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swtich804

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I am 100 straight, primarily Dom but want to sub occasionally on a very limited basis. I like being tied up and spanked, although my pain tolerance has not been developed. I would like to try light CBT as well. Outside the Richmond area, I would be willing to be tied in public. Being teased and punished for cumming without permission is an option. Id like to try sensory deprivation as well.

Ideally, I would like to find a switch lady whose sub desires are similar to mine but would be open to a relationship with a Domme.

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11/22/2017 11:50:05 AM

I am an Appalachian

I am an Appalachian no matter where I may be living at any point in time. If we are going to interact, you must understand that. Hopefully this will help. These are a part of who I am and always will be.

1. Individualism, Self-Reliance, Pride - most obvious characteristics; necessary on the early frontier; look after oneself; freedom; do things for oneself; not wanting to be beholding to others;

2. Religion - values and meaning to life spring from religious sources;

3. Neighborliness and Hospitality - help each other out

4. Family Solidarity or Familism - family centered; loyalty runs deep; responsibility may extend beyond immediate family; "blood is thicker than water"

5. Personalism - relates well to others; go to great lengths to keep from offending others; getting along is more important than letting one's feelings be known; think in terms of persons rather than degrees or professional reputations

6. Love of Place - never forget "back home" and go there as often as possible; revitalizing, especially if a migrant; sometimes stay in places where there is no hope of maintaining decent lives

7. Modesty and Being Oneself - believe one should not put on airs; be oneself, not a phony; don't pretend to be something you're not or be boastful; don't get above your raising

8. Sense of Beauty - displayed through folksongs, poems, arts, crafts, etc., colorful language metaphors, e.g. "I'm as nervous as a long-tailed cat in a roomful of rocking chairs."

9. Sense of Humor - seem dour, but laugh at ourselves; do not appreciate being laughed at; humor sustains people in hard times

10. Patriotism - goes back to Civil War times; flag, land, relationships are important; shows up in community celebration and festivals

(Adapted from: Appalachian Values by Loyal Jones. The Jesse Stuart Foundation, 1994.)


11/19/2017 4:17:44 AM

I am new to the kink community here and nowhere near as active as I would like to be. The biggest obstacles to changing that are schedule conflicts and the fact that I am a day person with almost no tolerance for smoking/vaping. Most of the local events are late at night with a lot of smoking. That is important background for me to share but not the purpose of this writing.

While I am new here, I am not new to the quest to become actively involved in kink in either an individual or group setting. I have been searching for a very long time online, but  I don’t have a problem. I am the problem. Every time I get into a situation that has potential to be a satisfying experience, I make some mistake of omission or commission that causes others to push me away. I have never broken off a conversation or relationship with a potential kink partner, but many have broken off with me. Therefore, I know that the problem must be me. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’ve asked a few, but none could or would tell me – at least not in a way the helps me. They say “chemistry,” but in relationships, that’s abstract, and I don’t deal with abstracts worth a darn.

I know how I want others to see me, especially at events. Since I don’t know who is open to talking or playing with the “new old guy,” I want people to see me as someone who is tired of being on the sidelines and wants to get into the game both in terms of friendship and play. I keep to myself, not because I want to, but because I don’t want to say or do something that will make me unwelcome. Watching and not participating stinks, but it beats not being able to attend.
I know what I want to do. In no particular order, I want to:

Let people know that not only am I approachable but that I WANT to be approached, that I’m not shy nor unfriendly – just overly cautious, that I am not very passionate at the moment because I’ve been shot down too many times but want my passions stirred – a lot
Dom and be Dommed
Bind ladies and be bound by them
Make new friends, real friends who will love and protect me and let me love and protect them
Give and receive a laundry list of tortures
Feel welcome and eventually become a person who takes responsibility for welcoming others
Spend a weekend or longer spontaneously switching between being a top and a bottom and doing whatever kinky thing my partner and I decide to do at the moment
Be a person whom people think of when they want pictures taken – vanilla or kink
Dom two or more ladies at the same time
Hug and be hugged
Be a shoulder for someone to cry on and have a shoulder to cry on
Laugh, smile, and be myself and leave no doubt in others’ minds that they can do the same around me
Understand and be understood
Find a long-term partner
Be able to attend any event and not feel that I have to walk on eggshells and/or prove myself (Yes, I do feel that way now, especially when it comes to rope.)


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xxrinaxx
 
 Age: 29
 Canada