Here I am, stuck again in a hotel room, on the road for work.  It would be nice to have a nice submissive girl to talk to and to perform for me on Skype.

You asked what I feel when I bind or offer pain or other things to a sub.  It sounds corny, but a lot of what I feel is a deep connection with her.  It is the most intimate of conversations.  We are speaking to each other when she offers herself to me and I watch and listen and smell and taste her response to my ministrations.  It is deeply sexual, but often in a non-genital way.  I feel her skin and wrap the rope to hold her as I want her, accessible or immobilized.  Bound tightly or for the pure beauty of it.  As I spank or cane or flog or whip her, I am excited by her response.  The response I can judge by the depth and cadence of her breathing and by looking into her eyes and by feeling between her legs.  I love to rub against her when she is bound, naked and aroused.  To feel her warm skin against my cock, my precum leaving tracks on her legs and bottom.  Stroking along the silky lips of her pussy, anointed with her feminine sexual liquid.

I understand and respect your limitations.  I have been involved with this for a long time, but don't feel the need to chase after submissive women.  On the other hand, I have experience with many things, mild to more exotic.  And I enjoy them all.  I am not interested in taking a woman forcibly, rather in leading her into the places she secretly wants to go.  And part of the fascination and satisfaction is finding those places; they are different for every woman.  They make her beautiful and radiant—those secret wonderful places.  I have no interest in abusing her.  Rather in helping to open up those things she wants so badly, is afraid of, and can't talk about.  Sometimes, standing naked, breasts bound with wrists bound behind your back, can help to open up the imagination.

Sunday morning.

Kissing you tenderly.  Binding your wrists behind your back.  Opening your clothes.  Taking your nipples in my fingers, squeezing and pulling.  Binding your breasts, winding soft white rope around them until they stand out proudly from your chest, nipples erect.  Hand on your bottom, exploring and spanking.  Hand between your legs.  Opening your lips.  Stroking your clit.  Caressing the swollen pearly head of your clit until you cum standing in my arms.

Happily, there are still cuckolds who like to watch and film their wives with other men.  Love to watch their videos.  I remember well the days of helping out cuckold couples.  Was filmed a few times myself.

I love all the subtle nuances of BDSM.  Playing with you, finding the little nooks and crannies of your submissiveness and how to stimulate them to take you deeper.  But then there are times when my balls are this full, that I just want to empty them on you and in you, hard and completely.

Have been watching videos of lactating women milking themselves.  Would love to participate.

Having a second prolonged morning erection.  Thinking of you.

The following lovely piece was sent to me today by a submissive friend.  I provide support, encouragement, and advice to her over the internet.  She is trying to encourage her husband to take a more dominant role with her and I have been helping her with suggested strategies.  She lives in another state and we have never met, but I value her friendship.  Read on, you will see why.

Watching a compilation video of women masturbating and cumming.  Nice.  Would like you to kneel to suck the precum from the tip of my penis.

Bondage is a wonderful starting place.  It is symbolic of a woman's submission, helps her to feel her submission, and opens her to exploration.  And that is the opening to mind play.  Before she ever acknowledges it, she is typically a web of fantasies and hopes and desires and fears and secret thoughts.  She must feel safe but when she does, it is a rare awakening of long-suppressed desires, a flood of emotions.  She is able to give herself up to what she has been seeking.  Trust and communication are the keys.  And then it opens up.

Out of the blue last night, I was contacted on yahoo IM webcam by a couple in another state.  He was naked and she was nearly so, just had a t-shirt pulled up above her breasts.  He is clearly submissive, she is more a playful switch.  And play they did as I watched on webcam and participated with suggestions/instructions for them to carry out.  She had many orgasms and eventually she let him cum too.  Altogether a unique and completely unexpected pleasure.

I was cleaning out old stuff and emptying private file drawers.  I came across an unlabelled VHF video.  It was of a sub woman and me, filmed by her husband, taken 10-15 years ago.  I met with them many times over the years, but I think this is the only video I had.  She was so responsive and so satisfying.  It was wonderful to watch all the kisses interspersed with the bondage and light spanking and other tasty things.  Wonderful memories.

I seldom cum.  I prefer not to lose my sexual "tension."  And I am not a "me first" type of person.  I mostly get my pleasure from taking a woman where she really wants to go and get enormous pleasure from her orgasms and giving her satisfaction.  But it would also be nice to know a woman who really enjoyed relieving me, taking my cum, milking it from me, drinking it, swallowing it, feeling it on her face, draining me completely.  A woman who got pleasure from giving me release.  My balls are full and my prostate is engorged.  I would like to feel relief of the pressure, but that would require a special woman, who wanted that first and foremost.

Sometimes after a long and trying day or stretch of days, it would be nice to just lie back and feel a woman's soft hands and mouth relieving the stress.

I received a note from a woman requesting suggestions for a rope bra design that did not involve a rope around the back of her neck, but rather functioned more like a regular bra with shoulder straps.  She said her breasts were quite heavy and it was uncomfortable to have them hanging from a rope around her neck. 

I responded as follows:

If your breasts are quite large and heavy, I would start by winding rope around each separately, fully encasing each breast in a firm winding of rope.  I would then wind a third rope around both of your breasts, holding them together so they can be lifted together.  Then the ends of another rope, under and lifting both breasts, can be brought up over your shoulders and down and around under your arms to go under your bound breasts and up over the opposite shoulders, down under your arms, and beneath your breasts again.  Do this as many times as the length of rope allows.  The two ends can be tied together under your breasts.  This will suspend your bound breasts from shoulder straps like a regular bra.  If necessary, use wider rope for the straps so they don't dig into your shoulders.

Variations:

a)  After going up over your shoulders, the ropes can be crossed over to go under the opposite arm and then under your breasts as above.  That would crisscross your back but not be around your neck.

b)  Perform the above techniques while leaning over with your breasts hanging down.  Better to get firm wrappings around each breast at the beginning so they will stand out from your chest, and then to get them firmly suspended with the ropes over your shoulders.  Again, so that they will stand out from your chest where they can be accessible for viewing and use.

c)  Skip step two at the beginning, that is, don't wrap rope around both breasts to hold them together after you have wrapped them individually.  In this case the ropes over your shoulders would start with the rope under just one breast, then up over your shoulders, meaning one would cross over in the front of your chest.  When the two ends come around front, run them under the other breast and then up over shoulders as before.  Continue, alternating breasts as the length of rope allows, tie the two ends together.  This will suspend your breasts independently rather than bound together.

Hope this helps as a starter.  J

There is a lovely woman, now unfortunately having health problems, who I have seen over the last couple of years.  We have been together enough that I know and can look forward to what will take place when I see her.  She is very receptive and responsive.  She will knock on the front door and I will let her in.  She will go to the middle of the living room and will kneel to kiss my balls in the ritual she has learned.  She loves this so she will continue with her oral service until she has had 5-10 orgasms.  We will go upstairs where she will slowly undress as I watch her, intermittently examining and exploring her.  I will bind her arms behind her back and bind her breasts thoroughly and tightly, which she loves, before moving on to other activities.  Later, we will return to the living room, where she will again kneel to kiss my balls before leaving to drive home to her husband, who waits to hear about the evening's activities.

I recall in years past, when couples would contact me when they wanted the wife to be with another man, often with the husband watching.  That doesn't seem to happen as much any more.  We have all gotten older.  Bet we would all still enjoy it.