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A Dom is to the submissive as the potter is to clay. The potter molds the clay without changing the substance, so that it will serve a purpose by taking the of the potters desire. The shape of the pot determines what it will hold. And if the clay is handled improperly the crystal ations remember this, and the pot has imperfections. Protection, knowledge, love, discipline, trust, communication, understanding, these are like the Doms fingers in which They are to shape the submissive.
The embodiment of strength can sometimes be seen as a solid bastion that stays upright but also a willow that is able to bend in the wind without breaking. But we dont all start out strong and cant always stay that way forever. We need help from others to get there and support from others to stay standing. A bastion must be built up and supported. A willow must be taken care of and nurtured.
In my mind, strength lends great value to submission. Imagine, you being given an incredibly strong material (lets say a new type of clay to fit in the above quote) that when properly baked in the oven produced pottery that was impossible to shatter. A pot that does not shatter would be very valuable for the person wanting a pot. Similarly, a very strong submissive or slave, when offering them self to a master, is offering so much more than a weak one. But what of those of us that do not start out strong? Or those of us that were once strong but have been hurt and cracked? To them I mention the art of Kintsugi. Where a cracked or broken pot is repaired with gold to preserve the history of it and show that it is still beautiful.
For those that are interested and are the visual types, I do have pictures that show my face better than the one on this profile and I also have a cam. These things will only be shared with those that I feel a connection with. Fair bit of scammers and bots on this site so we will see where things go.
Lets start with what I am looking for in you. I am looking for a submissive that is a person capable of standing up for themselves when I am not around, but submissive when with me. In my eyes, submission means more when the submissive is a strong person capable and willing to submit to only those whom they think earn it. (Though at the same time, this does not justify treating strangers with disrespect unless they have shown they are not worth being polite to.)
Qualities I tend to look for are playfulness (being silly, making forts out of sheets and watching movies in them while cuddling), intelligence, and someone that is athletic. I love making me a good fort.
Typos dont bother me and while the chat speak variety of typing can on occasion be annoying, it isnt a deal breaker for me. People that spend time worrying about the little things in life never bother to fix the bigger ones, and I consider these to be some of the small things.
Now about me! Since I figure you want to know Im a real human as opposed to being some kind of alien robot stalker.
I discovered I was a dom through some online role play with a friend. I included some bondage in the scene we were role playing and she made a comment about it that perked my interest, so I look into the subject. Im still learning about the subject, but then it seems to be one of those where the learning never stops, just like my job. As far as typical interests go, the thing I am most passionate about is story. Regardless of the medium its told in, if I find a story that tugs at the heart strings, Ill pretty much devour it. I am a physically fit person, having played sports and done numerous activities like hiking (the picture being of one such hike), camping, sailing, soccer, etc. So ideally, Id really like to have someone that I can do outdoorsy stuff with. I have a musical background, having played percussion since elementary school and then doing a bit of choir in high school and college. I have a hell of a singing voice and have had a few people propose to me after hearing me (jokingly of course). I love animals. I am traveling for the next few years, but after that I plan to get a dog. As far as being establish, I have my own house, car, stable job, etc. I have gone to college but after three years, decided that it wasnt for me. I enjoy working more than studying and the gaming industry is an area where people are more concerned with what you can do rather than what you studied. Ultimately, I am the only kid in the family that didnt finish college and I make the most. My sexual preferences in the bdsm checklists provided on this site are not filled out, because I would prefer to get to know someones personality first before deciding if I want to have sex with them or not. I see it as pointless to offer my sexual interests to the public when this is the case. If you want to know, ask. Im a very open person. If anything I would like to make friends with submissives. Always good to be rich in friends and all that. Feel free to contact me if youd like. Im generally very good natured until I have a reason not to be. Oh yes, if you want a glimpse of my personality I will be randomly entering things in the journal whenever I feel like it so have fun.
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When such spiteful people take up swords to make their case, it is not the reason of their arguments that is being listened to. - a translated quote from one of my favorite authors, Fuyumi Ono
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Well! I went to New Zealand recently with my Dad. That was exciting. I've always been a fan of animals and nature and all that stuff. Now that I make enough that I can finally afford to travel, I'm glad that I took the time to see as much of the country as I could in a week. At some point, I may go back. But I have a number of other countries that I want to see first.
New Zealand is a perfect example of how humans introducing non-native species to an ecosystem can cause irreperable damage. They don't have any major predators over there and a lot of damage gets done to their native wildlife due to introduces species that aren't being put in check by something that will eat them.
Went to a zoo there and one of the employees said "this sounds weird coming from a conservationist, but please buy fur. Our fur trade comes from hunting non-native species and helps protect our ecosystem" |
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'Too picky for a sub' - I've heard this more often than I'd care to. Ok well, once is more than I'd care to hear it and I've heard it more than that. Honestly, do some people think that a sub shouldn't have standards? I mean honestly. The people that think this are insulting themselves by thinking that someone would have to lower their standards for them to be considered.
Subs that don't have standards or do have them and don't follow through with them get stuck in abusive relationships so for those of you that do have standards and stick to them, more power to you! Speaking from experience of course.
Met someone not too long ago that is remaining with a 'dom' that doesn't treat them right based on the hope that things will some day get better because they don't have the conviction to break up with someone that doesn't meat their standards.
Having criteria of what you're looking for is good! It means you've given thought to what would make you happy in a relationship and communicating that to others lets them know. And if they had a brain they'd bother to think that if they aren't compatible with you, it isn't going to be a very fun relationship.
It's good to have standards AND follow through with them. And avoid idiots. Man I so wish I had a Darwinism button. |
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Wow I haven't updated this in a while. So then! New job is not so new anymore but I still love it and all its glory. However, in February I bought myself a house! So I suppose all I have left on the list of things to do in my life is to replace the parts in the house that need fixing, then buy a dog and a boat, and if I am still single by the time all that is taken care of, all I need is someone to share my life with!
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Well I have arrived safely in Austin with only a few minor occurrences. Nothing too crazy but on the up side, oh my god my new job gives me wonderful benefits!
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I am moving to austin in a few weeks for a new job that I am getting.
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Been a while since I've made an entry here. I've spent the last year getting to know and care for a submissive girl and over the last few months it seems all communications between us have slowly shriveled up and died. *sighs* Oh well!
On the up side I have a stable, if not demanding job in this time of economic downturn which is always a positive thing. Lots of overtime, fair amount of money, no time to spend it!
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Ah yes, the bots have seemed to invaded this site as well. Well, not exactly bots per say, since the people that end up speaking to me are real but all they want is for me to get on their cam website and view them, not actually pursue a friendship or a relationship with them.
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So then, I just helped put to sleep a submissive that is having a rough time in her life. She hasn't had sleep in two days because her life is hitting the shit fan thingy. Well, I know for a fact she wasn't boring her because she's the type of person that will say stuff right to your face and I helped relax her enough to put her to sleep so go me *flex*
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Sortof mentoring someone once again though castlerealm is apparently down and I love that website for teaching purposes. it's like the bdsm textbook. That aside I'm going back to school and aiming for a physics degree while working for sony full time.
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No longer mentoring the girls i was in the past so i am free to teach someone else if anyone is wanting to have a mentor :P
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The compliments just....keep....coming! Thank you all!
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Started mentoring a girl about some of the basics of the lifestyle though in all honesty she's intelligent enough that I sorta just pointed out a few websites for her and she's soaking stuff up like a sponge. Sorta thankful that she's understanding it so well, but me not having to do anything as a mentor makes me feel like I'm doingit wrong in comparison to some of the other girls I've mentored in the past ^_^
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Got another one of those rare compliments about what I have put in my profile. Thank you for those of you that do this, reminds me that there is hope for the human race.
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So then, I finally decided to put my picture back up. I figure, there are so many predators on this sight and so many men that spam submissives with messages. That just isn't like me. I'm not willing to be a needle in a hay stack where someone has to sift through the crap to find something they want. Well, the two quotes in the start of the profile help show what kind of dom I am. Let's see how this works.
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Mm, well drama happens in life. So happens I have a friend whom is not very good at being a boyfriend, who was with a girl that wasn't all that great at being a girlfirend, and I somehow got caught in the middle of it. Oh well. All things are nice and good so on with life.
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The catch 22. Mm how I hate those. Much like the industry in which I work. Need experiance to get a job, need a job to get experiance. There are so many submissives that want an experianced dom. Suppose it's a good thing that those are the type that won't be having anything to do with Me. It's those few that I meet that tell me experiance doesn't decide how good of a dom someone can be that usually are more of a joy to talk with.
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So I met this submissive that expected a dom to pay for all of their expenses. Rent, clothing, food, utilities, etc. I was dumbstruck.
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Work work work. On the upside at least I have a job ^_^. Oh! Took an IQ test for the hell of it the other day and then did some research to follow it up. Pretty much said everything I thought it would. You can't mesure someones intelligence with a test (though I did score incredibly high)
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Why do people have to be so disgusting? I use to write stories as a hobby...and words cannot describe the feelings I have when I hear of things humans do to one another. Why? Seriously why do people have to take advantage of eachothers trust and then abuse it to the fullest?
The scientist in me says it's because of animal instincts, always wanting more than we have, wanting sex, wanting wanting wanting. But then what of the ones who give? There are also those that give themself to help others have a happier life. And no I'm not speaking of submissives. Fact is a lot of doms do things like community service.
I'm like that myself. I'm an Eagle scout and I take great pride in helping others. In one of the games I play I commited a good deal of time to forming a guild an dleading those people to make sure they enjoyed the gamemore.
Why to humans have to do this to each other?
My best whishes to Nikki's father in his search.
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I think I am going to take a break from trying to find a submissive and see if she comes to Me. Work is keeping Me too busy at the moment because we want to get this game out in two weeks and it's not looking like it's going to happen. I can't really devote time needed to find a sub that fits Me, let alone take time to talk with her if I am so busy with work. If you're out there feel free to message Me though and I'll try to keep in touch ^_^. Strangley I tend to find subs more willing to talk with Me when I'm on a voice chat. Something about my voice must be applealing. Probably the low bass rumble. Oh well, I'll have to remember that for the future when searching.
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Havn't had a break from work in about....30 some odd days I think. Game we are currently resting is nearing completion and we are putting in a lot of overtime into getting the thing up and running.
Lot of the people working on the title are all getting worn down. Myself included. Doesn't hlep that some of them are annoying as hell.
Two types of people that bug me, materialistic ones and the type that are incapable of talking through things.
Guy that sits a few stations to my left, spends all his money on his car. I get the feeling he doesn't like me either cause of the snide remarks he makes, but I don't much care because I refuse to lower myself to some punks level by acknowledging him.
The other one...got in a huge argument with a co worker over a card game they were playing at work and the rules involving what was going on. This is just an example of what she does but the dispute ended in her putting her cards away and sitting in a corner with the rule book while two other people played instead with their cards. She refused to communicate very well with the other player or listen to what they were saying. And it's a friggen card game! you'd think peopel would be a bit more civilized about it.
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Sub friend of mine was complaining about how the doms on some personal site she was on kept sending her what looked like a resume of their experiance...and the idea just makes my head hurt.
Seriously, what the heck? That's like says "Hi you should have a relationship based on love and trust and communication cause my phallic organ is this big!"
*mashes darwinism button*
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Good conversation with someone the other day. Well behaved girl, fun to talk to, good sence of humor. Hurt by men a good deal which is always a shame to see. Ah what I would give for a darwinism button. Just press it and all the stupid people fall over and die.
Hmmm, well I suppose if the stupid people were all dead we would have to find something else to collectivley complain about as a race. Oil works.
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Hmm, first journal entry where to start where to start. Bit of randomness is always good so, kerblah!
Now then with that accomplished, hmm, oh yes I get to hang out with friends while I have time off! had to take vacation from my job for legal reasons but hope to be back at it soon. Love it really. I get to play PS3 for a living, wonderful job.
I suppose most gamers don't actually enjoy the job, because it actually is a job and they don't expect it to be. Still, it's fun to try and intentionally break the game instead of playing it.
Well, enough randomness for today.
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| Age: 21 |
| Bournemouth,
Canada |
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