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First off, I've been either interested in this or doing it since I was 19 years old, that's 11 years ago. I found this site in college while I was looking to get laid, but what it discovered was this whole new dimension of sex. After that, "normal" sex seemed plain..........boring almost.

I started off being a switch, the best way for newbies to learn the ropes and discover things about themselves IMO. I've tried being a sub. to be perfectly honest I find women to be beautiful creatures and I enjoyed being a sub for a time, idolizing them for their beauty. As I spent more time in this world, I realized that it was just time for me to put what I had learned from my Dommes to use and become a Dom myself. I still consider myself a switch, there are parts of being a sub I still enjoy and would be a sub again for the right woman.

while we're out in public or chatting I'll be pretty normal. I'm pretty informal with the titles and I feel it's best to let people be themselves in those situations. In the bedroom I'll change into my Dom role, I become a completely different person. I'll still care about you, I like my subs. I believe that we should both get something out of this experience. It should be about pleasure, we should both have it, it's not all about me. Why shouldn't we both get pleasure? it's true, you are there for my pleasure first and foremost but I will take care of you and your needs.
I don't punish for no reason either. I am not a sadist. If you're looking to get beaten for no reason, you will have to look elsewhere.

I do own a lot of my own toys. I prefer to use cuffs rather than rope because it's quicker and easier, but my cuffs are metal rather than the fur lined or the leather ones.....I want you to know you're being restrained and dominated, restraints aren't supposed to be comfortable. Don't worry, I won't cuff you too tight. You won't have red marks or be sore the next day.

Just beware, there isn't a whole lot I'm not into. I'll respect your limits as a sub, I always do. I use safe words as well. However if you don't tell me that you're not into a certain activity before hand I will likely do it.

Also, I do have other fetishes besides BDSM. I love to roleplay for instance.

To see me on the street, I'm nothing remarkable. I'm just an overweight guy (if you're not into bigger guys, stop reading right now). Not obese, more of a power lifter body. I hit the gym 4+ times per week and try to eat good in an effort to get in better shape. In my spare time I like to watch movies, hang out with friends or play video games. you could say I'm kinda nerdy, I know I'm the first to admit it.

I don't like bars, too noisy, smokey, hot and loud. I hate having to yell at somebody who's sitting 2 feet from you. I've never got into the whole BDSM "scene", you'll never catch me at a S&M club. I'm just looking for somebody that I can play with on a regular basis but let's see if we have similar interests first and go from there.

BTW, we need to be very discreet about this. I'm still "in the closet" so to speak about all this stuff.

It's all about sexual compatibility with me. Age, race, bodytype (and I actually mean all 3 of those things)and experience are all meaningless when it comes to me. Willingness to try new things is all I ask for. To me, having an open mind is more attractive than a perfect body.

If you put a gun to my head, I would have to choose a younger woman over an older one. It has nothing to do with attraction. To be honest, I find older women to be sexy. It has more to do with corruption of the innocent and younger girls just look innocent. I know most 20 year olds aren't these days, especially on this site. Of course, that's if you put a gun to my head. Since there is no gun, I welcome women of all age groups with open arms, arms I then use to put you over my knee and spank you.

I will respect your limits, whatever they may be, as long as you respect mine. If you haven't tried something and say you don't like it, I might encourage you to try it first. If you hate it afterwards then I'll never do it again.

I'm not looking for anything 24/7. While that would be fun it is not very practical. I'm looking for somebody I can play with once in a while, maybe once or twice per week.

As for the age thing, I'm very flexible. I've had scenes with women twice my age before and women who were 10 years younger than me. I see nothing wrong with that as long as there's compatibility, plus there's the naughty factor involved. an older woman shouldn't be playing with somebody half her age and a 19 year old should be playing with somebody old enough to be her teacher. It's just naughty and wrong and so, so hot

I hope I've peaked your interest enough for you to write me.
5/20/2008 12:39:58 PM

Looking for a new sub in the Des Moines, IA area.

it seems that one I was playing with decided that this stuff wasn't for her so I am currently looking for a new one. A second one that I am VERY interested in getting together with is very busy and we can't ever seem to find a time that works for both of us. Needless to say, I want to play more often than I am currently. Are you what I'm looking for?

Switches are more than welcome to apply as long as they realize that they will be subbing the majority, if not all, of the time.

The following is a list of traits I'm interested in:

1) must be local - no more than 25 miles away. Any further than that and it makes getting together regularly difficult

2) must be discreet - I'm still "in the closet" about BDSM

3)must be D&D free - I am so you should be as well.

4) must be into at least moderate bondage and like metal everything

5) must be open to trying new things

6) giving oral - sorry, this is manditory

the following is a list of secondary traits I'm interested in, but if you have these on your "will not do" list then it's not the end of the world and we can work around them.

1) liking anal - not a necessity but there is a lot of stuff that I like to do with that hole.

2) liking moderate pain - I have flogger, a cane, a nice brush, and my hand. I like to use them. I won't break the skin but you'll have bruises for up to 3 days afterwards. This can either be for discipline or punishment.

3)open to roleplaying - I like to roleplay.

4) like collar and lead play

5) open to taking pictures or video

Now that I have the basic stuff that I'm looking for in a sub out of the way, now comes the things you can expect from me as a Dom.

I'm not a mean Dom, I don't just punish for no reason but that doesn't mean I don't discipline. I am still the Alpha and will be reinforcing that throughout the scene in various ways.

Understanding that you are there for my pleasure first, your pleasure is a secondary concern to me. This does not mean I will not let you have your fair share of pleasure though.I will let you cum from a scene always. Be it during or after, it will happen. I'm going to cum while playing with you so I want you to have the same joy.

I do expect you to dress the way I want to, right down to the makeup. Don't worry, you won't have to go out and buy extra stuff but I do expect you to show up and change into the things I want you to wear as a sub. It may seem odd to you but I like my subs to dress a certain way, but I'm pretty flexible on my dress code.

that's the basics. If you are interested in the things written above then feel free to reply to this blog message. It's free to do so and I will write you a message as soon as I see it. I'll try to check this as often as I can.

I hope to hear from you.
Milenka9
 
 Age: 18
 New york, New York