Collarspace

I'm well aware I'm screaming into the void with this disclaimer, but I am not a pro domme. Only interested in those in/around Manhattan. Career focused, no time or desire for a vanilla relationship. I give great girlfriend, just not the usual variety. I've been on either side of the D/s spectrum and know I only like dominant men sexually and typically only if I'm feeling particularly masochistic or as a tool to make my subbie jealous and even more saucer eyed. Otherwise, submissive men who play a dominant role day to day are my preference. A submissives obsession, adoration and loyalty is the only basis that I feel comfortable being free enough to express just how selfish my fantasies are. As for "real" life, my happiness should still come first as it makes us both happy. I realize that's also selfish. You should know I don't really care. It's as brutal a yield sign as I can convey and going forward, I'm going to be brutally honest about what I am as not doing so serves no one, least of all myself. I'm incredibly loving towards my subbie, but if I were capable/interested in the usual forms of reciprocity, I wouldn't be here. I actually like switches, but if you're the variety of switch that can't stay submissive long enough to fight your expectation that one should give in to you because now you feel like topping, then proceed to do something as gross as pout about it, here's a tip: You're not a switch. You're probably just an asshole. I'm beautiful, intelligent, etc. That describes a large percentage of women in Manhattan. It's not so remarkable and while it is obviously its own social currency, when you're not a vanilla woman, it is counter intuitive. I'm not interested in a normal conversation over a cocktail about where I grew up or my favorite color. I'm not worried if you'll like me. I'm typically staring past your face thinking is he subbie enough to kiss my feet in his suit after he's had an incredibly stressful day that I don't care to hear about apart from how it serves me? Does he want to see a smile spread across my face when I tell him I'm going out, but not with him, and he should get on his knees and sniff my perfect ass while I get dressed up in ways I never would for him? Does he hope I don't grant him release for as many days as I choose if it isn't what I truly want and deserve? Is his happy place when I'm sitting on his face listening for my laugh of satisfaction? If I insisted he continue drinking in excess while I watch and push him to beg to be taken advantage of, would he bite? So, while its nice to go out and I'm never short on admirers, I can buy my own drinks without the hassle of hearing someone feed me every social norm we've decided is appropriate on a date. I'm just not that woman. You should be a single suit and tie guy. Successful and older than 35. Again, screaming into the void, but if you're not attractive, don't bother. Your hard-on for you, but giggle inducing for me level of self loathing shouldn't prevent you from assessing whether you're symmetrical. Weird, intense fun with someone who thinks a lack of control is a worthy vice to enjoy with someone deserving. That's a decent start.