3/17/2018 5:31:18 AM: CHASTITY BELT - RELATIONSHIP AGREEMENT[A Male Chastity Contract]  To insure a successful marriage, the cuckold husband will agree to the following regarding the penis which will now be called the marital penis: The Wife will have complete ownership and control of the marital penis.  The husband has no right of privacy during the periods of time set forth in the husband's dress code below. Therefore, bathroom doors must remain open when the marital penis is urinating so that the Wife may inspect the marital penis at any time.  The Wife will decide if and when the marital penis will be allowed to ejaculate.  The Wife will decide the method used to cause the marital penis to ejaculate. She may, for example, have the cuckold husband masturbate or She may choose Her preferred method applied by Her or Her designee. The husband is not permitted to ask for any sexual favors, such as rubbing of the marital penis, insertion into any animate or inanimate s (except as described below), licking or sucking unless directed or initiated by the Wife. The husband is not permitted to touch the marital penis without permission. The cuckold husband will wear a chastity belt whenever required by his Wife. Wearing the chastity belt symbolizes the Wife's absolute domination and control of the marital penis.  The husband is not permitted to touch any Female or expose himself to any Female unless directed to do so by the Wife.  To insure a successful cuckold marriage, the Wife has the following rights: The Wife has complete ownership and control of the marital penis and She and only She will decide when it will touched, rubbed, sucked or placed into or on any whether animate or inanimate and when or if it may ejaculate.  The Wife may require the husband to wear a chastity device on the marital penis that may eliminate engorgement of the marital penis, touching of the marital penis or scrotum, hiding the marital penis from the husbands view and/or controls ejaculation.  When the marital penis is allowed to ejaculate, the Wife has the rights to the ejaculate.  The Wife has the right to recycle the ejaculate in any way She sees fit, for example: - by direct injection into the husbands mouth  - collecting it in a vessel of Her choice to be fed to the cuckold husband  - collecting it in Her hand so that it may be fed to the husband or She may require that he lick it from Her hand until Her hand is clean.  - Collecting it on or in Her body to be cleaned by the husband.  Or in any other manner She decides.  The Wife has the right to demand sexual pleasure from the cuckold husband at any time without any reciprocal duties, which may include but not be limited to cunnilingus, fornication and body worship.  Since the Wife no longer needs the marital penis for satisfaction, She may seek other means of satisfaction.  She may demand the husband provide Her with pornographic stories or pictures for Her amusement.  She has the right to make love to as many men as She wants without any repercussion from the cuckold husband.  She may suck as many dicks as often as She likes without any repercussion from the husband  She may swallow other mens ejaculate if She so wishes without any repercussion from the husband  If She returns to the cuckold husband full of another man's cum this symbolizes that the marital penis is not the least bit necessary for the wife's sexual fulfillment.  Every evening upon demand, the Wife has the right to have Her pussy licked clean by the husband.  If She returns to the husband full of another man's cum, the cuckold husband's licking of her lover's cum out of Her pussy symbolized his submissive role to Her and it also demonstrates the absolute need to put the erotic pleasure of the Wife as the highest priority in a husband and Wife relationship.  To insure a successful cuckold marriage, the husband's dress code is as follows: The Wife sets the rules that dictate what her husband shall wear. For example: The husband may be required to remove all clothes after a set time of day or after a particular trigger time, such as after dinner.  The husband may be required to wear clothes that allow him to be exposed after a set time of day or after a particular trigger time, such as after dinner.  Sexual devices such as butt plugs, chastity devices, rope binding, handcuffs, etc. are considered clothing.  The husband is required to advise the Wife when his workday is easy and he is available to service the Wife. He is not required to follow the dress code during his workday.  To insure a successful marriage, the Wife may punish the husband for the following infractions as follows. This is a guide only and does not limit the Wife to decide to punish for other infractions: Not following instructions  Not satisfying his Wife when directed to do so Not following the dress code. Complaining or forbidding the Wife to have sex outside the marriage as is Her right. Not cleaning His Wife's pussy after sex with another male when directed to do so. Not recycling his ejaculate according to instruction. Touching his penis.  Ejaculating without permission.  Asking for sexual favors from any other Female.  Not encouraging Her to seek sexual pleasure outside the marriage with whomever She decides.  Not facilitating sex outside the marriage if instructed to do so. For example, not driving Her to Her lover, preparing Her lover for Her which may include facilitating the lover's erection for Her by hand or orally as instructed by the Wife only and, but not limited by, preparing the scene if She decides to engage Her lover at home.   To insure a successful chastity marriage, the Wife may punish the cuckold husband as follows. This is a guide only and does not limit the Wife's choice of punishment which is only limited by the Wife's imagination: Spanking.  Whipping.  Binding him to the bed or other for extended periods of time. During this time #1 & #2 may be applied to the husband's body. The penis or balls may be bound and/or stretched with any device the Wife chooses. This will possibly increase the size of the substandard puny marital penis.  Restraining him with ropes, belts, chains or handcuffs.  Prolonging the husband's chastity period.  Applying pressure to the husband's balls to create discomfort. Since the husband does not own the marital penis and balls, the level of pressure exerted on the balls is entirely up to the Wife's discretion.  Instructing the husband to wear clothes only suitable for women or sissified men. This may include under clothes such as panties or bra or over clothes such as a dress or skirt.  To insure a successful chastity marriage, the cuckold husband acknowledges that the following are privileges, not punishments: Satisfying his Wife whenever She demands.  Allowing the Wife to withhold his ejaculation to improve the marriage by making him more attentive and responsive.  Cleaning His Wife's pussy with his mouth on Her demand.  

10/15/2017 5:00:20 AM: Kamiko and the Three Cs  -------------------------------   I have a story to tell you, chastity boy. Grab a coffee, it's a long story.   On my gap year, after university, I worked for a year in Japan. It was daytime baby-sitting for the newborn of a very corporate Japanese couple in the wealthy 'burbs of Tokyo. The husband was a salaryman, heading off to 10 hours work each day, and he spoke no English. The wife was younger and beautiful, spoke perfect English, and did no work at all: she stayed at home, played the cafe society, enjoyed herself spending his money, and generally had a good time. She had several young lovers, that she did not try to hide from her husband (or me), and he seemed to accept these as her due.   One day when I was near the end of my year there, I jokingly asked her what her secret was, and she smiled and told me to stay for dinner that night. Intrigued, I did. The two of us had a light dinner, and then hubby arrived. I usually left long before salary hubby got home, and when he turned up, he was surprised to see me still there. But he was not surprised at his wife, despite the fact that she proceeded to tear strips off him in Japanese too fast for me to follow, while he desperately tried to placate her, all the while looking toward me with a rather anguished look. Eventually she grabbed him by the ear, hauled him over the sofa, then grabbed his trousers, and pulled them and his underpants down to his knees! Still lecturing him at a thousand words a minute, while he just lay there moaning softly and making no move to oppose her, she pulled down from the top of a bookshelf ... a cane. She swished it through the air, and the sound cut like a knife. Then she took up position behind him and brought it down across his buttocks. It was a savage cut, and he spasmed with pain, uttering a choked-off scream of agony, but he stayed there. I had taken a seat in a chair a few steps in front of him, so I could see his face, and believe me, it was a picture of agony. She did it again, and again. Six cuts, each administered with cruelly extreme force, while he sobbed and endured. Then she stood on tip-toe to put the cane back on top of the high bookshelf, and he turned toward her, still kneeling, still bare-assed, and began kissing her feet. Now I could see the six double-track weals of sheer pain written across his bottom. Then his kisses moved up to her knees and her thighs, and then he raised her miniskirt. She was bare underneath, and he began licking her pussy like a man dying of thirst.   I was wet as all-get-out myself by this stage. With hubby facing away from me, but cool young wife staring at me delightedly, I shucked my shorts and underpants, and lay back in the chair masturbating along to the rhythm they were making. The atmosphere was electric, and when the wife came, I did too.   And that was when the next funny thing happened. Wife barked something in Japanese to hubby, and he put his hands on his head and turned to face me. I looked at his groin ... and his penis was tightly locked in a chastity device! I'd never seen one before, but I could easily see its purpose from its design. Wife snickered at his embarrassment, uttered a dismissive word, and hubby shuffled to the bathroom with a red face and with his pants still around his knees.   The wife then showed me out, but we had a good long talk about it the next day. She said that 'The Three Cs' - chastity, caning and cunnilingus - were the key to a serious female-led relationship. The more she talked about it the more interested I got. My last month there was incredible ... how I regretted taking so long to broach the subject! Kamiko had me give up my tiny bedsit and move in to their spare room. Whenever hubby got a caning, she would make sure I witnessed it, and eventually she brought me around behind his body, and showed me how to hold the cane, and how to bring it whipping in, with that delightfully sickening swish through the air that foretold pure agony for the recipient. She made it quite clear that she wanted me to cane hubby, and he lay there accepting it. So I brought it down, but not nearly hard enough. Hubby grunted slightly as if it had hurt, but I sensed it was only out of politeness. Kamiko sensed it too, and promptly grabbed the cane from me and gave him one of her usual specials, which left him writhing in pain. Then she gave the cane back to me, and this time I brought it in much better, making him wince. 'Harder!' said Kamiko, and I obeyed. 'Harder!' she said again, and I ramped up the pain once more on that poor defenceless bottom. To the delighted urgings of Kamiko, I eventually began to match her impacts, my longer arms perhaps compensating for what I lacked in experience and technique. When Kamiko finally stopped me, poor hubby had copped over a dozen, and was sobbing openly. Kamiko sat beside me on the couch, and we kissed and cuddled while her hubby licked the pussies of each of us in turn.   After that, Kamiko shared the canings with me. One glorious time, she rang me and told me she was staying out with a lover, but asked if I could please give her husband six of the best. I was delighted to do so, and had him lick me to three orgasms afterward, I was so excited by it.      In all the time I was there, I never saw her unlock his penis. Perhaps she did, in private, but I rather suspect not. He just went without, while his gloriously dominant wife enjoyed orgasms from her submissive hubby, her occasional lovers, and her own hands and vibrators.   The day finally came when my visa ran out. The night before my flight home, Kamiko reached up to the bookshelf and pulled down a surprise: TWO canes. She and I then gave her hubby a stunning caning; twelve from each of us, alternating strokes. He was bawling like a baby, and his bottom was just a mass of horizontal weals when we finished. Kamiko and I enjoyed our usual kissing and cuddling, while hubby frantically busied himself attending to our orgasms with his tongue. We kept him there for hours, and had three or four cums each.   Next day, after hubby had gone to work, Kamiko held me close, and then silently gave me the new cane. 'For you,' she said, 'take it back to your country as a memory of me, but also so you can start your OWN Three-Cs relationship!'. I smiled, but I knew there was one more memento of Kamiko I wanted as well. I looked at her silently, and undressed slowly in front of her, until I was completely nude. Then I reached up to the bookshelf, and took down her old trusty cane and handed it to her. I then bent over the sofa, offering my bottom for her pain.   I knew she would not disappoint me and she most certainly didn't. The first stroke swished in, as hard as the agonizing cuts she dished out to her husband, and I was crying after that first one. The pain was indescribable. I proudly stayed bent over though, offering myself for the next stroke, and Kamiko chuckled and brought it down again. I was in a red haze of pain, tears running down my face, but she simply swished the cane in for a third stroke. Then a fourth, and a fifth, and a sixth. I could barely move, my bottom a tortured hell of sheer agony. I heard the cane being deposited on the bookshelf, and knew my role. I turned, knelt, lifted Kamiko's miniskirt, and licked her pussy while she stood in front of me enjoying it. She came right there. Then she took me to the sofa and made me lick her to three more orgasms. Then she held me close until it was almost time for me to leave. She stood me up, ran her fingers across the weals she had put on my bottom, then gently stroked her fingers across my sopping pussy. She did not give me an orgasm - I think we both knew it would have somehow been wrong if she had - and then had me dress, and drove me to the airport. I spent the long flight home with my bottom a seething mass of pain, my mind full of Kamiko, and my pussy constantly wet.    We stay in touch online, and occasionally she sends me a few intimate pics. One day soon, Kamiko and her hubby will both come out here, and I will make sure they both enjoy a lovely holiday ... though him perhaps not so much! But Kamiko is very happy that I am finally about to make use of her gift ... when I told her that I had locked you in a chastity device, she knew I was starting on my own journey down the Three-Cs path. And tonight we complete the last C. Bend over, my chastity-locked cunnilingus-performing boy ... it's time for your first ever caning.....(from http://icewolfchastity.blogspot.com/2013/02/kamiko-and-three-cs.html)

8/28/2017 12:13:54 AM: Ronda's Journal          Ronda has been doing a journal about her mate being locked up for days at a time.   Here is my journal so far, after 108 days of chastity and about a month of unlocked freedom for him. I would be grateful for your advice on my imminent decision to start either 6 months or a year of chastity. Any thoughts or experience you have would be appreciated. I have re-considered the 'male lesbian' concept. While your article is not fully on target in my case, there may, indeed, be some truth here. While the lesbian experience is not something I have experienced, not wish to experience, I believe I can appreciate it's value. The gentleness, tenderness and deeply satisfying love affair I now have, free from the sometimes rough and pounding lovemaking prior to this, is just too delicious for words. I credit the change in him to be because of the chastity effect. Thanks for your assistance.   I wrote recently to thank you for our 12B. At that time we had completed 54 days of the 100 days I had decided to lock him in the new unit. I was pleased beyond my wildest imagination at that point, but it just kept getting better. Some background may be in order. I offered to keep a journal and send you an update when the 100 days were completed.  Some time ago, he had previously done 28 days in a different chastity device. I was thrilled at the results. Per your website, stating it took at least 90 days in a chastity device to produce the desired changes, I decided he should do 90 days. I weakened after 63 days, but I later required, and he completed, the full 90 days locked up. And, you are exactly right, that 90 days are essential. It was stunning what happened. That was a couple of years ago and he still thanks me frequently for the experience of 90 days of chastity. He refers to that time as a 'gift' that I gave to him. He tells me almost daily, how much the 28 days changed his life and the 90 days confirmed for him his purpose in life and destiny in life: to devote his life to love and please me!  He also says the 90 days of chastity was a major achievement and demonstrated to him how much he had been missing because of his previously unrestricted and frequent orgasms, and the letdown that occurred after each. He tells me he would never again trade 15 to 20 seconds of the ecstasy of his orgasm, for days and weeks and months of the intense love we experience now. We have now seen it happen so many times we fully accept it, that his intense arousal and frequent, desperate 'needs' of an orgasm, without fail, vanish when I have my orgasms, instead of him! He always refers to this, when it happens, as the 'Miracle' and thanks me over and over for 'being strong' and NOT! unlocking him. All this, of course, AFTER my orgasms have satisfied me, and him, also. But having seen this countless times, I now find it charming and easy to keep him locked. It never fails that he's 'grateful and appreciative' as he repeatedly assures me, for remaining strong and keeping him locked, no matter how much begging or how desperate he says he is to be unlocked and granted permission to have an orgasm. It's almost beyond belief. The more anxious and desperate he says he is for his orgasm, the more satisfied he is after the Miracle occurs, which is every time I get satisfied by one or many orgasms or simply the tenderness of cuddling and kissing. He says he now realizes what he was missing all those years of unrestricted orgasms and now refers to the Miracle as what he has been cheated out of all those years. He was surprised to discover how much I enjoy the kissing, caressing and tenderness after my orgasms. He previously turned over, after his orgasm, and went to sleep. He thought I was doing the same. He has promised, after the 100 days are reached and I allow him a few days of as many of his orgasms as he desires, that he will NOT turn over and go to sleep, but continue the kissing and caressing. I doubt if he will, and fully expect to lock him back up after a few days of allowing him to have some orgasms. We always refer those days as 'optional days', when I keep him locked that day if I choose or unlock him, if I choose. Now, during the number of days of chastity for him that I have specified, there is never the possibility of unlocking until the number of days of his chastity have been reached. He loves to hear me say 'I'm perfectly satisfied' and turn over so he can hold me in his arms while I drift off to sleep. I can sense him becoming so peaceful and satisfied, too: his heart rate slows, his breathing slows and he also drifts off to sleep, totally satisfied. He can't wait to heat up the massage oil in warm water and give me a full body, leg and foot massage, always spending more than an hour each time. He warms up the vibrator and brings it to me each morning. As I previously mentioned, your unit 12B has made this experience so wonderful: I can fondle him as much as I want, and because of the design of the 12B, he is unable to have an erection or an orgasm. I no longer have to remain mindful of him approaching an orgasm that I do not wish to allow, and stop fondling. He is simply unable to have an orgasm in the 12B. We have enjoyed 69 to a much more satisfying degree, because it continues as long as I want, without the possibility of him having an orgasm and ruining it for me. He has become so very committed and anxious for my pleasure and satisfaction. One morning, I was very sleepy and tired. He asked! my permission to leave the bed so I could sleep, and to go make fresh coffee for me. I allowed him to do that and later called him back when I was truly ready for my usual morning of kissing and caressing. Of course, I also enjoyed several of the most beautiful, gentle, tender, and sweet and satisfying orgasms ever. Another morning, the instant he woke up he me he was completely satisfied. He had been locked about 70 days at that point and he told me he no longer obsessed about his orgasm. I almost fainted when he asked if I would start the 100 days from THAT! day! I told him we would complete the original 100 days and then I would decide. For many days after that, he asked if he were a perfect husband for the balance of the original 100 days of chastity, could he earn 'bonus days' locked up!  Stunning. He seems to genuinely enjoy the locked up chastity more than the prospect of his own orgasms. About a month before completing the 100 days of chastity, he began talking about what Day 100 would be like, specifically requesting it not be a quickie. He wanted me to have several orgasms first, allowing him to enjoy them, also, before his orgasm and the letdown. He told me he was actually beginning to dread the end of his chastity!  About that time, we had previously scheduled a party that required a lot of preparation, not the least of which, was window cleaning. Washing windows is a chore he ranks between biting the inside of his cheek and having a tooth pulled. He washed windows all day, without complaining even once. I was so proud of him, I decided to see if he was really serious about bonus days. I told him I was so pleased with the change in him, I would reward him with 7 bonus days. He was thrilled!  You could have knocked me over with a feather! He then asked for my help in becoming a perfect husband, and asked if I would assign chores so that he would be allowed to retain the bonus days earned and he wanted me to deduct bonus days for things that displease me. We'll see if that changes after 100 days, plus a few 'bonus days' if he earns them and gets to keep them! One absolutely delicious part of all this is he has become so very attentive and anxious to please me. He asks me what I think about things and wants to be with me all the time. He asks for reassurance almost daily, that I am not being cheated nor denied. That's so cute-if only he knew just how wonderful all this is for me! He makes me promise I will always be truthful and honest and that I will always have his penis anytime I want it. We enjoy the wonder that each morning brings and the discovery of what I want: sometimes no orgasms, just kissing and fondling and caressing, sometimes one or a few orgasms, or sometimes what he calls the 'hungry' days when we ride the wave. We share such a tender, loving relationship as a result of the 90 days, and the 100 days. The first 90 days was an adventure for both of us, not knowing what the future held. The second 90 days, or in this case, 100 days, has been even better, because we knew what was waiting for us, as the chastity effect takes place. There is no substitute for 90 days. This has been a life altering experience for both of us. We ended this most wonderful chastity experience at day 108. We, but primarily me, were ready for the chastity to end. Temporally. As anticipated it was wonderful beyond deion. It was also wonderfully different: so meaningful, so tender, loving and gentle, so completely and magnificently consumed with our love for each other. He remains completely changed from the Chastity experience, now a month later. He tells me daily that he continues to make his life focus pleasing me, that his destiny in life is to have me tell him he has become a perfect husband. He simply cannot do enough to insure I am satisfied, pleased, loved completely and that I am fully aware of his all consuming desire to become a perfect husband. He devotes his life to loving me, he does chores, he gives massages, he tells me he now finds his happiness and satisfaction comes from pleasing me. He read more on your website about longer chastity experiences, such as one year of chastity. He sometimes asks for a year locked up and other times says he couldn't do a full year. Now that I have allowed him about a month of unlimited, unlocked orgasms, I find he still he  remains  more interested in my orgasms than his. What a surprise! As of this update, I am now deciding between six months of chastity for him, or a full year. He tells me after about 60 to 70 days of chastity, he no longer obsesses about his orgasm. He tells me that feeling of being so peaceful and relieved of his orgasm-obsession has changed his life and made his life wonderful. He credits me with this life altering experience, but we both know it is because our love for each other allowed the chastity lifestyle to perform its magic and manifest this love affair. Wonder what six months of chastity or a full year of chastity will bring? Delicious thought!      

8/19/2017 11:59:51 PM: …A slave offers service to his Mistress. In the beginning it’s just exciting to do that and tease and denial is part of the excitement, ending, hopefully in an orgasm. But over time, a slave seeks to do things for his Mistress because he’s drawn to her and just wishes to be used by her. It all starts with tease and denial—the excitement of being teased but then denied, for awhile, receiving an orgasm in the end. In the beginning there is no Mistress and no slave. It’s a natural kind of play that raises the man’s excitement to fever pitch before the culmination of an orgasm. But as the teases grow longer and the carrot of an orgasm foregone, the game transforms into a lifestyle-play that favors the woman—who often becomes the Mistress. The Mistress foregoes his orgasm for longer and longer periods because without orgasm, independence from the woman is not regained and he offers greater obedience and affection and service. The slave’s desire to provide his Mistress with service is a natural consequence of tease and denial—seeking to ingratiate himself with his Mistress to achieve the favor of orgasm. But in time, the slave’s expectation of a “reward,” –orgasm, diminishes because he knows it conflicts with his Mistress’ desires. …And tease and denial can transform into chastity—usually because chastity is scary and challenging and perpetuates the excitement of tease and denial—potentially long-term. What’s in it for the woman is much slave service and obedience that seems to naturally accompany longer term denial. …And if chastity continues; if the Mistress holds fast to her objectives of obedience and service, ???? As a slave’s focus on his Mistress increases, with her continued teasing and playfulness and expressions of appreciation, there is no telling how long chastity can be maintained. There is a natural fear of the chastised male expressing anger and resentment over his condition and demanding release. In practice, teasing, together with expressions of love and appreciation, will hold these at bay as the man is behaviorally conditioned to accept chastity, substituting, as odd as it sounds, her loving expressions and sexual service to her for his ejaculations. Chasteness is unnerving but remains stimulating as it becomes the norm rather than just an aspect of bondage or discipline play. It loses the self-imagined stigma of an imposition—most of the time. There is a constant disbelief that the imposition of chastity will continue, even as the time lengthens between orgasms. There is an erroneous expectation that the Mistress will relent out of pity, even though the Mistress may increasingly enjoy the impact chastity makes on her slave’s behavior. Orgasms become plentiful for the Mistress, but for the slave—a privilege—that his Mistress seldom allows, even though the slave may imagine he retains some control over the situation. And ejaculation becomes a conundrum for the slave because he desires it so much, but at the same time wishes to please his Mistress and not engage in an undesired behavior. All this leads to the question of long-term denial: the nearly constant use of a chastity device and elimination or near-elimination of orgasms for a man. Well, it’s been done—a month, 6 months, a year, and longer! This whole process is a journey that sometimes leads here—a journey that depends entirely on the psychodynamics of the relationship, of the immersion and involvement of the slave in/with his Mistress and the Mistress’ love of her man as her slave, not to mention the sort of sexual fulfillment the Mistress desires.  

7/17/2017 1:53:40 AM: Orgasm Denial for Newbies          For ladies and men alike, I wanted to take a minute to offer some encouragement and advice to new-comers. There is an adaptation process to male chastity, and you need to ease into it. But you should do so knowing that there is an INCREDIBLE state of euphoria that the male can reach, if you're willing to work for it and have patience (and determination). It is a feeling like no other for him. For the lady in his life, there are profound changes that will occur in your male - but only if you're willing to make him wait! The male is weak and will beg to be let out. Don't give in! Amazing rewards lie in wait for him; you must be stronger than his animal brain!This is a very realistic and reasonable schedule. It takes about 4 months of training to prepare the male's body. Once this initial training and adaptation is complete, it is then possible for some remarkable changes to begin occurring.For someone just starting, I would suggest the following schedule:PREPARATORY PHASE - PHASE I  Weeks 1-2: Two orgasms per weekWeeks 3-4: One orgasm per weekWeeks 5-6: Only a single orgasm after two weeksWeeks 7-8: Only a single orgasm after two weeksMonth 3: One orgasm after one monthMonth 4: One orgasm after one monthREWARDS PHASE - PHASE II  Month 5-6: One orgasm after 2 monthsMonth 7-8: One orgasm after 3 monthsMonth 9-12: One orgasm after 4 monthsThe reason for the graduated schedule is so that the male's body can begin to adjust, so that it can prepare for what lies ahead.Notice how there are 2 phases to the schedule. It takes a while for his body to adjust to more extended denial. This is necessary, because the REAL changes that you both want, do not really begin to occur until at least 4-5 weeks of denial. After one month of no orgasms, the male begins to enter a sort of euphoria. After about 6 weeks of no cumming, cock locked in chastity and balls full of cum, the male will psychologically 'give up' on his own orgasms. Make no mistake - he'll be horny as hell! But if you have been cultivating him correctly, he will get to the point where it will become a very powerful sexual event when you allow him to massage your back or rub your feet. Any touch of your body becomes intensely erotic for him, and he will begin to derive sexual satisfaction not from his cock - but from pleasing YOU! He will accept the fact that his own orgasms are irrelevant, and truly devote himself to your pleasure instead.After 2 months, his level of desire will taper off. It is necessary during such extended periods of denial that you tease his penis. But he will be INCREDIBLY horny, and will cum on a hair-trigger. You only want to encourage him to a throbbing hard-on, and let it go. Lock him back up. Don't risk making him cum! You may want to tie him down, and rub your pussy on his cock a little bit. Just don't let him inside you, because he will cum for sure!The reason for all of this is that these first 2 months are the 'physical' phase, during which he becomes so incredibly horny he will swoon with desire for you. It is CRITICAL that during this time, he be forced to wait. The purpose of a pussy is to be worshipped by men. The purpose of a penis is to be kept on the very edge of cumming, so that he will do a great job of eating your pussy. Once he has accepted the irrelevance of his own sexual release and understands that his throbbing cock is of no siginficance, he will devote himself to pleasing you. But this can ONLY happen if you are willing to make him wait for such an extended period. It is in months 3 and 4 of his denial that you can focus on cultivating the actual behaviors that you want to last long-term. This includes not only learning to eat your pussy perfectly, but to perform whatever domestic chores that you require.It is his fantasy for you to 'punish' him by witholding his orgasms. But make no mistake - it is exactly what he wants! So do not feel at all bad about it. It is simply a male fantasy for a woman to withold his release. By denying him, you are helping his body enter a state of euphoria that is an incredible reward for him! But he is not strong enough to get there on his own. He needs you to withold his orgasms for him, to overcome his male animal instinct for self gratification. USE HIM FOR SEX! He wants this, too. He wants to feel that he was able to please you in a self-less manner. It makes him feel very special, as if he was your sexual plaything. Make him eat your pussy every day! In fact, several times a day, if you want. This will make him incredibly horny, but again - it's what he wants! Don't be surprised if your very feminine scent begins to drive him crazy. Many men in chastity become obsessed with eating their wife's pussy and just can't enough of it. Don't be bashful or shy about this - again, it make him feel as if he is your sexual plaything when you use him in this way.The ultimate tease, of course, is to make him wear a strap-on dildo and use it to fuck you, while his own cock stays locked and denied. You should make a point of doing this with him regularly, and talk about how nice and hard his new cock is and how good it feels in your pussy. It will drive him crazy with desire, so you may want to tie him down the first time or two that you do it. But, remember one very important thing! It is CRITICAL that you allow him the pleasure of your pussy occasionally. Forget about all those stupid internet stories. If you want to maintain his sexual interest in you, he has to believe that sex is attainable! So once you get into making him wait weeks and even months between releases, I strongly recommend you give him intercourse. For him, it will be the most powerful sexual event of his life and make him want to do it all over again.For me, personally, I am among a small minority of chastity slaves who have attained the 'ultimate' skill. After about a week of denial, it becomes possible for me to cum with no physical stimulation at all, while locked in chastity. The first time, it happened by accident. I was watching a porn video, and hadn't cum in a while. Suddenly I felt the orgasm building and explode out of me, against my will! Over the next few weeks, I found that by focusing my mental energy, even though I was locked in chastity, I could cum in my chastity device while eating my wife's pussy! I get so horny that sometimes I can even cum when I fuck her with a strap-on dildo. The reason this works for me is that my mind feels what I call 'shadow sensation.' I am so horny from being denied so long, that my mind 'imagines' the physical sensations. In a way this is bad, because my wife cannot truly prevent me from cumming. But it has taken things to a whole new level where I simply focus on eating her pussy and making her cum, and my own release will happen all on its own. It allows me to truly focus entirely on her, which is what it was all about anyway.