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Update: PLEASE READ THROUGH MY ENTIRE PROFILE BEFORE MESSAGING ME.

I...

...am demanding.

... love to laugh.

...am a sapiosexual yet chemistry and attraction have a slight advantage in value to me. Both however, are required.

... live consciously in the moment and pursue things that satisfy my curious nature.

...don't feel like I've connected to a person until I've gotten past their protective layer.

...will challenge you to show up powerfully and be your best self in whatever form that may take

...find vulnerability, trust and integrity incredibly sexy.

... see truth in fear and work to inspire others to move beyond their own.

...dream in color and actively create my future.

... view life as playful, open, and free, and work to create safe, rewarding, and full experiences with women who desire and are capable of expanding their views on love, life, and sex beyond social norms and barriers.

... prefer to mix personal growth with my sexual activity.

... do not censor my thoughts, and I choose strong, feminine, and open women who seek to release their limiting beliefs to find peace, safety, liberation and surrender.

... am an INTJ


You should message me if:

You are open to or have experience with open/poly relationships because you want to be free and feel claimed at the same time. (This is a non-negotiable.)

You are either non-conventional already or conventional looking to explore the non-conventional side of yourself. Both are very juicy to me. (This is non-negotiable)

You have the ability, willingness, and desire to communicate a lot and the courage to communicate the most challenging topics with clarity, respect, and grace. I tend to be quite polarizing so I usually figure this out whether a woman is strong or weak in this area very quickly. (This is non-negotiable)

You are impeccable with your word because you understand the importance of trust in a relationship and thus respect and desire the same. (This is a non-negotiable.)

You can host freely, meaning you have your own place or an accommodating living situation (non-negotiable)

You do NOT have the need for a traditional marriage now or in the future. And if you already have kids you have created a way to structure your life to have time and space for a deep relationship. (non-negotiable)

You like a demanding, take charge kind of man both in the bedroom and outside of it.

thus...

You enjoy being OUT of control of a situation so that you can just sit back and experience it fully.

You crave being expressive both emotionally and primally because you know that it is healthy and deeply connecting to let the beast out to be seen for what it is.

You have a dark side that you are courageous enough to explore.

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5/2/2013 11:02:58 AM

This is something I read that I find is a great example of how a healthy Dominant should be...I hope you enjoy.. 

 

Finding a man is no easy task for submissive ladies. It seems many women do not understand the red flags signaling “Beware.” - A dominant man will not start off by with, 'Bow down on your knees upon receipt of my message!' There seems to be many complaints from women about this kind of ploy as first introduction, and this is reason alone to 'block n’ move on.' (I would advise ladies to use this tactic often and liberally rather than engage in argument or flame wars…life is too short.). Ignore the Insta-Dom. - A dominant man will not seem ‘desperate’ for your attention. Getting dates or getting laid is not his problem; he can find women on kink sites, at work, or in the grocery store. He knows women, and women are drawn to him. Many women, kink or vanilla, prefer a man who is take-charge both in the bedroom and in life. If a 'Dom' becomes frantic, anxious, or despairing because you don’t write him back every other hour, chances are he has a hard time with the fairer sex. The good news is desperation is easy to spot. - A dominant man most often will be successful, a maverick, or at least happy in his chosen profession. If he has had some bad luck in his past, it will be fleeting, for he will strive relentlessly to place his universe back into the order mandatory to his existence. If your suitor languishes in poverty, unemployment for years, or hates his job, most likely his dominance is merely a cover-up to appease his lack of success. Though he may not be the millionaire, look for the man who is happy, confident, unique, and/or successful in his chosen endeavor. - A dominant man will be very interested in you, and not just your sexual needs (though they will certainly get his attention). He will see you as a puzzle, and desire to make sense of that puzzle. The dominant guy loves challenge and that in essence is why so many submissives find disillusion in the vanilla world; most men do not seek challenge in sensuality, they fear it. Submissive women are the most challenging of lovers for they have great fantasy. Their fantasies often require a man to move far outside normal gestures requiring both skill and creativity. How you think about a myriad of criterion will be of great interest to him. - A dominant man is likely to be damn good in the sack. Most men have their hands full with straight-up vanilla sex. The dominant man has either mastered or has no interest in such elementary play, at least not all the time. Making a woman orgasm many times has left him bereft of sport, so he now seeks a woman who will challenge him on other levels. The dominant guy is going to have a good understanding of the female anatomy, and will persist in finding the keys to your body and mind. He will have done his homework and already experimented in real-time on many lovers. He will be a bit of the Don Juan, if not Don himself; not a womanizer per se, but certainly sexually advanced. - A dominant man may have all the accoutrement of kink (the whips, chains, and whatnot), but he will not need them to be dominant. A whisper, a word, a look, a swagger, and a touch are the essence of his talent. Confidence is his weapon of choice, not bragging about his dungeon. Those who tout their toys too highly might well be lacking in other departments. - A dominant man will be very cautious in selecting you because he knows you have great desires, hopes, and dreams, and it is he that has to live up to them. Above all things he will wish to be good for you. He attempts to choose wisely but may at first make many mistakes in his choices as he finds his way. - A dominant man will make mistakes and have no fear admitting them. The dominant guy knows he is not All Knowing, for he is human. A guy who believes he never makes mistakes or does not admit to them with good cheer is most likely not dominant. - A dominant man will never send you a cock shot at first greeting and it is highly unlikely that he’ll have one on his profile. - A dominant man will never lie about being married or already having a girlfriend. If he’s married to vanilla, he’ll simply say so. If he’s dating vanilla, he’ll break up with her before venturing in with another (less he’s doing a poly thing and brings her along, or in an open relationship). The dominant guy is straightforward, will wish to be plain about his true desires and needs, and if he is attached, will be forthcoming with that information. If he’s cheating on his vanilla wife, he will say so. He made his choice and is going for it. - A dominant man won’t lie about much, though he surely will keep some of his thoughts from you. A Dom who feels swallowing golden showers to be right up your alley may well know telling you straight out might have you running for cover. This is not in itself lying, he’s just taking the appropriate steps first and at the speed he thinks you can absorb them (he may well discard such thoughts as he gets to know you; he will discard his thoughts often). The lying 'dom' will have an agenda that has no bearing on your needs. The real dominant guy wants no part of someone for whom he cannot be good. A man who attempts to get with a woman he cannot handle or vice versa is desperate. - A dominant man will not be heavy handed in his approach. He will be skilled at drawing you in, opening you up, making you feel at ease or on edge (depending on his tastes). His efforts will seem effortless; even aloof at times. He will grow on you. Capture you. Enlighten you and make things seem clear that may have been once blurry. You will feel better about yourself when communicating with him (even if your desire is to live in debasement!). Only an impostor will try to tear you down in order to raise himself to higher ground. The dominate gets off by watching you soar, not fall. In essence, taking on a submissive is both invigorating and empowering yet also a humbling experience. He may err constantly, particularly if he is new. Yet he will always, always strive to be better, and though he longs and seeks challenge, he will avoid that which he knows he cannot handle, or will in some near future be unable to handle. It may take time but he will understand his own limits as well as his woman’s. A submissive is a truckload of challenge (ask their ex-vanilla lovers), and so the dominant man needs you like he needs air. He wants your worship not simply for worship sake but because he has gone beyond the call of the norm, ventured into the realm of risk, and passing across the dangerous abyss where footing is treacherous, hopefully breaks into the sunshine of success offering you something glorious. THAT alone is why he seeks your worship; because he has earned it and deserves it. If a man does not seek risk and challenge in his life, if he wishes worship without venturing his ego, if he does not persist continually toward excellence in handling a woman as he does in many things, he is not a dominant man. - Great piece, and worth posting-


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 Age: 21
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