I am one who is well experienced and well versed in this lifestyle. I find it positively amazing that there are so few that know what they want but rather wallow in the infantile state of the victim mentality. Those are willing to become stagnant in their safe little locations but fear the unknown though they profess otherwise. I have seen a lot of, "I want a Master to take me but I am not willing to do anything to get him". A Man is something that escapes most and will forever elude those not willing to take the leap of faith into the shadows. Giving up the "what is" for the embrace of the darkness holding only "what could be". I am that darkness, that strength for those willing to come and take part. Strength of mind and body are what I offer you and lessons that will bring forth the animal within and hone the lady outside. I am not looking for play as games are for small children. I seek a long term relationship built on more than just a passing fancy or mild curiosity. If you can handle one that will push your limits but not break them, cast you into the shadows of your soul and show you the woman that you desire to be. Then venture down the dark path and embrace the night. I am particular in what I seek. I seek someone with self confidence and self esteem, for I know that one cannot go without the other. Many want to lay around and become fat and lethargic yet claim that they want someone to love and desire the beauty within. Well then bring out that beauty, take time for yourself and work toward the goal of making yourself the most desirable, attractive one that you can be. This lifestyle is not hard, but it is one of acceptance and changes, accept who and what you are. If your calling is as a sub, then be that... yet if slave is your calling, then be that as well, but be the best one for your Dom/ Master and don't allow yourself to be caught in the trap of the "Cookie cutter D/s relationship". D/s is about creating a relationship between the Dom and the sub or the Master and slave. Many I have seen just want kinky sex or just to have someone else put their life into order for them with the doctrines of some "uber" D/s relationship that worked for the people in it and no one else. But like sheep, they follow the ideal of a D/s relationship humbly with not a thought in their heads. If you want to be sheep, then go find another Shepard, I don't travel that path. If you want a Man, in control of himself, his environment, and his life then speak with me. If you want to dwell in dream land and wait for one to find you then I will tell you not to hold your breath for too long.