8/21/2017 12:24:54 PM: Subs disappearing when things get real is a recurring theme on Domme profiles.  The reasons why aren't the point this entry.  I've been on this site on and off for a decade, and I'll admit I've felt the need to ghost or escape a Domme here, even one that matched my fantasies.  I pride myself though on always replying and being honest.  The real issue is control, of course.  There are subs who give up control, and then there are subs who need to have control taken from them.  The subs who give up control will not ghost, they will show up and be your slave.  They're very, very, very rare and precious.  They are subs at heart, their whole being desires to serve.  Some Dommes have had one and know about this.  I've known three in my whole life.Subs who need control taken from them are another animal.  In a big way they're worse because they won't give themselves up.  In a way they're better; there's more of them because they're difficult to capture.  More importantly, capturing them requires a Domme to be dominant.  Only a deeply dominant and controlling woman will be able to capture this type.Now we come back to subs disappearing.  I believe subs are captured by both the physical and the mental (leaving aside the spiritual).  Subs adore Dommes physically and mentally. Online, a Domme only has access to the sub's mental adoration.  Physically she can use pictures to control, but pictures pale in comparison to her actual body in the sub's presence, and her physical control of him with restraints, blackmail, sexuality, and the rest.This is why it's hard for a Domme to capture a sub while he's remote online.  She needs him local and present, THEN she can really capture him.  I do speak for myself here.  Strategically, I think a very determined, dominant, clever Domme would best capture a remote guy by using pictures and pleasant sex-based representation of his slavery, while not kowtowing or accommodating him.  Make sure he's fine with being forced, he should say it in his profile.  Then when you've reeled him in locally, capture him and he's yours to train.  Just remember to keep his leash tied if he's really scared.  Consent still works here, have a safeword if you want.  I'd never say mine unless you were killing me in which case it wouldn't matter anyway.