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Welcome!

It is my desire to expose myself here and to be as honest as possible with regard to how i see myself, and about what it is that i seek.

As a man, i am sincere, very loving, and passionate. one who is a complete novice to this lifestyle, in RL, and one who desires to live out the remainder of my life within its embrace. i am a man first, and possess a very strong sense of self, of what is healthy or unhealthy behavior. i carry myself with dignity, always am pleased to be able to help another, and i thrive on emotional connections. i am a romantic, and a gentle man. In my day to day life i appear to be quite confident, capable, and am an achiever. A high achiever i would say, although in a way i need a proper "Why" to enable full realization of my potential. In my minds eye, this is one reason why i need "Her."
i am a professional man, trim and considered attractive by most, and in good physical appearance. i am most attracted, physically, to Woman who are also in good physical shape, weight and height proportionate.

i do enjoy being active and learning new things. i am very much into music, especially the blues, and have learned to work a blues harp. i love fine dining, road trips, dark mysteries, campfires, and positive attitudes. i am quick to be supportive, and one of the reasons that i am in this world is to be a mirror – "to see their beauty and mirror it back to T/them." i tend to be rather capable in this regard. i cannot live my life fully without intimacy, and i crave it, in all of its lovely forms.

i am not "usual". i do not consider myself to be "like the other boys" in that i find i am more in-tune with my Female self than my male. i appreciate and honor the Female attributes far more. The two occasions in my life where i found myself to be "in love" felt to me to be the perfect "melding" of these two selves within. my desire is to feel that very rare feeling within myself again. (Regardless of it being reciprocated or not). i realize my next relationship may or may not culminate in such feelings, but that remains my ideal.

my three strongest qualities (values) are honesty, passion, and a craving for intimacy. (These qualities are always present within me, not just when convenient).

my three most prevalent weaknesses (which i am in need of help with) are feeling too much, (if that is possible), a tendency to be complacent, and a dreamer mentality (although this trait often produces benefits as well ;-)

my purpose is to become involved in a long term relationship with one lovely Female who is a practitioner of Femdom based on Her own longstanding need.

Ideally, i seek to begin a relationship as a submissive man, but wish to be guided, directed, molded, and otherwise controlled by Her, until She may deem me to be appropriate to become a slave to Her. My goal is that She may eventually claim me as Her personal property.

i have always been keenly aware of the inner strength, power, and beauty of most Women. Even as a very small boy, i was in awe of these "powers" that Women so naturally seem to possess. i am now desirous of surrendering myself to that power. To present myself at Her feet, and turn my back on myself so to speak.

Due to my own very limited experience (i am not counting a lifetime of dreaming and desires as experience here) i feel i am in need of proper teaching, and instruction, beginning at the very first step. i must say that although i am a novice, She will not find me to be typical in that regard, in terms of having to repeat things to me, or dealing with any natural resistance to Her want, whim, or desire. i am rather emotionally developed, and have a clear understanding of my place in this. She will find me to be most willing and resilient.

i am extremely attracted and turned on by everything regarding Femdom that i have read to date. Especially, i seem to be drawn to the controlling aspects, the Female superiority, and the protocols.

i do not have very much experience at all with BDSM although it has often been a favored fantasy theme of mine, for as long as i can remember. i need to be taught. Mostly, i seem to feel the need to belong to Her, within a 24/7 mindset, regardless of the concomitant activities, or percent of D/s, M/s and vanilla within the context. i remain very open about this and wish to leave it primarily up to my Domme, to lead me in the proper direction, according to Her thinking, in this regard. i do not feel qualified to know how things "should" be.

i have recently joined a local group in my area, to begin to learn as much as possible and to make friends within the lifestyle.

Your contact is welcome. Photo(s) of me and my thoughtful answers to any questions You may have about me are available upon request or command.

seaturtle50

12/30/2006 3:10:19 PM
i am a mazed of the need that People here demonstrate to tear down any possibility of a connection as soon as possible.

(What did "they" do to You Ma'am?)

i think it is due to the exorbitant amount of work required to go through potential after potential, made even more cumbersome i am sure, by the number of so called "fakers" and "weekend warriors" that One must weed out.

Still, i find it slightly hurtful to my Psyche and spirit to offer my intimacy (intimacy and all that that implies) to a potential Domme - One who states She is seeking - only to have Her lump me into the dung pile of "players" just as quickly as She can.  Not into the abyss based on my own merit mind you - but before my own merit is even uncovered or known.

Special note to all would be Dommes' Who are seeking a whatever ... i am not the one who did that to You.  Nor would i ever be.

Well, at least i am a submissive - and enjoy torment in a way, so even this treatment has a merit of sorts.

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