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I just came back to this site after a few years. I'm not into online friendships, or chatting. I'm not opposed to meeting people in real time, but it just takes too much effort if we got to send a thousand emails and chat for hours. I would like to spend more time creating kinky furniture, and stuff. So if your in the Chicago area you can drop me a line with project ideas.

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7/7/2010 11:41:50 AM

It has been an interesting few weeks, I have "steped up" some of our activity, I backed off a little because it seemed we had some issues that needed to be addressed.
She is VERY receptive and has finally had a standing orgasm, actually twice.
The first one was by the washing machine, I just kind of went at her when she bent over doing something...ended up playing with her when she was leaning back on the machines until she came....
The next day she said can you make me cum again? well of course I would I like watching it, so I made her beg for it a little, and played with her again, the second time, it was BIG and she almost fell I had to hold her up.


6/15/2010 12:40:38 AM
WOW, time is going by fast.

Our relationship is changing and moving foreward we had a little bit of a "slow down" in communication. Now we seem to be doing better. 

But it seems that she has not been involved in the level of play that I have come to enjoy.  

I enjoy seeing her in a collar, and chained to the ceiling spread out and helpless. I thought she was experienced and had more extrem things done. It turns out I was wrong.

5/8/2010 9:52:39 AM
well I am faceing a sad fact...the girl that intoduced me to let out my kinky side, and I seem to be drifting apart...

She doesn't seem to want to communicate as much, and more than once has told me, I think too much, I want to talk too much. I think this is pretty sad and I'm willing to wok at saving and improving our relationship. I don't think I can give up on "thinking and talking" but maybe I can work on the way I present my ideas....

What I've found out about myself...in no order:
I'm a bit of a sadast.
I enjoy being "Dom" but not on a 24/7 basis
I enjoy a bratty woman
I need a woman that talks
I like to take care of my woman




4/5/2010 7:02:09 PM
So I have learned to listen and think more...even if I am told I think too much, I never understood that line, but...

At times I have not heard her submission, sometimes she has had to be forcfull to make me realise whats going on, the little signs are the hardest for me to read, and I feel these may be most important. Many times she just wants to do things for me that I'm not used to.

I have been holding back on BDSM sex for a little bit, we have been enjoying the vanilla stuff just fine.

We recently had a discussion about some of her beliefs. The other day we were cleaning something and I positioned her in a different way, she replied " you criticize me so much" this is something I don't do. So I asked her "when do I criticize you?, be specific and name one time." the thing is she couldn't BUT we were doing house cleaning because her family was comming to visit. Now her family DOES criticize her and put her down. I have been very carefull not to, because I was put down by my family alot. I think she was just reflecting her families way of communicating on me.

I believe she feels much better after we spoke, communication is so important


3/16/2010 4:06:57 PM
Not too much to ad as of late. I have steped back from too much sexual experimentation and play for a little while, so I can collect my thougts.

I have come to realise that she communicates much different than I do, I mean other than the man/woman thing....it sometimes takes her days  to get things out of her mouth, this has caused me to have to slow down, since I want to address things as soon as possible.

I do see a lot of progress in our relationship, and in her, to at least say whats on her mind, even if it is a couple of days late.


3/8/2010 12:05:33 PM
Well we didn't have what I would call a full scene, but we did have a little fun.
I'm working a little more on her standing orgasm, I am calling forced for lack of a better term, because I am forcing her to stand.
She has gotten a LOT closer to orgasm while standing, but not yet...she got close, but begged me to let her lie down, once she did she came....

I guess she is geeting "trained"

I love the look on her face when she was standing there ready to burst....

3/5/2010 3:07:26 PM
I haven't been able to spend much time with her as my sub...We have had time together, and it's always good. We do have good sex, loving sex, gentle sex, and do lots of things for each other
I think I have come to realise I may also need to exercise control over her like she needs to submit. For lack of a better term I think I am going through a Dom withdraw.
This is where my mind starts to race and I get overwhelmed with thoughts and new ideas to do things.
This is when I need to really show control.
I will make time this weekend so we can have some playtime together.

2/22/2010 11:02:31 AM
I'm going to add here we are not a 24/7 couple, I guess I shoud be described more as a "Top" but not too sure.
I have access to her sexually whenever I want, She is a "full sub" when her collar is on.
Out of bed it is much more 50/50

well, worked a little more on the standing or "forced" orgasm this weekend. She got close but not yet. I also had her bound, standing for longer than last time.
She also had a little bit of a poblem following the rules this weekend. She thought it was funny that she was only allowed to answer in the third person as "Your slut" after a good spanking, she realized that the rules I put in place are to be listened to.
I also asked her about her past experience, something I'm not sure I should have.But wanted to know about how she was treated and what she liked. I don't think I'll do that again.


2/15/2010 10:12:20 AM
Well I tried this weekend to make my sub have a "forced" orgasm,while standing...didn't work too good...I have come to realize that I may be trying too hard to do too much too soon. I am going to focuse the next few weeks on just a couple of things.
On another note, I have been demanding that she wears nylons & heels on the weekend, and dress sluty for me, I tell her she looks hot (because she does) and I think this is helping her self body image, she has lost a couple of pounds, I never said anything about her weight, and has been doing some light excersize, I'm proud of her.

2/11/2010 1:31:46 PM
I ordered a riding crop from an online store, I also made a new spreader bar, that I like better than the old one. I also got some candles for wax play this weekend, I'm looking for an electric fly swatter to use on her ass also.
I have some plans for pictures this weekend, she has been reluctant to pose for me in the past, I am hoping she will be more willing this time. I love the way she looks tied up and want the pictures for my own porn.
I really plan on pushing her hard this weekend, I know she is wanting more but I have to also hold myself back sometimes it can be a little overwhelming how much controll she lets me have.
I am thinking about another female with her, I'm not sure what I expect from a third yet. I don't know if I would like another female to be Dom over her, or a sub equal to her. Might never happen just ideas in my head

2/8/2010 2:02:42 PM
I am really getting into the control aspect of all this. I made my sub "dress" herself. In the past I usually put on her restraints but this weekend I tried something different, after she was dressed...black top, nylons, & heels I told her to bring restarints to me. she brought them all out at once....bunched up. I didn't like the way it looked. I stoped her and told her, no, put it all back and bring me just the collar. she brought out her collar, and kneeled next to me, this was the only piece I put on her, I then explained that she should bring out the toys one piece at a time and lay them on the table. she did that, as she did I asked her what each piece was for, she answerd wrist, ankle....all the pieces were laid out and I told her to put each piece on and asked her, what is this for, what is that for....After the restraints were on, I aksed what kind  of a slut will put these on herself? then I made here go into detail about how she liked being tied down, fucked, and used, etc...
She is answering very well now inthe third person....I think it's so hot to hear "your slut would like to suck the cum out of your dick"

2/1/2010 10:59:56 PM
My little sub was very happy to get her collar,  I made a spreader bar, it worked well,but I'm not happy with it. I will make a new one.
I don't particulary like to be called Sir I never have been in the military...but for now I will allow it. I made her answer me in the third person as "Your slut" ex- "Your slut would like a drink of water" She did well and only sliped a few times, she was spanked as her punishment

1/29/2010 3:55:54 PM
Just got a new collar, bought her a 3 ring collar, I think they look hot and cant wait to see her in it. When I brought it over I left it ina little black bag and told her not to look....I foulded the bag in a very specific way so I can tell if it moves. I hope she peeks so she can think about it, and I can punish her. I also made a spreader bar, and some ankle cuffs for my little sub...

1/26/2010 11:09:55 AM
I'm not much of a writer but want to put down what I've discovered about myself.
I like:
The way a woman looks with cuffs on and her hands bound above her head. 
Controlling her breathing with my mouth, clamping down over hers and holdind her nose shut, feeling her fight to breath. the same with Ballgags, and holding her nose shut, listening to her strained breathing through her mouth. 
I am leaning more about nipple clamps, when to apply, and when to remove them when she cums.













 

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DOMOFTHEOCEAN
 
 Age: 37
  New York