I'm a reasonably intelligent, thoughtful, fit, educated man... but am most comfortable in a relationship where the woman is in charge. I'm not looking for leather and whips, wax and pins... but would be happiest in a relationship that might seem vanilla on the outside - but one in which She makes all the major decisions. And behind closed doors, we take off all pretense...

UPDATE (2017) - I'm leaving the above paragraph here, as it describes what I consider to be ideal. However, I just came back to this profile after about 5 years away in it. I took a break from this world, looking for what was "normal", and got married to a wonderful woman. However, it has become very clear that I have been lying to myself - I'm not a "vanilla" guy destined for a traditional relationship.

So I'm back here, not actively seeing at the moment, until I have resolved my current status - but dipping my toe back in to remind myself of my natural position. I understand most dominant women won't want to waste their time with a guy in my situation, but I'm always interested in talking to new people about this world.

I have a duplicate profile (subbyboy517) but as I recently recovered this old collarme profile I'll be moving back here. So I'm not a scamming double profile kinda guy. :-)