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Hi,im a single Black Male from TX. ISO of something irreplaceable to add to MY dream..
Single but curious about starting a "POC DD/bbg or lg polygyny household triad"
I'm 29,Aquarius,a gentleman,sadistic,funny,brutally honest,intelligent,sophisticated,strict,firm,high standards and one of a kind..
What is your role in the lifestyle?
My "role" or calling within the LS is Daddy Dominant/Sadist evolving Master.
What are you a self-proclaimed expert in?
I am a self proclaimed expert in cuddles,forced orgasms,personal development,personality & emotional modification, and treating good girls with respect,and treating naughty girls like dirty,disgusting cum sluts..
What do you want to learn more about?
I want to learn more about the dynamic between Master&slave,pet play,recieving Dick worship,how to be a "better" Dominant,how to literally make this "Real",and impact play..
What do you hope to find on here?
A young unapologetically intelligent,"naturally born" submissive or slave woman,open to conversation online. One who's preferably bisexual or heteroflexible.
Relocation would be up for discussion once proven worth,merit & of value..
SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY!!
My profile on Fetlife is the same here:ThoughtsByDaddy
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Prof. Utonium here
(An ad i placed)
Where are my powerpuff girls?
Out saving the world I hope..
Daddy misses you so much though!
I can't wait to give my girls a nice hot bath when they get home..
I have bathbombs,wine,and lots of bubbles!!
If you've seen them,please tell them Daddy misses them.
They're various heights,skin tones & 20-30yrs. They're intelligent and really good girls.. |
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"Brats"..the Love/Hate part of bdsm.
Here's MY comments in a thread that concerned "brats not being submissives" (which i WHOLEHEARTILY disagree)
In MY opinion,I think part of being a "brat" or acting bratty requires one to have a certain level of intelligence,respect for authority,ability distinguish between disobedience & will,honor,accountability & a willingness to dig within themselves (in the direction of submission) & the desire to go to the root of WHY they are acting out. Not to mention have an interest in working to better their communication skills..which is another reason brats,brat or when subs are acting "bratty".
With THIS foundation in mind:
"They may like to play the submissive, do things like a traditional D/s activities here and there, but...when a person submits to another, they submit to rules, protocols, proper ways of behavior and conduct etc."
-The subs that IVE encountered that identified as "brats" did adhere to rules,protocols & proper ways of conduct.. What IVE encountered for the most part was a simple "why". Which can easily be resolved by letting them know WHY the rules,protocols & guidelines are set in place. To ME,that shows growth on both ends of the spectrum..for the D-Type,it teaches one to be thorough,direct & clear. For the s-Type,it teaches a sense of security,accountability of stated rules & etc,& boundaries (which are healthy in a relationship)
"Most Dominants (including yours truly) prefer compliance and obedience. I don't want to constantly feel like I have to fight to prove my Dominance."
-I don't fight to prove my Dominance..I show it. I prefer compliance & obedience just like any other D-Type. I believe that they comply or you move on.
It's totally possible that a s-Type can "act out" or be a little irritable..but they always comply & be an obedient lil stinkbutt. The ones that I've interacted with are usually hard workers,driven & Alphas in their everyday life.. It's a learning process to the PE..& even more so in a TPE. I think it's up to BOTH to work towards making things easier for them both.
"Once the exchange of power occurs, the sub should have seen that I am the Dominant one in the relationship and that is that."
-The thing with brats is that they understand that there are fakes..
None of that "I'm going to submit to you JUST because you're a Dom". I believe that my actions,vision,drive,focus & ambition are things that inspire them towards submission.
I want to know though..WHEN does the "exchange of power occur?"
When they've decided that,that's what they want to do,right?
"If I want my drink a certain way, if I want it served a certain way, etc. I tell mine to go make me a drink...they go make it, but they don't serve it to me."
-Like I stated in one of my writings...
I gotta admit,THIS is one of those tricky situations.. But all it is to ME,is a patience test & wanting attention. You HAVE to have a sense of humor dealing with a brat..seriously..brats are made of jokes & bad puns..
I CAN also see the issue here realistically,especially after a rough/rest face spanking & being banned from all that brings joy in their life. Sure,they wouldn't want to serve you,but I think this is a chance where communication comes in. It's nothing to discuss what happened,reminding them of their place & IF they are who they say they are(by taking accountability) they'll do it..rather they want to or not..
"That's forcing the Dominant to have to come punish them for not doing it the way they've been told."
-Patience test..the thing about brats is that you can't be quick to punish..
You'll more than likely fall into a trap..
It's not for everybody..everybody aren't Sadists looking for an excuse. >:)
"They get what they want: they want to be conquered over and over again."
-No..at least not with ME..or it's about perception.
I think it's healthy for any s-Type to be "conquered over & over again". To ME,it's pretty cool that I have someone reminding me that I should put them in their place.. I embrace the "help"..
Let me know that I've been super nice lately instead of being the usual sick&twisted/depraved/stern & strict self. I want MY s-Types to always know who they belong to (within the context/duration of our relationship) & I will do that in a way that's hard & often...that's just ME.
"They want to constantly "test" the dominance AND the patience of their Dominant partner, which is a way of controlling their dynamic under the guise of being a brat."
-Some do,some don't..
But don't D-Types constantly test them as well?
Now about controlling..it DOES look like brats are the ones controlling the relationship,but in actuality,it's still the D-Type. That's another thing about owning one. You gotta understand that people WILL make the assumption & question who reeeally is in charge..it's ALWAYS the Dom.
"Understand one very key thing here: TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM IS NOT NOR HAS IT EVER BEEN A FORM OF SUBMISSION."
-I agree 100%!!
That's WHY as long as you remember this & be creative,it'll never happen..
"This is a childish dynamic."
-Of course!
Usually within the spectrum of DD/lg or bg..
"Why do this?"
-Cause people are weird..
Because we all have desires,standards & want proof that we can feel.
For some,it's validation that their relationship can exist with humor,another brings worth once they do make things official & others, the final steps into TPE.
These are a collection of my thoughts,experiences & interactions with brats & s-Types with bratty behavior.. I'm here for the discussion. |
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Since when did "kink" & BDSM = abuse?
You being "brought" or "raised" into this lifestyle through cohersion is NOT okay..
Family who have sex with family member minors,having then to grow up thinking it's okay is sick! It should be reported to the authorities!
People who have become "slaves",without negation are taken advantage of period..
Being cut off from society are red flags of an abuser.
Slaves CANNOT be bought/sold..
There's no such thing as a "24/7-365 no limit slave". That's all fantasy..
ALL of this is fantasy!!
Subs/slaves PLEASE learn how to recognize a predator..
Get to know these so called "Doms" as a person FIRST,then the kinks!
You are an adult..
This should be practiced with Safety,Sane & Consent!
If you want out,you CAN get out..if not,call the police & explain everything!
These fake Dom(mes) don't owe you shit,not even an explanation.
Kink is SUPPOSED to be the exploration of your sexual nature,not an excuse to leave someone used,abused & hurt..
It's sooo much abuse on this site,here's my attempt in speaking up about it.
It's so many out here doing it wrong that newbies think it's okay..
"I want you to own me 24/7,make me your bitch,treat me like trash"..
Okay,that's fine,but FIRST respect ME enough to tell me about who you are besides the kink.
And READ!
Educate yourself with reading material..
I can bet 90% of the people on this site haven't read ONE book on kink or s&m..
It's reeeally pathetic for me to even write something like this,more so that there's so much ignorance going on here.
This is a rant of sorts from a WELL experienced Daddy Dom that's been in the lifestyle for 5yrs..
Sad indeed..
There SHOULD be more quality here & I'm afraid not..
But,life goes on..
I WISH I could point out the fakes,but apparently that violates "rules"..which leaves people at the mercy of wolves. Go figure..
If you seek advice or REAL knowledge or friend,let's talk..
Hope this doesn't fall on deaf ears..
-ThoughtsByDaddy
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**Black Daddy seeking serious sub(s) or slave(s)**
Wanting to meet a Black female sub(s) or slave(s) on here,that may be interested in a LTR & eventual relocate.
Are you ladies present?
Me:
Experienced (4yrs in the lifestyle)
Focused
Patient
Respectful
Honorable
High Integrity
Leader
Sensual
Sadist
Fit
Driven
5'7
No kids,never been married
Polygyny minded
You:
Intelligent
Humurous
Outgoing
Respectable
Driven
Between 18-35yrs
Strong (mentally/emotionally)
Height- 5'8 or shorter
No kids
Goals
Serious
bisexual,homoflexible,heteroflexible or bi curious
-ThoughtsByDaddy |
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(Top 10 Reasons he's an asshole and NOT a Dominant)
1.He demands you call him Sir or Master from the moment you meet. You're a submissive, not his submissive. I advocate being respectful until he gives you a reason not to be, but anyone who demands a title before it's earned needs to be ignored.
2.He starts out an introduction with a dick pic. No Dominant is going to send you this without some sort of agreement between the two of you. It's just not going to happen.
3.He sends you unsolicited instructions of how to please him or orders to obey. Did you talk about this list? Was there communication and consent? If not, this is just another poser.
4.He ignores your hard limits. Don't just walk away from this loser, fucking run. Ignoring your clearly identified and communicated limits is the sign of an asshole and an abuser. A Dominant will push your limits, sure, but not without first talking to you - a lot.
5.He disregards your safe word. Yes, some Dominants out there claim not to play with a safe word. I find that dicey but won't pass too much judgment. If you use a safe word, though, it should be respected. Ignoring this is just more abuse.
6.He lies. I know some people will say that everyone lies. White lies to save face or feelings. Most Dominants I know are honest to a fault. Think about it. How can you communicate openly and honestly if you'll lie about things - big or small? John Brownstone doesn't lie; he simply refrains from speaking until the time is right to tell the truth. I can respect that.
7.He thinks more about his pleasure than your own. Caveat: if you've negotiated a relationship where this is acceptable to both of you (yes, that's possible), that's okay. Not my kink, but okay. I'm referring to the jerk who gets off and then ignores you or doesn't listen when you tell him your preferences.
8.He makes you feel bad about yourself. I'm not talking about a humiliation fetish in the middle of a scene or even as part of an on-going relationship. I'm talking about the soul-sucking, self-esteem shattering bullshit that makes you feel less than human and unworthy of love and affection. D/s should build both people up, not tear you down.
9.He separates you from family and friends. Okay, let's be honest here. Some people are just bad for us. They make us feel bad and doubt our self worth. I don't mean those people. I'm talking about loving relationships with friends and family. A good Dominant wants a happy, healthy submissive - and isolating you from people who care about you won't achieve that. Frankly, it will simply show that he's selfish and, most likely, insecure.
10.He tells you that you're not a "real" submissive because you have your own opinions. In a D/s relationship, how you express those opinions will vary based on your consensual, negotiated agreement but you should always have your own opinions. The other flavor that goes with this one is that you're not a real submissive because you're too independent, aggressive, or (best of all) not willing to do what you're told by someone you just met who claims to be a Dominant. (Insert big, fat eyeroll.) |
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?In search of OUR Poly minded babygirl/sub sis for LTR & eventual relocate?
Just as the title suggests me & my sub are looking for a long term, FULL,3part relationship with someone who's interested in a REAL relationship with two caring,patient,kinky & understanding people. We would like to get to know you as a person FIRST,the kinky stuff is the icing on the cake & comes second. Experience isn't necessary as we BOTH are seeking compatibility & willingness above all. All questions & inquiries can be answered by either me or my sub.. IF you find yourself interested in this ad,dont hesitate to reach out. We are NOT time wasters,we DO have standards & are looking for quality over quantity. It doesn't matter where you live as we are avid travelers,we will either come see you or you can meet with one of us..whichever is closer.
Non kink things about us:
Travel
Fun
Cool/down to earth
Intellectuals
Music festivals
Anime enthusiasts
Art appreciation
Kinky things:
DD/bbg dynamic
S/m (impact play)
TPE
Much more via conversation respectively..
Pro Black preferred
-ThoughtsByDaddy
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I do NOT condone human trafficking aka "real slaves that are paid for" via some other city/country.. I will report you to the police because that's some sick shit! The ONLY kind of slavery I'm into is FANTANSY CONSENSUAL!! If I gotta pay,I don't want it..especially if you can't provide proof or your "mistress" or "trainer" doesn't give you permission...
Be careful newbies!! The worth of a slave/submissives worth is in who they are as a PERSON and what they can provide for service...
The money you INVEST in one will pay you back..
These scammers think they slick..
Imma just report they ass lol..
-ThoughtsByDaddy |
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How I picture an "ideal" DD/bbg or lg relationship...
Me being young but mentally capable,extremely patient,financially stable,athletic and highly respected...and she...
Clumsy,funny, a brat sometimes,shy,and emotionally demanding...yet open to learning,trusting,and want more out of life....
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**ATTENTION**
To the beautiful Black slaves,subs,switches & the like who DON'T hate themselves & people that look like them,please disregard this!!
To the "white male cock lovin nigg'r slaves,cum whores,fuck sluts & 3hole piss cunts"
Know this,your service to superior Black MEN isn't wanted or needed..
To be even touched by the likes of you is a stage1 reprimand of a thorough flogging,caning and bastinado session on the error of your ways. Either daily,or until the feeling of disgrace has left..
As expected there are various degrees the more you've delt with "them".
It is a PRIVILEGE to be owned by a Black Male Dominant and few are worthy enough to step foot within our homes. You gave up your dignity,self worth,and rights as a hueman,for lesser beings..that's fine actually!!
Move aside,as us Black Dom's look for Black women searching for purpose,honor,integrity,and a place where guidelines are respected,rules are followed,and failure to comply are grounds for SEVERE punishment. As I type this now,i loathe the energy spent on giving you pathetic nigg'r whores attention meant for a greater design..the PROGRESS of MY superior bloodline.
Even STILL..I wish you the best & that you find what you're looking for..remember,this is FANTASY! Your "play" partner may/may not have alternative motives for your nigg'r ass..(not that dumb nigg'r bedwench cock whores care)
Be safe and peep game...
If your inferior isn't building you,theyre destroying you..and there's nothing worse than a broken,stupid nigg'r whore..
With sincerity..
-ThoughtsByDaddy
(I don't do race play)
(Your kink is NOT my kink) |
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I [the sub sister's ad]
am seeking a bisexual woman for a poly relationship. We desire the age between 21 - 26. We have known each other for sometime and are looking to open our circle to one more person to balance us out. You do not need to be experienced in this lifestyle as we are patient and don't mind the slow pace. We want to get to know YOU and allow you to ask questions, meet and greet, hang out and grow with us. Distance is not a big factor as traveling is both of ours love and passion. However, if you are within Houston TX or Denver CO area you will be more likely to meet one of us sooner or quite possibly both depending on the circumstance. We desire connection before anything else as well as honesty. Communication is incredibly important and key for us. This is a Dominant driven triad, as he does have a final say HOWEVER he has a very understanding and patient personality. Do not let his leading role allow you to feel as if you will not be heard. We all have equal say, you will be heard and listened to. No suggestion, comment, concern goes without conversation and being addressed. This is why we do not mind the slow pace as getting to know both of us will take time and equal effort. You deserve to feel comfortable with whom you are being involved with as well as being able to trust all parties involved and we view you the same. This is not a jump in situation nor do we expect or want someone to. Serious inquiries for those seeking will be considered. This is not a casual hookup or one night temporary event, this is directed toward a long term status. Feel free to inbox me to talk more. |
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[Daddy Dom ad]
For now,just looking for a like-minded,positive,outgoing little/middle/or bbg sub of color,who's interested in being apart a Black kinky polygyny"family" where we all have equal input,but I have final say..
I/we are NOT in a rush for anything,also anything short term/bedroom only. I'm just looking for conversation online first & then progress to phones,to get a feel for potential mates and matches..
I/we assure whoever does fancy this idea/dynamic,they would NEVER go without being loved,cherished,valued,honored and appreciated as a equal member of our closed triad dynamic..(until we iron out the details)
I/we prefer bisexual,but heteroflexible is fine too!
I'm also a "budding sadist",so a masochist would be ideal as well! (Not a deciding factor)
Me typing out about what I have to offer would only go so far as there is MUCH more than I could ever post online,i rather we all talk OTP or meet in public one day and discuss things in more detail..
There IS a process one MUST undergo to "prove" authenticity to ME as a future Daddy & also to your would be,future sister. There will be time allowed to acquire the proper documentation (for health reasons & for everyone's safety).
When I/we find that special & unique person to complete our growing family,the search would close and we would get started on working on US..
The focus is Daddy at the head,with a sub sister/bestie mentality to even things out..
Age isn't too big of a factor,but we DO prefer someone 21+ & non smoker (420 is fine). ME personally,i don't want anyone older than I..
There will be strict training,high protocol,rules,structure & micromanagement because of MY attention put on OUR vanilla lives..it's ONLY to make sure things flow smoothly.
I am a very protective,controlling,territorial,and caring workaholic, yet passionate,humorous & easy-going Man with a HUGE heart,that ALWAYS will make time,hopefully my girls would align with that as well..
Having a job or in school would be nice,but understand your service goes to the HOUSE..
No selfish women!! ESPECIALLY with your heart,ideas and feelings!
Growth based household with a progressive mentality!
Fun and games will ALWAYS come second to work!
MUST have a dream,goals&ambitions,OWN mind,and appreciation for POC & to help other people..
I don't slut shame or judge,but would rather mold you to be OUR slut..for the relationship,household and of course MY personal amusement..
MUST like big butts,cookies,blanketforts,disney movies,roadtrips,and days where WE can lay in bed all day and have fun..
I was a boyscout for many years..I know how to tie a knot and I'm ProBlack..
*Dropsmic
#kanyeforpres |
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| Age: 31 |
| Baltimore,
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