5/5/2017 6:55:25 AM: The Leash Stirred from its reverie by fresh air hissing into nose tubes, hidden eyes opened to the darkness of the hood as the cabinet door holding it was opened. The bonds fixing it to the back of the display cabinet were removed and it was manacled while still inside the cabinet. With a firm pull, the plug filling its sheathed mouth yielded past its rubber lips leaving the mouth constricted into a tight 'O' in its absence. It felt a light tug as the plug fell and dangled from a length of chain from its collar. The plug, now acting as a lead to a leash, pulled on chain connected to its collar compelling it to step forward out of the cabinet. A hushed drone wooshed from earbuds isolated it from outside noise as its fettered legs walked in small, measured steps floating in the absence if sound in the direction the leash pulled. It was soon secured once again with arms above its head, twisting in its chains. Now at its destination, the lead was no longer necessary and would be inserted once more into it. The jaw inside the mask struggled against the unrelenting elasticity of the hood stretching the o-shaped mouth to once more accept the plug which was inserted slowly to allow air displaced by the plug to escape. With one final push, the plug settled in the sheath and remained firmly in place despite a sudden reflexive gag.

4/21/2016 9:46:45 AM: FAQWhat's in it for you?Simply put, I want you to suffer for me. I don't mean continued and ongoing abject terror and torture - that is not realistic nor sustainable. What I want from a gimp / doll is self-denial, and a complete surrender of personal agency to me. Wouldn't you become bored though?If I were to become bored that would be my fault as a doll trainer and dominant. I will continue to mold and reshape you throughout your enslavement. You will learn new tasks and uses and have your limits pushed. To do any less would be cruel, negligent and a misuse of the power given to me. I'm a slave. Can't you just do whatever you want to me?Taking control of another person is the riskiest thing one can ever do.  It is difficult for me to take seriously those who approach me with 'I have no rights. Do whatever you want to me.' This might work out fine for a few hours of a power exchange but this is not sufficient for long term ownership. There needs to be a discussion of expectations and responsibilities as well as planning for 'what if' scenarios.I have carefully reflected and accept the limitations that owning another person would bring into my life. Despite that, this is something that I very much would like to do if I were to find a suitable match. I expect the same level of self-examination before attempting to commit to this type of arrangement.  

3/7/2016 11:57:12 AM: There are some fundamental flaws with how CS works. One flaw I would like to address is the new user list. A person who is new to the site is invariably flooded with people calling 'dibs' on a new user. The result is an inbox flooded with low value, single line interaction that have little relevance to the ad posted. This seems especially bad for women who create a profile and see an inbox rapidly grow before the profile is finished causing them to be overwhelmed and then quit. My suggestion is to get rid of the new user list and replace it with keyword alerts. Kink is much more focused on specifics than general dating. Kink should have primacy over other considerations on a site such as this anyway - not 'beachcombing' and 'low carb'. Those notions have more consequence on traditional dating sites. Here one should expect to match kink first - then interact to see if other intangibles allow the relationship to progress.

12/2/2015 12:24:11 PM: One area of frustration I have encountered recently is the lack of understanding about the key differences between lifestyle and a 'hot weekend'. The pace, rhythm, and intensity are different in an ongoing control situation. In the process of taking ownership of another person, it is important to understand the type of conditioning to which the person responds. As an owner I can only exploit the control buttons that already exist within the mind of the submissive. I can uncover new ones as well - but I cannot create a control plan that's suitable for anybody and everybody. This takes time and careful observation. It usually takes me close to a year to 'go live' with a submissive / slave. This is not a process that happens overnight nor can be done impulsively.Sometimes, this collaborative approach in creating a control plan is seen as the dreaded 'topping from the bottom' however I feel this approach is necessary as both parties need to be fully aware of the needs of the other and the level of commitment expected. 

5/25/2015 5:06:47 PM: Gimps, dolls, and sex. Recently I was asked about a point I made in a previous journal entry regarding encasement. I wrote: The encasement maintains a permanent barrier between the owned and owner throughout use. This boundary mediates touch so that there is no direct contact on the owned. I don't often write about sex because once a conversation goes there, it can easily take a course in which sex is the sole motivation for this role. It is not. While I enjoy sex, I have had agreements with dolls which were service based and did not include any type of intimacy. In agreements in which sex was involved - I gain little from having someone dress up, have a sex, and then change out. That's much too casual for my needs. So I find it fair to emphasize the time not having sex since time spent not having sex is (for most of us) the greater part of the day. Also it isn't wise for me to chase off an asexual doll because that's not a problem for me. By the time we would meet - all expectations would be made clear and I would have a good idea of how the doll submits and what keeps her in the correct headspace.  I won't try to make the doll into something it is not. That is no fun for me and probably less so for the doll. The doll I use now feels very sexually connected when she is a doll and has two suits - one from libidex and the other from simon o which have sheaths installed in three key places.  This maintains a boundary and slightly diminishes her experience so that she feels that sex is something done to her, not with her or for her. This is an important point in the power exchange between us. I am a doll owner and a dom. As an owner I feel best when I guide, lead, and shape the best possible doll. As a dom I will make you accountable to these ends.