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isstraightforwar

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From the outside I appear to be completely normal and to a certain degree I am. I am educated, I have a career, I dress well, I am a home owner and I love my family. My private life, however, has been a slow drift from vanilla to kink. I think that every relationship Ive had as an adult has had Ds elements, even before I realized it. I think that I have been a Dominant for a long time without having that title openly defined, until recently.

Over the last few years Ive really taken a hard look at what I want in life and I decided to actively seek exactly what I want. In the past, I just hoped that Id meet someone in the vanilla world who completes me. I didnt know how to find women who wanted to train and serve. I knew they existed, but they seemed inaccessible. I was dating and repeatedly being underwhelmed. I love the discovery phase of relationships, but I dont like coercion and I dont like the disappointment that comes from getting close to someone and then realizing that youre not sexually compatible. BDSM provides a plat where I can be myself, express my needs directly and hopefully find a partner whose needs compliment mine.

Im looking for a partner and a lover. Someone who has a life and doesnt need a man, but who does long for one. A strong woman who takes care of her body and mind. I would like a sub that admires in me the qualities that I believe set me apart. When I ren think, You only have one life to live, do what others are to lazy to do. Separate yourself from the pack. Make yourself the best you can be. I would like to meet a woman who has similar thoughts.

Im not all drive though. I love to relax and lounge. I particularly like stretching and massages, which I get regularly. I like TV, movies and music and I keep up with bleeding edge new music. I love technology and how it allows us to evolve beyond our physical limitations. I always have a project that Im tinkering on and I have quite a few computers running services in my home that provide entertainment and helpfulness. I love to travel and have covered much of Asia as well as a few other countries. I enjoy hiking, disc golf, scuba diving and pretty much anything active.

Id like to think of myself as a philosopher. I took quite a few philosophy classes in college- it was my supporting discipline. I am still a bit unclear how to define my beliefs, but Im surely some blend of a secular humanist, atheist and hedonist. One thing is certain though, I have little tolerance for the spread of faith. It is a dangerous thing that teaches people with weaker minds that they should pray for things to change in their life instead of working towards the change they seek. It angers me that there are men in this world that are considered experts, who prance around in robes with jewel encrusted golden staffs. These people have no insight, yet make decrees that millions of people follow. I think humanity would be in a better place if people made decisions based on logic instead of superstition.

My ideal woman would be a fit professional. I have a very logical and pragmatic mind. I enjoy women who share those qualities, but I also enjoy more artistic types that compliment me and help me better express my creative qualities. I prefer women who like women and a perfect situation for me would be to establish a strong bond with a partner and then to bring in another friend to create a small house. I am looking to take things one step at a time though. Its hard enough for me to find someone who is my type, let alone two women. I have no interest in men. I have gay male friends, and I have no problems with male homosexuality, but I am not looking for a sexual relationship with any men. I have a saying that my penis is already one too many penises in the bedroom. Im interested in observing the dynamic of two women, in lovelust, under my strict oversight. I like the idea of being the catalyst of my lovers bonding. My heart withers a bit when I see the compassion and caring that two women can share. I am caring and compassionate, but my energy is very different.

I am a Dominant, but not a sadist (in the Marque de Sade sense). I like putting my lovers under duress and I do like to punish, but I do not want to harm my sub. I look at my sub as my prize, as my of affection, as my friend and missing puzzle piece. In that light, I want all play to be completely consensual. I require safe words and the practice of them. I hope to push boundaries, but I do not smash through them with disregard for my lover. I can be quite particular about things and my past subs have liked to learn my quirks. I am open to Masterslave, Daddybaby, DD and TPE dynamics, but outside of the house I expect my partner to be responsible. I look at BDSM as an escape and a lifestyle, but I want to play with responsible adults.

Ive met few quality women through online BDSM dating, but I have met some. Most I believe are simply looking for attention and whether they contact me first or I contact them, it is clear that they arent engaged. If you are going to mail me please expect to have a conversation. I will not waste your time, please dont waste mine. Online communication with someone new is particularly difficult because without being able to see someones physical response I cannot gauge how my language is coming across and therefore I am unable to adjust. I am likely to start a conversation with mostly vanilla talk accented with hints of kink. I will leave it to you to pick up on the hints and show me when youre comfortable switching to more interesting topics. I would rather start too soft than too hard.

I am a Dominant. I have a deep masculine voice. I am tall, muscular, lean and lanky. I have huge hands. I have a dead sexy stare. I am a talented lover, but can only provide for lovers who are willing to go on the ride with me. I do not wear mascara and I dont have a silly name for myself like Lord Vampire Breath. Those things are purely cosmetic. I am a Dominant because it seeps from my soul out through my pores. It is undeniable.


My user name should have been isstraightforward, I am certainly not for war!

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6/11/2012 6:14:13 PM

On email etiquette:

 

1) If you can't form a proper sentence- don't mail me.

2) If you don't know how to continue a conversation- don't mail me.

 

I really don't mind short introduction e-mails, but after I reply, don't continue with the brevity. It's never fun to write a paragraph (or more) to someone only to get back a poorly formed quasi-sentence or two that is more of a conversation terminator than a response that continues the conversation. Aside from it being insulting, it is an indicator that you have poor communication skills and I am only interested in potential partners that are good communicators.

 

I can't believe how frequently this happens. It's mind-boggling to think that someone read my profile and thinks that that type of communication would work with me at all.


12/20/2011 5:21:33 PM
On being a single Dom, It's a really lonely feeling to be a single Dom. It seems like you're at the bottom of Mt. Everest, missing something, and you need to summit to retreive your lost piece. It's basically like being a single vanilla guy x10. I need to find someone that meets all of my vanilla needs and then some. It is particularly frustrating because I know that I am a loving Dom. I have had successful relationships with this dynamic. I know that I can give a sub a wonderful experience. I'm not interested in harm or injury, but concentual exploration. They say that there is someone for everyone and aside from not believing in cosmic BS, I'd like to think it's true. I hope there's a sub somewhere at the top of my Mt. Everest, looking down through the clouds longing for her missing piece. Dear single sub please show me that you are there- I will climb.

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yourcapturedpet
 
 Age: 25
  Virginia