make plans, and then sit there with you while you do nothing.
There was a time when men were romantic, they would go to the effort of planning a date, they would make it special, and the woman was made to feel special. She would get flowers and car doors would be opened for her, and all kinds of cool stuff.
Now, we cant get a submissive to walk behind us, or get a job...what the hell?
Im seeing some one that isnt even IN The life style, and he acts more submissive than any one else I know. He shows up with my favorite, ice cold pepsi, a pack of smokes, and went thru bags of starbusrt jelly beans while waiting 45 minutes for me, in the dark, in a parking lot, just because they are my favorite, and he wanted to see me smile.
He doesnt expect sex. He doesnt expect that I will get him off. he doesnt ask for things like that. he just comes to me as friends, and tries to make ME happy.
But theres 5011 of the most submissive men ever on this site and in the world that cant get their shit together long enuff to be honest, and to go to work, or do what they are told to do, as they are told to do it.
And the Dominant men....lol. Are almost just as bad.
Its enuff to make me want to walk away from this insanity again. |
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Friends in the life style are hard to find. Its hard to think about the amount of trust that this type of life choice involves. You have to be able to open up the inner most parts of yourself, so if a betrayal of any kind occurs, its like salting an open wound.
Ive made some good friends in this life style, but some times it seems like there is this undertone of either sexual repression, or competition. Its like the life style cant be what it is for the sake of being it. You just have to have some kind of label, or you have to have some kind of contact.
I dont get that at all. First, competition is healthy in some settings, but in this setting where the inclination of the sadist is to go harder and to push, two people preverbally pissing on trees, could get some one hurt, badly.
Second, the whole sexual undertone...its still another form of competition. Its like when a sub makes friends with another sub, they have to see who is more dominant or submissive and that leads to play. Like wise with two Dominants...and try being a switch. Ugh.
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I recently spent some time talking to a friend of mine, whose boy has been giving her fits. This happens from time to time, but she was so upset, and I think really hurt that to him, it seemed like a game, and to her, it seemed like it could have been more than real. (Which makes me want to punch him in the face honestly...)
She and I had been discussing the difference between the various choices in path that this liberating lifestyle offers us, and how some people dont really think about the -role- they choose, but the title, as if it some kind of fashion plate. They dont stop to realize the actual parameters of each role, or how it functions. Or even that the definitions are not concrete except in the most basal way. That some things have a hard and fast definition, or that each requires different levels of the person.
The general consensus was that people dont think about the difference between vanilla kink, BDSM, D/s, s/m, s/M or top and bottom play. Meaing that some boys, ( said boy in this specific instance) wants to holler and ring bells and whistles about how he is submissive, or even slave, with no clear idea of what those words encompass to my friend, or how they apply to him.
So enamoured with the idea of being a sexually well rewarded toy, with no clear idea of what service, or respect is, or how frustrating it is to constantly have to remind them and guide them, only to get answers like "Um...yeah?" or "nope" while they continue to do it, and refuse to work for what they want. when work is suggested, or put upon them, they melt down and "need a break because they have too much on their plate".
My suggestion was to invest some time lining out expectations and consequences for failure on both parts. Im pretty sure that is what negotiation is about isnt it? And isnt that like the first step? -shrugs- what do I know?
But then I realized in this digital era (where submission is a "gift" and not the natural way of a person) cutting off contact for failing to be respectful, or failing to walk behind the Dominant when a physical meeting allows, means other digital searchers could encroach upon your chosen one.
So taking time to negotiate, taking time to train, or punish and teach and guide means patience is lost and eyes ( or would it be fingers?) tend to wander. Which opens the door for a whole plethora of bad habits, lying, backing out on pre set times and days for things, and reacting strangely to other wise acceptable situations.
Yet, no one can really figure out why boys will walk 10 feet in front of their Domme's, or girls will cry and run to friends (half way handing out the story by the way) and cry about the punishments from their Master because he had to remind them 4 times last week not to tell him what to do.
More and more often Dominants are allowing themselves to be topped from the bottom. I dont get it. I mean, love the sub, love the slave, what ever, but you are the one that makes the rules, you are the one that sets the limits. You are the tone and pace of the relationship, if that person has truly given themselves over to it, as they should.
Would you -ask- a child to do their chores? Or would you -tell- them to do it? Right...Do you ask a student to do well in school, or is it expected? See where I am going with this?
Just like being a submissive makes a choice (key word there...choice) to work for a collar, the Dominant has to make a choice to take control.
In training of any kind, if you let that slip, even a little, you might as well scrap it. Its like a wild animal, you bring it home and love it and feed it, but you have a fear of opening them and yourself up to what you can do for them, what you want from them, and what the two of you are able to give, and they will walk all over you.
Ladies, and Gentlemen, take control. Have some confidence. Seriously. |
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Ahh yes, another black entry...yum.
Okay, so heres some new stuff for those of you that take the time to do the highlight thing...
I love men. Adore them. And while I state that I am bi, I felt that an obligatory statement to cover the two times I have been with a woman. Neither of them worked out, so...girls..Not that Im not flattered, just, em...you arent my type.
I love men, I love the way they move, the way they feel, the way that they smell, and just about everything about them.
Women on the other hand, can not offer me the things I find interesting in men.
Another thing you should keep in mind, when approaching me, originality is key. I find conversation that is dull and witless to be boring and generally do not reply to it.
I dont KNOW that I am seeking a Dom, I dont KNOW that I am seeking a sub. I am just watching people as they pass. That is what I do, so even if you get a reply, dont get your hopes up. I kind of have my eye out for....that thing..I dont know how else to cover it. |
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I am going to post this, just to see takes the initiative to find out what it says. I personally think that would be great. Initiative.
Okay, so, I have given it some thought, and some of you know, those who know me well anyway, know that I have been in kind of a funk on this whole D/s thing.
So after talking to a friend of mine, I have decided that what I need is a weekend of both ends of the spectrum....one weekend of total service by a boy, and one masochist to beat the hell out of, and then a weekend of total submission by a good Dom, and then...I can break the surface of freedom, and fly.
Yes, I think that is what I will plan....
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| Age: 18 |
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