Collarspace

A Dom is to the submissive as the potter is to clay. The potter molds the clay without changing the substance, so that it will serve a purpose by taking the of the potters desire. The shape of the pot determines what it will hold. And if the clay is handled improperly the crystal ations remember this, and the pot has imperfections. Protection, knowledge, love, discipline, trust, communication, understanding, these are like the Doms fingers in which They are to shape the submissive.

The embodiment of strength can sometimes be seen as a solid bastion that stays upright but also a willow that is able to bend in the wind without breaking. But we dont all start out strong and cant always stay that way forever. We need help from others to get there and support from others to stay standing. A bastion must be built up and supported. A willow must be taken care of and nurtured.

In my mind, strength lends great value to submission. Imagine, you being given an incredibly strong material (lets say a new type of clay to fit in the above quote) that when properly baked in the oven produced pottery that was impossible to shatter. A pot that does not shatter would be very valuable for the person wanting a pot. Similarly, a very strong submissive or slave, when offering them self to a master, is offering so much more than a weak one. But what of those of us that do not start out strong? Or those of us that were once strong but have been hurt and cracked? To them I mention the art of Kintsugi. Where a cracked or broken pot is repaired with gold to preserve the history of it and show that it is still beautiful.

For those that are interested and are the visual types, I do have pictures that show my face better than the one on this profile and I also have a cam. These things will only be shared with those that I feel a connection with. Fair bit of scammers and bots on this site so we will see where things go.

Lets start with what I am looking for in you. I am looking for a submissive that is a person capable of standing up for themselves when I am not around, but submissive when with me. In my eyes, submission means more when the submissive is a strong person capable and willing to submit to only those whom they think earn it. (Though at the same time, this does not justify treating strangers with disrespect unless they have shown they are not worth being polite to.)

Qualities I tend to look for are playfulness (being silly, making forts out of sheets and watching movies in them while cuddling), intelligence, and someone that is athletic. I love making me a good fort.

Typos dont bother me and while the chat speak variety of typing can on occasion be annoying, it isnt a deal breaker for me. People that spend time worrying about the little things in life never bother to fix the bigger ones, and I consider these to be some of the small things.

Now about me! Since I figure you want to know Im a real human as opposed to being some kind of alien robot stalker.

I discovered I was a dom through some online role play with a friend. I included some bondage in the scene we were role playing and she made a comment about it that perked my interest, so I look into the subject. Im still learning about the subject, but then it seems to be one of those where the learning never stops, just like my job. As far as typical interests go, the thing I am most passionate about is story. Regardless of the medium its told in, if I find a story that tugs at the heart strings, Ill pretty much devour it. I am a physically fit person, having played sports and done numerous activities like hiking (the picture being of one such hike), camping, sailing, soccer, etc. So ideally, Id really like to have someone that I can do outdoorsy stuff with. I have a musical background, having played percussion since elementary school and then doing a bit of choir in high school and college. I have a hell of a singing voice and have had a few people propose to me after hearing me (jokingly of course). I love animals. I am traveling for the next few years, but after that I plan to get a dog. As far as being establish, I have my own house, car, stable job, etc. I have gone to college but after three years, decided that it wasnt for me. I enjoy working more than studying and the gaming industry is an area where people are more concerned with what you can do rather than what you studied. Ultimately, I am the only kid in the family that didnt finish college and I make the most. My sexual preferences in the bdsm checklists provided on this site are not filled out, because I would prefer to get to know someones personality first before deciding if I want to have sex with them or not. I see it as pointless to offer my sexual interests to the public when this is the case. If you want to know, ask. Im a very open person. If anything I would like to make friends with submissives. Always good to be rich in friends and all that. Feel free to contact me if youd like. Im generally very good natured until I have a reason not to be. Oh yes, if you want a glimpse of my personality I will be randomly entering things in the journal whenever I feel like it so have fun.