Also "SirDante" on FL.
I believe in objectively proven science, and doing my part for the good health of the many, and for the planet we live on. I also subscribe to humanistic, open minded and inclusive thoughts and ideas
About me (D/s): I've been interested in D/s for as long as I can remember (had power exchange thoughts from a very early age), and I've been actively involved in the lifestyle and the community for a long time - Sept 2023 made it 26 years since attending my first munch! Over the years I've attended many public play parties, private events & D/s house parties, and also hosted several kink parties at my home as well. I enjoy taking the time to get to know a person, their thoughts, ideas, desires, and learning how they discovered and became interested in D/s. I enjoy meeting like minded people who have similar thoughts/ideas on what D/s encompasses, resonating with qualities such as mutual respect, trust, good communication, etiquette, honesty and open mindedness.
Kink list (to name a few): Impact play (spanking, flogging, discipline), bondage (restraints, rope play, shibari), sensual domination and sensory deprivation (blindfolds, teasing, edging, toys/vibrators, touching secret spots that create tingles & goosebumps), ALL the fun types of mutually pleasurable sexy play within a strong overlying D/s dynamic, and most importantly, aftercare and ritual communication to keep a D/s relationship healthy, stimulating and passionate.
Notes on style of play: Consensuality and positive energy is important to me, and I don't do anything that involves sending mixed signals e.g. verbal humiliation/degradation or body shaming... that energy doesn't turn me on. When starting out I play on the lighter side, to learn a sub's verbal and non-verbal body language, her thresholds, and let her continue to build comfort while we discover each other's preferences. A lengthy discussion of limits (hers and mine) will be done prior to any playing, and I always establish safewords, keeping S/M play within a sub's pleasurable levels of intensity (until she feels ready to have her boundaries pushed, and clearly communicates that to me). While I certainly enjoy a little sass and playfulness, I don't play with subs who are bratty or defiant in a disrespectful manner.
About me (vanilla): I'm currently living a fulfilling life, grateful for what I have, overcoming personal challenges, and making a point to get out of my comfort zone to enjoy what life has to offer. I love sharing my life enriching experiences with close friends, and also joining them to be a part of their life journey as well.
Interests (and good topics for conversation) include...
- Travelling with a goal of visiting more places around the world!
- Music - listening, going to live bands/concerts, composing & producing (as a hobby)
- Photography - doing photo shoots (e.g. boudoir/kinky), or just capturing the moment
- Wine - going touring, enjoying wine from different regions, and also making wine at home
- Museums, art galleries, festivals, dining out, road trips and fun touristy activities
- Fitness and health - gym, mountain biking, hiking, yoga, fitness classes
- Working with tools - doing renovations in and around my house
- Latin & Ballroom dancing - rumba, salsa, swing, waltz, foxtrot, samba... still searching for a consistent dance partner ;)
- Embracing minimalism and essentialism - getting rid of unnecessary stuff and focusing on what's meaningful in life
- Cooking and crafting unique ice-cream flavours
- Have my scuba cert that I hope to put to use one day
- Gardening and enjoying the outdoors
I fully own my home in London Ont, and have a second property in the Caribbean, currently a rental, with a future dream of spending the cold winter months there while enjoying the warmer seasons here. Would you like to escape winter and relax on the beach with me? ;)
Self-dev audiobooks & podcasts enthusiast. Continually strive to be connected on a deeper level, be mindful & present in the moment, and make decisions to focus on what I can control. I value routines that nurture relationships and embrace direct positive communication. Unafraid of meaningful/difficult conversations when needed, and providing a safe space for processing emotions.
I've chosen to be childfree, and my life is filled with fantastic family & friends that I enjoy spending time with.
Your action item: If you feel so inclined, then send me a message so we can strike up a friendly and casual conversation, no pressure, no expectations, and just see where it goes... hopefully somewhere exciting ;)
