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| I'm starting to think what i want is a Type A personality with a sensual side vs. a Dom that 100% in this lifestyle
I see my Owner's glass half empty and I fill it, I take care of their Owner's needs sometimes before the Owner realizes what it is They want. I don't need words of praise (but of course I'd love to hear it:) ), the fact that their Owner is content and comfortable is praise enough. I don't need others to see that I'm submitting, the fact that Im is more then enough.
When my One tells me to come, I put down what I'm doing and go gladly hoping that I can provide some small thing to ease the comfort of the One. The light in the eyes of my Owner or the touch of my One's hand on my face is high praise and will please a my more then any award given. The first thing to enter a my mind when I wake is "what can i do to help Him today" and the last thing through my minds when I go to sleep is the joy that I have served well.
But I'm going to make you work for that kind of power for that I know I need a Sensual yet strict dom I'm a firm believer in training and discipline and communication. Earning my submission is not going to be easy but I promise you'll love the journey and the trust will be solid.
Communication is the key to any meaningful interaction. I agree with being sensitive and receptive to the needs a submissive has. I believe in seeing to it that you're able to fulfill these needs. A mutual desire to please results in a very strong bond and extremely pleasurable experiences.
Communication is everything. There is nothing, without it. It can be done in words, a certain look, the way someone carries themselves, the way people react to each other, sounds someone makes and the list goes on. Communication is even happening when your spanking me. I have felt all sorts of emotions when I'm being dominated- even when there are no words. Can you tell when a woman is responding properly. When someone isn't "getting something out of it", Do you still want to do it? There is a huge difference between someone being willing to "get into position and take it" and them responding to it and getting something out of it.
To me, if a session went well, when it is over I will cleeve to you and be on the brink of (or even in) tears of relief and joy. Maybe it can't happen every time-but it will, often. Even when Iam pleasuring you- I will enjoying doing it for you- I won't be merely "willing to do it" and sees it as a "chore" or "favor". A submissive puts her trust in a dominant not only to be interested in but also to be capable of fulfilling certain needs. If the dominant is stubborn or egotistical or simply doesn't care about those needs, the submissive is going to feel taken advantage of and abused. They want to hear what is going through someones mind. They take the time to make the right effort. A dominant will often know the wants or needs of a submissive more intimately than they themselves can know them. I want you to make every effort in guiding me the submissive not just toward being what I want, but toward self discovery.
A submissive that you want to have pleasing you isn't one you will force to do so- it's not one who you will "change"- it is one who deep down has that desire, to please you, she truly wants and desires it. Some people think that it's all about a submissive being a piece of clay for them to shape. While to some degree, that can be true.. I feel that a Dom is also there to open someones eyes not only to their faults but to their strengths. To help them deal with their flaws and make peace with the ones they can't change. To fully realize themselves in terms of not only the way they feel and respond to things, but to their strengths and positive individual characteristics as well. It seems to me that the latter parts of this are often "missed" or "skipped over".
I believe that a very important part of communication is being able to "feel" each other(if you will). Without touching or speaking. A dominant will often be known for having an all but uncanny sense of what the submissive wants or needs in any given moment. No communication is one of my weakness which i'm working on but would love to have a "Dom" to take the journey with. There is nothing more frustrating or impossible than dealing with someone who won't communicate. I refuse to even do it. Understand that it takes time for a submissive to trust someone and I do not expect for anyone to be an open book the first day. Or week. But if someone isn't willing to give themselves to me(not just their body), there is no use in dealing with the ongoing frustration and impossibility of the situation. There is no use in spending time with someone who doesn't allow themselves to (and work toward) being open you. Toward feeling comfortable with you and putting some trust in you. If she won't, you either haven't earned it or she just isn't going to. There's no use in trying to force it.. it'll only make her walls taller.
My promise to you and Us once there is a US:
I trust you to be as clear and honest and direct as you possibly can be about communicating your needs and desires in a BDSM relationship, as well as your realistic boundaries and limits. I trust you to work as hard on your own level of introspection and self-knowledge as I promise that I will be working to know myself and to communicate my needs transparently to you.This is what I need from you, and I want to hear in turn what you need from me. I need certain things to feel submissive, owned, cared for, appreciated, valued and loved.You need certain things to feel dominant, aggressive, in control, confident and sexy. If we communicate honestly and clearly, we can learn how to give each other these things and have a wonderful BDSM relationship and very hot play scenes. We can do this together. If this is truly what you want, then let's commit to taking the time and energy to learn each other's languages of dominance and submission. If we do it right, we'll have a whole lot of fun along the way. Oh and must like dogs :) and if you've made it through all this .. you understand a little piece of me
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8/19/15 5:44 PM
First meet u will be striped naked be inspected Then some bondage to see where I would need to start your training
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First meet u will be striped naked be inspected Then some bondage to see where I would need to start your training |
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"First meet u will be striped naked be inspected Then some bondage to see where I would need to start your training. Sound good?"
If one more "Fake ass wannabe Dom" tells me this Im going to scream.... |
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I am reminded that surrender to the process of meeting and connecting with your match is the ultimate commitment to finding it. Most people who know me would heartily agree I am a powerful force in my own universe. People either really love me or they really don't. My lust for life is either powerfully intoxicating to some or overwhelming and scary for others. There are few who would claim indifference. Everyone, including myself, once assumed I would play the Dominant behind closed doors. When I accidentally found that I was submissive, I was astonished. It took a long time for me to fully embrace my role in what I initially believed to be the weaker position. My deepest craving is to surrender totally to a man worthy of my devotion. A good submissive is an absolute treasure (as is a great Dom). Im looking to explore and be taken to new heights with the right Dom. "As a Dominant Sub, I need you to INSPIRE me to submit, not to insist upon it." |
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Im definitely a Vanilla girl w/ a side of kink. I know saying "yes sir, no sir" is not for me I dont want to be trained. I want to submit to you b/c I love you and you love me and we show it in our everyday actions. I want to lay at your feet b/c your my king. I dont want to feel awkward I prefer a natural transition |
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