LOL... Some "Dominant" men are so pathetic. I just had some ignorant fucktard try and tell me that it was the natural position of the man to dominate the woman, and that I needed to submit to him. I am like dude!

Is there a single man out there that can actually deny the supremacy of the woman? Even if a woman proclaims to be a submissive or slave... there is not a single thing that a man can do to her without her permission. In doing some of these things, if a man did it without the woman's consent, he would be sent to prison for decades! Seriously.

The only way that a man can dominate a woman is because she lets him, and has the power and authority to rescind any permission. And since she is letting him, the man is in fact only doing what he is allowed to do by the woman...

And before you say "It works the same both ways" think again. Men are controlled by their dicks. A woman can get most any man to do her bidding by controlling access to her vagina.

Look dudes.... let me make this as simple as I can.

Just because you may have worn a pair of your girlfriends panties doesn't mean I will be interested in you. I HAVE STANDARDS. First standard is that you can read... like read my profile and read my entire journal.

Just because you wore panties once, and expecting me to want you is like saying that you played t-ball when you were 4 years old, and you expect me to put you in as a starting pitcher for the World Series. IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN!

I have recently suffered a great disappointment. I was approached by a girl (name withheld) who wished to enter into my training to become a woman to live full time as a woman.

She was preeminently passable in her appearance, and as always that is a huge necessity for my training.

However she seriously lacked courage, as well as both the mental and the emotional strength that is required to accomplish my training.

Instead of facing challenges that I placed in her path, she simply turned aside and ‘ran away to sulk’.

This all happened on-line. If you cannot survive simple on-line trials, how on earth do you expect to survive the overwhelming harshness you will face in real life training and living?

When you fail to use your actual picture in your profile, and use someone else's picture to give the impression that it is you, then you are a liar.

When you fail to use your own picture, and display only pictures of scenes you would like to participate in, you are a selfish coward.

If you fail to use any picture at all, then you are just a plain coward.

If you use your own picture but block out your eyes for fear of being discovered, you are a moron. Anyone who you knew found your picture here, would have no reason to judge you... DUH... They are here on this site!.

I do not accept Liars, Selfish Cowards, or Morons into my training.

I realize that there are a tremendous amount of fake dominant women on this site. you know the ones, they first thing out of their mouth is "Give me tribute" or some such garbage.

But I ask you, where are the true submissives? There are as many fakes out there as there are fake Dominants! You you know the ones, the first thing they do is see your picture then beg to be your submissive without even looking at your profile to discover what you are about.

That is so insulting, and any real Dominant would never accept someone who did not at least take time to discover who the person is whom they wish to submit to.

>>> FAIR WARNING <<<

Ok people; let’s think about this for a minute.

One of the core principles of this lifestyle is trust.

In prior posts I have addressed people who do not want to post their pictures, and their foolish belief about that.

Even worse are those who post fake pictures. Let’s say that you say something that really grabs my attention. We talk, and decide to meet in person.  When you arrive, and you do not look like your pictures, am I supposed to simply forget about it? If you post a fake picture, this means only one thing. YOU ARE A LIAR! I do not associate with liars. Even after you initially address me to show me your real picture, even if this is before we arrange to meet, you are still a liar and will be immediately rejected by me.

There is a tremendous amount of illogical thinking out there in regards to putting your photo on this site or talking about yourselves.

The standard excuse is that people are afraid that people they know would see the pictures and discover their desire to experience this alternate lifestyle.

I say this, if your friends and family are so straightlaced, why would they even be coming to this site in the first place?

If your friends come to sites like this just to look for you and discover something about you that they feel is illicit or immoral, then you need new friends.

However if a friend DOES come to this site on their own, and they discover you, perhaps you both have something in common and should share this new commonality. Who knows where it might lead?

So instead of using this stupid excuse simply admit to yourself, and the rest of the world, that you're either a chicken-shit-wannabe looking only to boost your kink level, or you feel that you are fucking ugly to show your face.

>>>Attention<<<

To all you brainless idiots out there. For years I have been patient with you illiterate morons who cannot read or are so discourteous as to not take a moment to read over a profile to see if we are compatable in the minimum. In my patience I have simply deleted your inane letters. From now on I will report these letters as spam.  Hopefully this will get your accounts closed by the moderators eventually.

So for all you idiots who write to me asking me to cut off your testicles, or blackmail you, or play with your boyfriend, or change your diapers, this was your last warning. Write me and be declaired a spammer.

If you wish to improve your chances of attracting a Domme like me, you really need to rework your profiles.

I finally discovered a profile that is not one bit self centered and provides excellent details about this submissive that is essential for consideration as a long term submissive.

I will not post the name here. That is in violation of the TOS. However I have asked this submissive's permission to give out the screen name and it has been given.

So if you want to get the screen name, send me a message that says. "Please provide me with the profile screen name." No extra words, just that phrase.

Mistress Vera

I have been true to my word. Every person who sends me a message and does not appear to have even read my profile and journal to discover the proper way to approach me is being reported as a spammer.

I have been on this site for a while now. Since then I have met some wonderful people and a quantity of people, beyond measure, who simply have no clue what this lifestyle about.

I have seen a plethora of wannabe Dom/Dommes and subs who just don’t get it.

Here is a general guide for those of you who wish to understand about this lifestyle.

This lifestyle is extremely selfish for the ignorant practitioners.  The whit less ones think that this is all about them. The Dominants believe that the submissives are there only for their pleasure, and the submissives believe that the dominant is only there to fulfill their fetish. Sometimes the mutual need is filled even in this ignorance, but that doesn’t mitigate the selfishness.

IT IS NOT ALL ONLY ABOUT YOU! You princesses and wannabe dommes get over the idea that this is only about you and your desires. This whole lifestyle and the true practitioners are about mutual satisfaction. Each person fulfills a need the other has. If you don’t get over yourself, you will never find a true long lasting submissive. You subs out there, avoid these types like the plague. They will only satisfy themselves and forget about you leaving you feeling empty.

Submission is a gift that is given freely to a dominant. It is never taken.

For a truly successful and fulfilling D/s relationship you must consider your partners desires. Why would a Dom beat you bloody as you desire when he is only about bondage sex? What is in it for him? Why would a submissive stay tightly bound for days on end, when she only wishes to crawl around barking like a dog?

People, before you proclaim yourself, try to educate yourselves about what you wish to get into. Don’t ruin your life or someone else’s in your ignorance.

This message is to one specific moron (name witheld). Has his profile hidden. Claims I don't respond to his messages. I have... For this person;

If you do not receive it maybe it is because you are an idiot and do not realize that you read the message on January 6th this year, at 9:28PM according to the read mail page... in case you don't remember, here is the content and this new profile of yours will be blocked as well, because it is also hidden from my viewing it.

Your profile is hidden so that I cannot see it. I have simply ignored you before, now because your being so insolent, you get blocked permanently. Mistress Vera

Have fun you idiot.

Because of a recent message, from a hopeful and quite serious though unacceptable submissive, I was reminded of a test for sincerity that I used to have, some years ago in this site. He almost passed it and he was rewarded with a response from me for his obviously sincere efforts.

I was inspired to go back and review my journal entries and I came upon this little pearl of wisdom that I wrote some years ago, and today it bares repeating so here it is (yes copied and pasted)

Good lord. You all need to learn what passable means.

If you look like you just stepped from the pages of Chippendales your not passable.

If you look like you just won the Mr Olympia contest, your not passable.

If you look like you've spent most of your life pumping iron, your not passable.

if you look like Michelle Obama, Janet Reno, or Hilllary Clinton, your not passabe.

however if you look like Barack Obama, we might be able to work with that. He looks like a pussy anyway.

I say.. Thank God for the e-mail quick preview feature. Helps me screen so many e-mails.

If you get your message as being deleted unread... Maybe it is because you did not have the courtesy to read my profile and journal before contacting me. Since this is the case, then why should I extend the courtesy of reading your pathetic e-mails?

I just had the most tremendous laugh I have had in such a long time. A sub male... 6'0" wighing 220 lbs... Sends me pictures of a girl maybe 5'6" and about 110-120 lbs. He said that it takes him all day long to look like that, and wondered if he was passable enough.

You know, I believe him. I bet it does take all day to lose 6inches in height, and lose 100 lbs. And it also requires a good skilled surgeon who would risk his career, to mutilate a body that drastically in a days time.

What is it with people on this site?

Just because your girlfriend put you in a dress 5 years ago, or you had lipstick on your mouth a few months ago, does not mean that you are ready to be transformed into the semblence of a woman, or even capable of passing as one.

If it was as simple as putting on a dress and makeup, you could put makeup and a dress on a baboon, and put it up as playboy centerfold.

Additionally, 95% of passability is in the face. I mean you couldn't make Brad Pitt look any more like a woman than you could Hillary Clinton look like one, or teach Rosanne Barr how to sing the national anthem. So if you want me to even consider you for training, send me face shots without makeup. I have so many morons asking me if they could pass but they send me pictures with their faces blocked out. I am like WTF?

There are a few Domme's, on this site, who seek someone who is serious about their desire to submit, and I am one of those. There are also a plethora of wannabe submissives who have no idea what seriousness is.

While initially communications is on-line, we do not expect submissives to spend 100% of their lives sitting here waiting for us to pay attention to them. On the other hand, we DO expect a serious attitude.

Today I am prepared to wash my hands of one of these submissives who proclaimed a serious attitude, but was disingenuous.

Her claim was that in her communications she did not want to respond with half assed written letters.

I appreciated this, but on the other hand, if in 9 days, you cannot find even 15 minutes to write a semi-coherent letter... how serious can you be?

She professed that she was interested in a 24/7/365 situation... in her correspondence, she could not even spend the time that would equate to 1 day in every 2.5 YEARS. How can I expect someone to be serious about spending 24/7/365, when they cannot even be serious for 1 day out of 864...

I have become fond of several submissives in this site, both male and female, over the years, and some have just pissed me off.

Beware I am a cold hearted bitch. If you cross me, I can quite easily toss you into the trash can, as easily as if I were tossing a dirty diaper, and never look back.

A point of clarification. A lot of people seem to think that my question about the origin of the term "two bits" came about when referring to a quarter, is my test for contacting me. Actually the test was created much earlier in time, on and involve much earlier journal entries.

I make this clarification in respose to a loser who wrote to me that he answered my question about the two bits. Never mind the fact that he only answered one part of the question, and his answer was incorrect, and whined about why I would not accept him as my submissive.

Mistress Vera,

You have provided that puzzle to solve as a means to contact you.  I wish to bypass the puzzle and make direct contact.  I'm truly able to completly serve upon your commands.  You are wildy intelligent and will hopefully find the best suitor.  I realize you're very strict and seek only the top.

Even before he tells me that he is able to serve me and my commands, he violates my directions. He trys to get me to do his bidding by allowing him to "bypass" the test for contacting me. What a way to prove your unworthiness right up front. At least he spared me some time. He also earned this response from me.

You claim that you are truly able to serve my commands, yet even with my first command, you fail. You want it YOUR way. YOU want to bypass my commands for YOUR benefit. Get real.

I have a tick for dommes who need sometimes to feel like real women. If you want to be my pet or my slave and you feel like washing my dishes on your knees before you get me a beer, write me back. If you have a sissy  wimpy cucky we can train him together. Then I will spank you both. I am a bull 9 inches. I have 12 tatoos and I drink 1 case beer a day. I want you to write me back. I can see the submission in your eyes. Just be yourself gurl.

LOL I had to laugh at his absurdity...

Vera

I realize that it has been a while since I posted my moments of wisdom, or any witticisms, but I have been dreadfully busy and I have recently been lacking those moments of serendipitous clarity that often produces my thinking. Perhaps I have simply not been stimulated enough on the proper receptors.

But lets be real about some things. If you live outside of the USA (США) how do you possibly anticipate serving me? For that matter, if you live outside of the state of Arkansas, the same question applies.

One thing that I have made abundantly clear to everyone, I demand sincerity. I have a test for each supplicant to endeavor to complete. One option is financial, and the other is a simple task. Both are designed to show sincerity. Failure to accomplish your choice of options will simply result in your attaining the status of loser.

If you live outside of the country or outside of Arkansas, you MUST be able to spend each and every weekend here in Arkansas. That means arriving before 5:00 PM on Friday and departing after 11:59PM on Sunday night. If you cannot do this kangaroo, then do not contact me. If you claim to be able to do this, you will be tested on your ability to be here that frequently.

On my next to final note at this musing… if you are married… I feel that a marriage is a sacred trust that is entered into by a man and a woman. I do not care how open your relationship is. I do not care if your spouse accepts, understands or even encourages your serving a Dominatrix. This behavior outside of the bonds of marriage is absolutely reprehensible to me. I consider it Anathema to a healthy and functional life. Think about it, if you cannot hold your marriage vows as sacrosanct, how will you possibly be able to make and keep a vow to a Dominatrix? If you are married, you need to explore this with your spouse, not looking elsewhere for fulfillment. If you still cannot be fulfilled by your spouse, then get a divorce and engage in some serious introspection.

Now for the final point…If you did not understand some of the words in this entry or if you had to use a dictionary to look up some of the words, then you need not bother contacting me. But then again, if you did not understand some of the words, I do not really expect you to understand the concept of not contacting me.

Mistress Vera

The Fine Art of Submission

I find it incredible how many people on this website do not even begin to understand the concept of submission, yet claim to offer that very thing which they do not understand.

The dictionary definition for submission – The state or quality of being submissive; the acknowledgement of inferiority or dependence; humble or suppliant behavior (asking earnestly and submissively); meekness; resignation; obedience.

That is pretty clear what submission is, and what it means to submit to someone. In recent days, I have been overwhelmed by the number of “sub males” and “dom males” who have offered themselves to me in submission from merly being a spanking boy to total control of every aspect of their lives. For the “dom males” they appear to simply be confused, not knowing what they are.

In order to separate the wheat from the chaff so to speak, I enacted a test to determine who was serious, or who was simply a player/fraud. This test consisted of two options if you wish to know these two options, simply offer yourself to me humbly and with the gravest of intentions.

The response to this test is usually “Prove to me who you are, and then I will prove to you that I am serious.” This is the crux of the entire problem with all of these so-called “men.”

In older times of the world, knights and other supplicants would offer their allegiance to a king or queen. They would do this the truest definition of submission. They have acknowledged the fact that they are inferior to the person they submitted to, with the intention of surrendering even their life if needed, and in so many cases, actually giving their life for the king or queen they served. When the knight knelt before the sovereign, and offered themselves in servitude, the sovereign would often ask the supplicant to prove their worthiness to serve the sovereign. The knight or supplicant never asked the sovereign to prove their worthiness. The act of offering their submission was proof enough that the king or queen was worthy. If any supplicant ever did question the worthiness of the sovereign, I would guess that their lives did not last much longer than it took to drag them out into the square and chop off their head, or some other efficient and suitably gruesome method of execution.

Years ago, I submitted myself to my country. I offered my life, if required, to defend my country and the people who lived here. This is an act of submission. I did not ask my country to prove to me that it was worthy of my service, but I was asked if I was worthy to serve.

One of the first things learned in basic training was the hierarchy of military needs. At the very top of the list, the number one thing that we needed to understand, “The needs of the Air Force” these came first in all consideration. Nothing superseded this. The second on the list of this hierarchy was the Mission. The list continued, and at the bottom level, the very lowest echelon of this list of hierarchy, was the needs of the individual.

Yes, an individual had many liberties while in the military, and as long as the liberties did not conflict with the hierarchy, everything when smoothly. Once there was a conflict of interest, the individual paid the penalty, ranging from a simple fine, to reduction in rank, to dismissal from the service, to imprisonment, and in the case of treason…death.

Today we have so many young men and women who serve in the military, and I pray for all of those who offer to put themselves in harms way to defend our freedoms. Each and every one of these people have a far better understanding of true submission than anyone who has contacted me on this website, to offer themselves in submission to me.

The very fact that you offer yourself to me is your proof that I am worthy of your submission to me. No other proof of my superiority is required. No other proof is required that I am worthy of your submission.

With the exception of 4 or 5 Domme women, I have not initiated contact with a single person from this website. Yet, with the literally hundreds of messages I have received, the supplicants, when asked to prove their veracity, have attempted to turn the tables and have me prove my own worth. This questioning is proof enough that you are not worthy to serve me. If you initiate contact, yet cannot offer yourself in submission without understanding the nature of submission, go elsewhere. You will be tested, and failure is failure. Naming me as your goddess, your queen, your mistress, and then questioning my worthiness, requiring that I prove myself to you is not an act of submission, and is unacceptable.

To another matter, there have been requests (in politeness, I will call them requests, although they are usually very vile and vitriolic in their words) by several “dom males” for me to submit to them. I offer you who do this, since it is you who initiate contact, and you who make the request, I require you to prove your worthiness for me to submit to you. This is not in contradiction to what I said earlier. I am not a supplicant to serve you. I am not seeking to suborn myself to you. I do not acknowledge your superiority to me (refer to the definition of submission above). If you wish for me to submit to you utterly you must first prove that you are superior to me. I have submitted myself to one man, and if you wish my submission, you must at least equal or supersede his worthiness. If you are interested in proving your superiority, feel free to contact me and find out the 3 things you must do to receive my complete and utter submission.

Thank you for your time

Mistress Vera

One thing that people need to know about me is that I have a serious intolerance for people who presume too much. Call it a character flaw on my part. People who presume to add me to their favorites without asking my permission have already been blocked, and those who do so in the future will be blocked.


If you are so interested and so admire me, You should contact me before presuming that you have the pleasure of fleas adding me to your favorites. Now, you will never have the chance...

Another thing. Why would a "dom" male presume to contact a Domme Female with expectations that she would throw herself at his feet and grovel for his attention? That sort of thinking simply proves the point about men in my profile.

V